posted July 02, 2014 12:06 PM            

Just when I thought things were looking up, I discover my soon to be ex-husband is seeing and messing with another woman. Under normal circumstances I guess I could deal with it but the major problem is this "other woman" lives at the end of my street in my neighborhood!!!
And she JUST so happens to be friends with one of the women who I have be-friended and become close with and is spending time with my son!!
It's like, no matter how hard I try to get away from the drama, I can't escape it! I hate it! It's ridiculous!

Of all the places my Ex could have met another woman and started seeing her, why on my side of town, why in my neighborhood on my street??! And he's rubbing it in by driving by my house!

I'm miserable my question is: "why does this keep happening to me?" What is the point of this continued drama that I can't seem to escape no matter how bad I want to???!!"

posted July 02, 2014 05:50 PM            

I'd be willing to do an exchange: synastry or composite
I'm learning horary as well so I can give that a shot..

posted July 02, 2014 07:01 PM            

The situation
KING OF WANDS + 2 OF WANDS + THE HIEROPHANT

It looks like your ex-husband is symbolized by the King of Wands and he is a very dominate man who likes to be in control of his situations. He has a prepossessing visage and a immense presence that is very charming to a lot of women. 2 of Wands tell me he is bold and he doesn't hesitate to act out on his passions and go for what he wants, it also tells of a man who likes to be in control of situations and likes to stir up feelings of jealousy and resentment in you on purpose. I believe, I think he is doing this so you two can fight over him and he gets off on this and he can keep you at arms' length while having his mistress with him (I say that because this seems to be a purely sexual relationship). I think he is doing this because you crushed his ego and you're moving on without problems and he is still carrying feelings of abandonment and wants to crush you with him. The Hierophant shows he is very hard on this and won't give up, and he uses his inside information on you to gain knowledge on you.

The reason why the patterns are repeating
9 OF CUPS + 10 OF WANDS + JUDGEMENT
This came up several times, are you indulging in your emotional patterns and becoming careless or you are acting a little smug? 10 of Wands in my deck and in my readings shows outer influences and people will see this and become annoyed, Wands is energy so they will crush you with their overactive passions and overwhelm you with their demands, Judgement shows that its preventing you from reaching the final conclusion because of the crushing weight they bear over your shoulders.

How can you move on from this situation
QUEEN OF CUPS + 4 OF COINS + THE CHARIOT
Queen of Cups is you! Interesting for I believe King of Wands + Queen of Cups makes an odd combination together. Even though it's literally opposites (yin and yang) I believe in the physical world this doesn't translate well if the person doesn't know their spirituality and the King of Wands can find the Queen of Cups boring and not sexy enough or he tries to dominate her because she seems passive and willing to his demands, King of Wands proves to be too overbearing and not affectionate enough for Queen of Cups and she becomes disgusted with him. Then 4 of Coins comes after it, it is telling you to hold on to your intuition and your spirituality -- remain preserved and never let your guard down. The Chariot shows remain victorious and always have one move against them, use strategies and develop your psychic power to get over at them. It also shows after you have done that and made your inner peace, literally move away from them but with pride and not fear. I can see they are ruining your life and I get creepy vibes from them.
If you take this advice, what will happen
THE WORLD + 10 OF CUPS + PAGE OF CUPS
Wow! You will be completing a stage and your emotional nature will reach all time exalt! This also symbolizes familial bliss with your son and eternal happiness, Page of Cups can symbolize a romantic lover coming to your life or just sentimental feelings arising again and you can finally feel free to do whatever you want. I think your ex-husband is kind of on you and a little obsessive. Let me see if my intuition is right...

((is he? Queen of Swords + The Empress + 4 of Cups ... kind of and no.. Queen of Swords is you or the other woman? If you are no longer in your fertile stage this can symbolize her, but if you're still young then its you. It shows obviously two women in his life and having the affections of her put on his demand, but 4 of Cups shows he's a little bored with what he has and what's to stir up some drama.. what a jerk!)
Outcome
THE MOON + THE HANGED MAN + QUEEN OF WANDS + 3 OF CUPS + THE HIGH PRIESTESS
Wow.. this shows delusion, deceit and trickery done up your nose, The Moon to me has a very bad aura to it in this reading especially combined with the Hanged Man, it looks like this will make you feel vulnerable and helpless and cannot do anything.. queen of wands shows you succumbing to this woman and 3 of cups shows that she is trying to start a friendship with you under the guise of trying to get your information.. ultimately High Priestess shows unconscious feelings become the conscious and you will reveal a lot of qualities about yourself and I cannot help to think your husband "sent" her to do this and she is mirroring you to ruin you...

posted July 02, 2014 08:51 PM            

Yes, this is a really bad situation and I'm glad I know now that all of this is being done by him to intentionally hurt me in the worst way.

