posted June 13, 2014 08:16 PM            

Long story short, we met at choir practice. Hated him in the beginning, but 1 year later we actually started to talk some more. We had a lot of common interests and communication was superb. Unfortunately he had enrolled to a 6 month internship in the USA, so we didn't have much time for face-to-face contact.

We never got physical or anything. It was only friendship but I fell for him.
When he arrived in USA, he was distant, didn't kept in touch. Then 1 month later he started again, and it was good for another month with daily contact and some skype talking.
But he stopped again. I cried like never before, and decided no guy is ever going to make me feel so bad about myself, ever. I promised myself I would NOT contact him again and if he would do so, I'd just be indifferent and don't give him attention. I succeeded, and was fine until yesterday.

He asked if we could skype. I thought "piece of cake, so over him, let's see how I'll handle him". A self test kind of thing.
But the talk was great, like nothing had changed. And now I can't stop thinking about it!

I know we'll never be anything because I was hurt real bad and have this internal mechanism of shutting off people that hurted me. But I can't stop wondering, I really need to know:

posted June 13, 2014 09:15 PM            

It's so I know I connected.

If he is the one I picked up, here is what he feels..

I am not sure how old is he but he seemed to be fairly young, or at least a bit immature. I do not sense bad personality however.

What he feels about you...
There is an attraction, but not enough to pursue anything. There is, however, nothing wrong with you. I have a sense he is doing this to most women, he is unable to attach himself seriously to anyone. If he does, it will not last (as for now, in his current phase of life)

So, he feels an attraction, but right now he is very absorbed to himself, so to him, he likes your attention because he thinks you're his friend and sense that 'extra' feelings but that's as far as he would involve himself with you.

You may prolong this connection by acting more aloof, but I have a feeling your emotions couldn't handle it for now an he would sense it and would leave again.

Again this is NOT because there's anything wrong with you. This man is simply too self-involved.

But he is attracted to you, just not enough to make him do anything further than occasional talking.

posted June 13, 2014 09:35 PM            

That skyping sure moved something inside, but I'm not proceding further. I'll keep it light and casual, as I'd do with any "recent" friend.

Your reading was very accurate, I'm in awe!
He's 4 years younger than me, very self centered, but great personality.

I'm kind of relieved that it's not a one sided thing, even if it's not leading anywhere, at least it's telling me I still have some potencial (I clearly have some self esteem issues).

posted June 13, 2014 09:56 PM            

I will illustrate- his feelings for you is like this:

There is a person you see on a dating site and you like his picture. He messaged you, and since he is cute, you responded. You talk and it's fun.

But he's hardly on your mind after you step away from the computer, unless you see something that reminds you of the dating site, or something similar to the guy.

But since you guys can talk pretty nicely, you wouldn't think twice in chatting him up on the messenger. You like talking to him, you find him cute. But it does not stay with you. You simply enjoy him when he's around but doesn't think about him much outside the messenger.

So there is an attraction but not any kind that might lead to anything at this point or near future, if it makes sense?

I just want to be clear, so my wordings won't give you false hopes.

posted June 13, 2014 10:49 PM            

There's another guy I feel attracted, but it's very recent. Didn't have the guts to approach him, mainly because of that, I'm afraid I might not be good enough... Now I'm a little more confident, so thank you!!!