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posted May 31, 2014 08:20 PM            

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EDITED 6/2: Initially this past Saturday, I was quite bothered about J's lack of response to a series of texts sent his way- deep deep down though I kept telling myself he would never just avoid responding to me, even while I was quite aggressive as far as getting him to understand my stance with him. It's eerie actually, and I'm past anger and now headed to worry

He responded Sunday, but it was very to the point saying "rough night, didn't have my phone, sorry" but then he disappeared again after I asked was he ok? The silence has me worried. Can only hope he's not lying but even more so hope that nothing really bad happened to him. Can anyone help me out here???

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posted June 01, 2014 10:15 AM            

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posted June 02, 2014 11:33 AM            

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posted June 02, 2014 11:37 AM            

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Hermit-2swords-7 cups

he withdrew from you and didnt know how to respond and also by the look of the 7 cups could have been drinking or something where he could lose himself. I would give him some space if you can. Men often do this when they are challenged?

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posted June 02, 2014 11:45 AM            

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@Redshoes, wow!

Exactly what I was afraid of yet sensed actually - withdrawing just from an honest and direct series of messages. Then to brush me off with a lie? Well it's very obvious your advice is the bottom line [GIVING HIM SPACE] but unfortunately it speaks volumes on what really needs to be done with that in general. Smh. And considering how he is overall as a person and the mess going on with his life right now, I am not surprised he's getting liquored up often and it seems I caught him right when he indulged in it. He's at a space in his life where escapism is prevalent. Very clear what needs to be done. Thank you dear, so much….

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posted June 02, 2014 11:53 AM            

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You are welcome...they do that you know (men i mean)...cant face stuff so they go into their cave..i have had quite a few in my life like this. the only thing to do is stand right back
. if he wants you, he will come after you, if he doesnt, then his loss!

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posted June 02, 2014 12:16 PM            

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What grinds my gears is I was coming from such an honest and friendship-derived base. Reassuring him that I care a great deal, and I needed him to open up more because I lose interest. Frankly I set the tone for this garbage. But being up against a guy that doesn't warm up that fast, or has a complex with directness has proved to present us at a "dead end" because I refuse to alter how I am to walk on egg shells with any guy. This really ****** me off. I'm over it. I don't appreciate being lied to to the point of worry when you just honestly need space Just be upfront even if your response isn't grandiose. So ticked off. I read you RedShoes, that's how the gullible ones act!

Thanks Mercury transit! *subtle joke*

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posted June 02, 2014 12:55 PM            

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When we start to accept the VAST differences between the genders is when we begin to understand why things happen as they do

...that is why i choose to remain single, as i am yet to meet a man that can man up! still hopeful though?

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posted June 02, 2014 01:28 PM            

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Wow that was a good reading redshoes.

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posted June 02, 2014 04:10 PM            

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Thanks (((((K)))))

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posted June 02, 2014 05:51 PM            

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Originally posted by redshoes:
When we start to accept the VAST differences between the genders is when we begin to understand why things happen as they do

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Indeed! Very wise.

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posted June 02, 2014 05:55 PM            

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BTW Redshoes, I apologize that I can't exchange with you. I'm not gifted/intuitive at all and I try not to take advantage of those like yourself, who take the time, out of pure kindness to read for me. I really appreciate it - always do.

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