posted May 18, 2014 11:59 PM            

Q: What is the best way to deal with J and strengthen the relation?

posted May 19, 2014 12:31 AM            

My q.
what am I meant for on this earth like what's my purpose what lesson.

you know what I mean like OPrah Knows her purpose so do teachers they know their purpose and a doctor know what their purpose is and always known it

.... but I feel like I am stuck. I have literally been doing the exact same thing the last 10 years maybe a new job maybe a new apartment maybe a new boy but the methods are always the same. I always have to go on eharmany or match. I always end up a job don't pay what I should be makinng. I don't seem to have any good friends here in Chicago and I'm always stuck in jobs with the people are not like minded.

when is this going to break from me when will I be surrounded by like minded people so I can make them my friends? when will I be paid when I'm owed instead of just taking the job because I need to pay bills even though they are very good jobs? when is a guy going to be like I really want to be with her I like her she's got a lot of things tell her I need for my body.

posted May 19, 2014 02:00 AM            

It's making me a bit melancholy to think on it. I recognize and accept with 100% responsibility that A, the man(I recently asked another question about A, a girl), is not someone I can spend my life with no matter how much I love him. I recall the way his dark eyes would watch me when I undressed and redressed as casually as I thought it should be. He is my lover so why not? I wonder what went though his head. He loves me. I love him. We are not good together. The end for now.

J, the only argument we've had so far is if the drive from LV(where we live) is 8 or 9 hours from NorCal(where I drove from last night to now). It wasn't anything serious. J is my classmate. I've been hanging out and talking with him since beginning of May.

I am more compatible with J in terms of life goals and personality. I like J. J seems to like me. I'm asking advice on how to secure this relation with J. I am reluctant to say friendship because I am not friend zoning him. I want him to be my new best friend, as in I would like to open up to him and expose my inner self to this person, rather than lose out on making the most of this relation.

J is a first in many ways. He is positive and self motivated, something that definitely lacked in my past two relations. He seems more guarded than the other two as well. I don't want to ruin it, which is why I'm asking about it.

Idk if that's cleared up what you meant or if you meant something else when you made this post? Please let me know.

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Ok here's the thing...it's not about expressing or talking or demanding what you expect Or what you want or how you want to proceed in this relationship because that person just goes by their way. they are selfish with a victim mentality so they want ur sympathy and even pity from you. it is like trying to convince a crazy person that they're crazy. no matter how many times you said you are not getting in this, it's not going to work. they don't understand that you don't want to give your side your opinion or help some none of that...... it's not going to help no matter how many times you explain that.

your part were you at fault is that you entertained it for so long. So there's just no expecting anything different from you.

to correct it's not going to be like pulling off a bandaid you're going to have to constantly pulling for a change. and to do that, I see you constantly changing the topic everytime J, start talking to you about it ......you can't get sucked in. Just change topics do not argue with him about it you're not to beat them about it, don't even listen a little bit about what they're saying just change the topic with them and dont argue with them. so you have to go if they are pushing you to keep talking about it. t, ydon't explain it just changed it. everytime J, try to cut you off you cut them back of thing .......no this is what I'm talking about......no I'm interested in this....... no I want your answer on this, etc. you will have to be the driving force everytime that person tries to pull you in driving force to turn that conversation and some other conversation and not letting it get derailed.

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posted May 19, 2014 02:27 AM            

I deleted it because I didn't feel that it resonated with your question..... and it turns out it really doesn't because it's not who you were asking about.

posted May 19, 2014 02:31 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Hi

I deleted it because I didn't feel that it resonated with your question..... and it turns out it really doesn't because it's not who you were asking about.

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I was thinking this was the case because aroun the time you posted your reading, I was thinking about moon placements because of a topic in Sweet Peas. I started thinking about him and our past relationship.

posted May 19, 2014 02:33 AM            

if I'm correct you don't have a relationship with him you would like to develop something with him and you believe he is basically the ultimate catch for you....?

do you even know if you want anything with you?

I cannot tell you how to cultivate a relationship with him. To be honest I don't see him alone. personally I am not feeling that you two would be anything. Sorry

posted May 19, 2014 02:35 AM            

but as for J. I left a post about that I just can't see anything. but that could be because your energy was focused on another person's so what you wrote I wasn't picking up his energy

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
I was thinking this was the case because aroun the time you posted your reading, I was thinking about moon placements because of a topic in Sweet Peas. I started thinking about him and our past relationship.

I will read for your q in my next post.

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posted May 19, 2014 03:22 AM            

A: 7 of Staves clarified by King of Cups.

The first thing that strikes me about the 7 of Staves was the colorful contrast between Siegfried and the dragon Fafnir. The description mentions that after the battle, Siegfried ingests some of Fafnir's blood and is able to speak the language of birds.

From this, I see you are able to gain wisdom from the relationship troubles you experience. It's a wide range of experiences you're able to go through and have lived to tell the tale.

I can see you being an authority for others, women particularly, in terms of relationships, to the point where you're able to perform emotional, mental, and spiritual surgery on others that ends up saving them from years of pain.

I think of the phrase "If you love someone set them free. If they return, it was meant to be."

I feel like there was someone that you think of often that you recently resolved to let go. He will return to you in time, but only after you have learned all the lessons you need for this lifetime.

High Priestess

Shahrazade, the high priestess of the Lover's Path tarot deck, represents the ideal wisdom gained from these experiences- you've been through a lot to become another page in A Thousand and One Nights. There is a balance that you've managed to acclimate with desire and denial, knowing what it is you want in life and not compromising your integrity for brief moments of satisfaction.

