posted May 31, 2014 02:59 PM            

I'm so tired of the rejections - even after a lot of working on myself, therapy and doing things on my own, nothing has changed. My attitude and how I approach them has, but I still end up alone and heartbroken.

Please tell me what I have to do so someone will finally return my feelings. Based on my natal and progressed chart, what kind of combo would be good for me? Not who I'd go for, but who would go for me - and gel with my chart. And where do you think I have my best shot at meeting them?

I joined a meetup site two weeks ago and though I don't really feel a click with anyone there yet, I'm keeping things open. My solar return chart for this year looks positive so I'm really keeping my fingers crossed I'll finally find that mutual relationship.

But... I had quite a lot of classic soul mate aspects in synastry with at least 3 of those men. By planet, asteroids, natal-draconic, draconic-draconic, I checked all of that. Duads too. Parallels. Still... nothing. I asked some people for advice and they were all convinced it was mutual, encouraging me to go for it.

The last year, I kept getting compliments from men, women, strangers and friends. Everyone seems to be shocked when I say I'm not in a relationship yet and say they don't understand why.

Please give me some advice guys! I'm more than happy to post my SR chart, too, which has my moon and Uranus on the Desc, Venus in Leo well-aspected and Juno on my natal Jupiter exact (only a couple of minutes off).

On a more positive note (I want to end that way haha), I've met some of the sweetest, very supportive girlfriends here and at my last community. They're fun, they make me laugh. If only a man like them would have feelings for me...

Things others have told me in the past:
- Sun on the SN (Saturnine vibe)
- Mars quincunx Descendant

[Edit: Uploading a larger one, hold on.]

Natal:
Aspects not seen on the chart:
- Venus parallel Descendant exact
- Moon and Uranus out of bounds

posted June 01, 2014 07:16 AM            

If this is too hard for you guys I do have something else.
Every time I have an argument with someone I thought I was close to, they never want to make up. I reach out, open my heart to them, tell them what they mean to me, but Instead of a heart-to-heart or being reassured, they always get mad or just avoid me. And the worst part is - they just walk away just like that. I never find out what was the problem and they're not even affected by not being friends anymore.
I'm so tired of this. God, I'm sobbing like crazy while typing this.

A male friend disappeared for 2 weeks without warning and when I tried to talk about it again angry. They did not want to deal. Or break up the friendship just like that. Relationships,too.

I'm absolutely sure I said things tactfully and from my own feeings, no accusations.

posted June 02, 2014 08:41 PM            

Looking at your chart, I think that Mars in Leo, Sun in Virgo, and Moon in Taurus would be someone who'd gel with your chart relatively well. Your ideal partner will probably be met through friends and perhaps even be your friend before you two start dating. Btw, you have a lot of Cardinal placements, and the last few months have been really terrible in general for people with Cardinal prominence in their charts. Don't worry though, you'll get through it. You have Saturn Trine Mars, so whereas you will have to wait a little while before you meet 'Mr. Right,' you'll meet him, and things will work out. With Saturn Retrograde in Scorpio AND Mars Retrograde in Libra, most guys have been really up and down to say the least. That was not a fun time for anyone. The transits just haven't been favorable. But things will work out. Another thing you might want to look for in the chart of a potential partner is a personal planet in late Aries Opposite another planet in late Libra and quite possibly something around the middle of Pisces. Of course, this is an ideal chart, and I have no idea if anyone even has this kind of chart. I think the problem with these kinds of questions is that it's difficult to give an answer because lovers with long lasting relationships seldom have ideal Synastry because the ideal is generally impossible.

posted June 03, 2014 04:27 PM            

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Originally posted by KingofCups:
Hello,

Looking at your chart, I think that Mars in Leo, Sun in Virgo, and Moon in Taurus would be someone who'd gel with your chart relatively well. Your ideal partner will probably be met through friends and perhaps even be your friend before you two start dating. Btw, you have a lot of Cardinal placements, and the last few months have been really terrible in general for people with Cardinal prominence in their charts. Don't worry though, you'll get through it. You have Saturn Trine Mars, so whereas you will have to wait a little while before you meet 'Mr. Right,' you'll meet him, and things will work out. With Saturn Retrograde in Scorpio AND Mars Retrograde in Libra, most guys have been really up and down to say the least. That was not a fun time for anyone. The transits just haven't been favorable. But things will work out. Another thing you might want to look for in the chart of a potential partner is a personal planet in late Aries Opposite another planet in late Libra and quite possibly something around the middle of Pisces. Of course, this is an ideal chart, and I have no idea if anyone even has this kind of chart. I think the problem with these kinds of questions is that it's difficult to give an answer because lovers with long lasting relationships seldom have ideal Synastry because the ideal is generally impossible.

Hope this helps

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Hi! Thanks for replying and taking a look at my chart. You're right on that synastry is likely not going to be perfect and maybe someone with all of these placements doesn't exist. Oh, but I was mostly hoping for what you just did - a combo that would suit me.

Mars in Leo, Sun in Virgo and Moon in Taurus. Yeah, I can see how this fits in. Wasn't it something about conjunctions to the 7th house ruler? And I really like people with that Aries-Libra opposition. Pisces mid-sign... because of Mercury, my 12th house ruler?

Meeting through a friend/first on friendly terms... yep. Basically everyone I have been with or in love with. Through internet communities, too. But is it really a good way to start?

Oh, yes. Those transits have been very rough and it's been basically just surviving. But thankfully other cardinal-heavy people understand. Thanks. It's worth getting through.

Ahh. Good point! Saturn and Mars, then Pluto Rx as well. I've had these problems before, but I can't remember if they were as bad as they've been the last two years. Uranus in H7 has also been playing out like the textbooks say so far. Sadly.

posted June 06, 2014 11:45 AM            

For you, yes. I feel like this would make you the most comfortable, and ofc, if you're friends with them first, you'll be comfortable with them before you enter the relationship and have some idea of whether or not the two of you would be good together.