Comment about "the situation":
Yes, he was always controlling and apparently is still trying to control me..yes, I bruised his ego significantly- am I reading right that he is hell-bent on not giving up trying to make me miserable? Interesting this other woman is just sexual and he's bored already??!!

Comment about "repeating patterns": I have to admit I was confused by this interpretation. I can only come up with the fact I have let my guard down a bit and expressed my frustrations with my new friends. It sounds like I really need to stop this ASAP! I'm not sure who the external people are that would crush me with their passions..kind of makes me nervous..any clarity?

Comment on "how can I move on?"
So it's interesting when you mentioned the yin and yang because I have a strong intuition that I have met my twinflame through all of this..given TF's are described by yin and yang, it made sit up a little straighter. Either way so my Ex thought I was boring and not sexy enough? Oh brother...what a joke. He definitely wasn't very affectionate or emotionally intimate with me at all. Yeah, um I definitely deserve better! I have found my spirituality becoming stronger through this and I will take your advice and continue to trust my intuition...hence the desperate request for a reading...and yes they are ruining my life. I have opted to stay here and not relocate so he can have a close relationship with our son. I see you mentioned physically moving away. So am I reading this right that if I physically move away from them both my son and I BOTH will be happier?

Comment on "him being obsessive": I am still in child bearing years. So he is demanding her physical affections with him and yet he's bored and wants to stir up drama? Did I read that right? What a psycho!!!! OMG

Comment about "the outcome":
Ok need some clarity with this..I'm not sure what it means that I'll succumb to this other woman...like in what way? He will try to get her to become friends with me to get information about me? What do you mean "he sent her to do this and she is "mirroring" me to ruin me? I really really need clarification on that one!

Wow I'm stunned..absolutely stunned. Thank you for bringing this all into the light for me!

posted July 02, 2014 09:01 PM            

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Comment about "repeating patterns": I have to admit I was confused by this interpretation. I can only come up with the fact I have let my guard down a bit and expressed my frustrations with my new friends. It sounds like I really need to stop this ASAP! I'm not sure who the external people are that would crush me with their passions..kind of makes me nervous..any clarity?

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Comment on "how can I move on?"
So it's interesting when you mentioned the yin and yang because I have a strong intuition that I have met my twinflame through all of this..given TF's are described by yin and yang, it made sit up a little straighter. Either way so my Ex thought I was boring and not sexy enough? Oh brother...what a joke. He definitely wasn't very affectionate or emotionally intimate with me at all. Yeah, um I definitely deserve better! I have found my spirituality becoming stronger through this and I will take your advice and continue to trust my intuition...hence the desperate request for a reading...and yes they are ruining my life. I have opted to stay here and not relocate so he can have a close relationship with our son. I see you mentioned physically moving away. So am I reading this right that if I physically move away from them both my son and I BOTH will be happier?

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Comment on "him being obsessive": I am still in child bearing years. So he is demanding her physical affections with him and yet he's bored and wants to stir up drama? Did I read that right? What a psycho!!!! OMG

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Ok need some clarity with this..I'm not sure what it means that I'll succumb to this other woman...like in what way? He will try to get her to become friends with me to get information about me? What do you mean "he sent her to do this and she is "mirroring" me to ruin me? I really really need clarification on that one!

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Wow I'm stunned..absolutely stunned. Thank you for bringing this all into the light for me!

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posted July 02, 2014 10:07 PM            

sure a synastry/composite is fine

posted July 02, 2014 10:27 PM            

here is it w/ other asteroids

posted July 03, 2014 02:15 PM            

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Hi there!
Well I just spent some time looking at these charts...I have to admit this is WAY out of my league. I went back and read your other thread with these charts and responses you got and I definitely don't want to steer you in the wrong direction or give you a wrong answer..I wasn't even sure I knew what astral projecting was LOL

I'm definitely better with people versus situations! I'm sorry, I really want to return the favor but I just feel this one in particular is too advanced for my knowledge. However I will keep tabs on your other thread to see what additional insights your receive

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posted July 03, 2014 08:14 PM            

Let's start with the good:
I see you have moon's sextile and sun sextile moon..these are great, of course for friendship and emotional compatibility.

