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earthypisces
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From: Greenville, South Carolina
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posted May 12, 2014 11:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for earthypisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Does anyone see anything indicating tension in this synastry chart?

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deep_waters
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posted May 13, 2014 04:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for deep_waters     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Neptune gives a clue here. You have many Neptune aspects in your synastry-chart. Neptune is the planet of imagination, illusions and delusions. Since you have mercury (logic) – Neptune (emotions, illusions) aspects communication can be troublesome.
You have your moon in the 6th house:
- Does your mother work for health/medical service or for a social institution?
- Is she a workaholic or a very critical person?

You mother has an 8th house moon. She is probably a person who is controlled about her emotions...

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KingofCups
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posted May 13, 2014 05:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello,

@deep_waters: Correct me if I'm wrong, because I'm still learning, but wouldn't Mercury Sextile Neptune be a good thing in Synastry? I realize that Neptune can cause a lot of problems in relationships, but I also feel like it can be helpful in cases of an aspect as easy as the Sextile. I would think it to mean that he makes her more creative and encourages her imagination, whereas she gives a logical balance to his imaginative nature. There may also be a psychic connection. The Neptune Squares, on the other hand, probably do pose a problem, so I can see where you're coming from with that. It's just the aspect with Mercury that I'm not sure I agree with you on.

@earthypisces:
These are the problems that I see in this relationship:

Your Sun Opposite Her Mars: The two of you are always competing and feel the need to assert your own personal supremacy. You each want to prove yourself better than the other. This aspect also makes you focused on your independence from each other, which is probably bad in a mother-son relationship, since you probably didn't have the option to be independent from her until very recently and found the dependency aggravating.

Her Moon Opposite Your Mars: She feels you to be insensitive to her emotions. Either that, or she feels like you overreact to her feelings. The decisions you two make while together are often based on personal bias rather than an objective approach. You probably end up arguing a lot, because there seems to be touchiness involved. A lot of times you act on instinct and argue beyond reason, and matters tend to get a little out of hand. She finds you too aggressive. You probably think her too demanding and sensitive (although she has her Moon in the Eighth House of Aquarius, so I find it hard to see her as particularly sensitive; she's probably at least somewhat distant, which may make it hard for you to understand her).

Her Mercury Square Your Mars: It seems as though there is much aggressive debate between the two of you that is oftentimes irrational from your side and other times unecessarily instigated by your mother being critical of or nagging you. You both tend to feel as though you're being attacked, and due to some of the other aspects, you in particular heavily feel the need to defend yourself (although she does as well, just to a lesser extent).

Her Sun Square Your Venus: Your value system, your emotions, and your emotional beliefs disagree with your mom's outlook on life and way of living in general. You find her to be too controlling and bossy. You may also feel as though she thinks she's always right. Annoyed by being forced to do things by her, you may try to gain the upper hand by playing mind games and acting in passive-aggressive ways. You feel as though she takes you for granted, that no matter how hard you try to please her, she will never be happy with you and never think that you are good enough. And to an extent, that may be true.

Venus Square Venus: Your emotional outlooks and personal tastes vary greatly, and they are probably conflicting in nature. You find it very difficult to agree on simple things because your preferences are so different. Your senses of fashion, interests, the way you talk, and the way you handle finances are all different. You find it difficult also to please one another because you don't understand the likes and dislikes of the other. They feel unnatural to you.

Her Sun Square Your Uranus: There is a great instability in your relationship. When you two interact, there's always the chance that something very unexpected happens to upset the both of you. She finds you to be rebellious and dislikes that about you. However, this rebelliousness does inspire her to rethink her views on independence and individuality. You have brought great change to her life and probably still do and will in sudden ways.

Your Mars Square Her Neptune and Her Venus Square Your Neptune: I group these two together because both of you seem to have a similar problem with each other because of these. She expects you to live up to her ideals about men, especially where assertiveness, drive, any stereotypically manly things are concerned, and you expect her to live up to your ideals about women, especially as far as her emotional attitudes, fashion sense, and financial decisions go. Due to the former aspect, you will probably get frustrated by her because she fails to live up to your ideals. She will try her best to live up to your ideals, but when she realizes that that's impossible, she'll start to become somewhat evasive, which will frustrate you further. You want answers up front, but she has no answers to give you and finds your anger irrational, and so, because she doesn't know how to confront you, she may just try to avoid you altogether. Due to the latter aspect, it's possible that she has issues trusting you. You may promise her more than you are able to actually deliver, and she probably gets frustrated because you don't stick to everything you say, even if it isn't your fault. You may think that she doesn't respond to reason, that she has a hard time seeing things for what they are, and because of this, you may also start to avoid her, which will frustrate her. As you can see, this creates a conflict not only in the relationship, but also within both people because you want answers but are hesitant to get them because you fear that any conversation will only lead to irrational arguing; she feels almost the same way.

Hope this helps

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earthypisces
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posted May 15, 2014 04:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for earthypisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
wow, it's actually kind of disturbing how accurate that is...

Thank you!

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KingofCups
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posted May 15, 2014 05:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm glad it resonated
Would you mind going into a little bit more detail about the accuracy of it though? It allows me to learn from my reading. Thanks!

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earthypisces
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From: Greenville, South Carolina
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posted May 16, 2014 09:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for earthypisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by KingofCups:
I'm glad it resonated
Would you mind going into a little bit more detail about the accuracy of it though? It allows me to learn from my reading. Thanks!

Absolutely. Was going to do that originally, but I didn't have the time. Will point some things out when I get the time later tonight.

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