Your mastery over emotional matters of complex relations will result in your blossoming as the High Priestess and the ushering in of a past relation that is new.

posted May 19, 2014 03:33 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
.... the thing is is no matter how hard and how many times I go back looking at this situation I can't honestly give a reading about J ...

if I'm correct you don't have a relationship with him you would like to develop something with him and you believe he is basically the ultimate catch for you....?

do you even know if you want anything with you?

I cannot tell you how to cultivate a relationship with him. To be honest I don't see him alone. personally I am not feeling that you two would be anything. Sorry

...... now I could totally wrong. Do definitely get other readings on that. I have been wrong before so take this with a grain of salt

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I think I also tend to mess with J's future plans on where he wants to go with his life.

My intention is to be close to him, with whatever makes him comfortable.

posted May 19, 2014 12:01 PM            

I love the part about surgery emotional mental spiritual!

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by cherful24:
[b].... the thing is is no matter how hard and how many times I go back looking at this situation I can't honestly give a reading about J ...

if I'm correct you don't have a relationship with him you would like to develop something with him and you believe he is basically the ultimate catch for you....?

do you even know if you want anything with you?

I cannot tell you how to cultivate a relationship with him. To be honest I don't see him alone. personally I am not feeling that you two would be anything. Sorry

...... now I could totally wrong. Do definitely get other readings on that. I have been wrong before so take this with a grain of salt

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I think I also tend to mess with J's future plans on where he wants to go with his life.

My intention is to be close to him, with whatever makes him comfortable.

I am not holding my heart out for him. I am hoping to have another adult to spend time with, as I do not have many relations outside of people I'm related to.[/B][/QUOTE]

posted May 19, 2014 06:39 PM            

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Originally posted by luckystar25:
Can i join the exchange..is jpg faithful to me? im confused and dont know what to belive,its either that everyone is covering for him or im thinking the worst because of something someone let slip...

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posted May 19, 2014 06:45 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Hi Lucky-Did u get a chance to reply on the thread u started for an exchange?

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posted May 19, 2014 06:46 PM            

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Originally posted by luckystar25:
Can i join the exchange..is jpg faithful to me? im confused and dont know what to belive,its either that everyone is covering for him or im thinking the worst because of something someone let slip...

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Q: Is JPG being faithful to Luckystar?

A: 6 of Coins clarified by 8 of Wands.

A bountiful and resounding YES, he is being faithful. I feel like he does the best he can to make sure you have what you need, without going overboard and smothering you..... I think though that if you want a clear answer, you should tell him what you heard. He may explain it altogether to you and clear away the worry.

Two of Cups

Dear, don't worry. You are as much his as he is yours. He reflects everything you feel for him and that's not going to change. I do stress the importance of speaking with him and clearing up any misunderstanding. He will reflect your energy, so it's important to remember to be upfront with him so he can be upfront with you. *hugs*

posted May 19, 2014 07:00 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Q: Is JPG being faithful to Luckystar?

A: 6 of Coins clarified by 8 of Wands.

A bountiful and resounding YES, he is being faithful. I feel like he does the best he can to make sure you have what you need, without going overboard and smothering you..... I think though that if you want a clear answer, you should tell him what you heard. He may explain it altogether to you and clear away the worry.

Two of Cups

Dear, don't worry. You are as much his as he is yours. He reflects everything you feel for him and that's not going to change. I do stress the importance of speaking with him and clearing up any misunderstanding. He will reflect your energy, so it's important to remember to be upfront with him so he can be upfront with you. *hugs*

Hope that helps.

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thank you! ... I was so mad the other night and i didnt want to say anything in case i heard wrong but i couldnt help but to make it a point to ignore him (friends party) and not talk to him..and he kept looking at me confused alot..and i just went home..now i feel bad :/ .. i hope he isnt mad at me for that...

Whats your question?

posted May 19, 2014 07:06 PM            

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Originally posted by luckystar25:

thank you! ... I was so mad the other night and i didnt want to say anything in case i heard wrong but i couldnt help but to make it a point to ignore him (friends party) and not talk to him..and he kept looking at me confused alot..and i just went home..now i feel bad :/ .. i hope he isnt mad at me for that...

Whats your question?

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posted May 19, 2014 07:48 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by luckystar25:
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thank you! ... I was so mad the other night and i didnt want to say anything in case i heard wrong but i couldnt help but to make it a point to ignore him (friends party) and not talk to him..and he kept looking at me confused alot..and i just went home..now i feel bad :/ .. i hope he isnt mad at me for that...

Whats your question?

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My q is what is my next romantic relationship partner like?[/B][/QUOTE]

posted May 19, 2014 08:23 PM            

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Originally posted by luckystar25:
He is going to totally transform you, "rebirth", you will see life in a total different way almost as if he awakens you ..
He is funny, and will have the ability to bring out the child in you...he is very stable, trustworthy and seems there will be explosive passion and the sex will be incredible Lol, he will be 2 years(months) younger than you

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This kind of sounds like J, but I'm happy that my next partner, no matter who he is, will be cool :3.

posted May 20, 2014 06:50 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Metal

does J have a violent temper?

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Not that I know of. He doesn't exhibit any violent tendencies or red flags in behavior that I've noticed.

Not sure if you saw another exchange I did, but M = my ex.

I left him after 7 years of being together/6 of those years being married because he was always beating me and wouldn't stop. I couldn't deal with it anymore. I tried to hide it from my family, our friends, and from our kid. He's unfortunately been very present in my life recently, but I am starting to imagine the energy between M and I slowly being turned off like a water faucet.

posted May 20, 2014 06:55 PM            

No I did not see that exchange! good for you for leaving!

posted May 20, 2014 06:57 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
Wow!

No I did not see that exchange! good for you for leaving!

the moment that I asked you that was a moment I felt that, so for whatever reason ur past experiences are coming into strong. And I can't get a good energy on J.

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