Your venus conjunct his mercury, mars and his venus (widely.). Very nice..as you two speak the same love language and of course venus conjunct mars is great for sexual sparks! On top of that his venus/mars conjunction falls in your 5th house of romance..that would make for some nice attraction! Eros sextile Eros too...sexy

Mercury conjunct mars I feel is great for communication! To tell each other the way it is and you don't hold back..you both can possibly be a little tactless at times
Your sun trine his Pluto can give a slight obsessive nature like it could and would be very difficult for you both to move on, if you split. I saw a few Saturn aspects (both hard and soft) which helps to form the glue on the relationship.. Not too many Pluto aspects though..

What stuck out at me that I'm not seeing are any conjunct angles and a lot missing in the relationship houses. His venus/mars does fall in your 5th but that's it- and none of your personal planets fall into any of his relationship houses. To me this might indicate that you enjoy eachother and get a long really well but you don't feel like eachother is "the one." I'm also really not seeing much between activated on the nodal or vertex axis either. Those two axis will play out strongly if you both feel like the relationship is very fated and meant to be. His karma does fall on your vertex which is positive but I don't think it's enough to give it that feeling of BAM..".where have you been all my life" ya know?

Ok so let's look at the composite:
Now this looks better! See that venus conjunct mars in the 7th! Great for marriage..and Juno the marriage asteroid and the vertex in the 7th as well. Right there is where you would get the feeling of a fated relationship!

Venus and both square the nodal axis which I've mentioned before is common in long term relationships or marriage. Oh here we go, you have a lot of Saturn aspects (both hard and soft) in the composite. There's your glue on top of the nodal stuff going on. This can definitely either hold you together or if you part, make it TOUGH to move on.

You've got two great Cinderella linkages with both venus and jupiter trine chiron! Great for love and marriage
Wow, Pluto on the ASC tight! I think you may have had this with the other guy? This makes for a very profound, transforming relationship for both of you! It could make for power struggles on the downside but definitely a relationship that will alter your life. ..and it's in your 12th with the karma asteroid..yes, a fated relationship indeed balancing karma from a previous life.

Sun opposite neptune can give a dreamy romantic quality to the relationship (adding to that the moon in the 5th of romance and children). And the mercury opposite neptune exact should give an element of telepathy between you two. Sun and moon both aspecting jupiter will give a sense of happiness, laughter and forgiveness between you two in the hard times.

This looks nice I like it!

posted July 03, 2014 08:17 PM            

Hey, I'm curious.. between me and my bf and me and the guy :

Which one is the sexiest?
The most loving bond?
The most obsessive bond?
The most best in the long term bond?

posted July 03, 2014 08:57 PM            

Well I had to go back and look at the other one.
What I I will say is this..the first one with your friend? Definitely more passionate. Plus it has two grand trines and a few (I believe) soulmate pairings..that's big to me.

The one with your BF definitely doesn't have the passion. It's karmic for sure..but not as passionate. Plus, maybe I missed something but I don't see any soulmate pairings with your BF an d I already mentioned the stuff about the lack of planets in your relationship houses.

However, I didn't see the synastry with your other friend to see what the angles were doing and what planets fell in which houses..that would have a major impact.

So just by what I saw with the information I had..it looks like the first one migt be the more satisfying..

posted July 03, 2014 09:16 PM            

Here's the chart:

posted July 04, 2014 09:00 AM            

What's interesting is that both of your DSC rulers fall in each other's 8th house. Again, being the 8th house with Scorpio/sexual undertones enhances that element of sexual attraction and passion between you two.

I also look for personal planets conjunct the angles..they are a must, IMO, for a long term successful partnership. As you can see, your venus and mars on his MC and your jupiter on his DSC. His Saturn on your ASC and his mars conjunct your IC. Again..this is very important. In also thought it was interesting that both of your Juno's fall on an angle of the other. His on your MC, your on his ASC. The angles are super sensitive and anything that hits those will really resognate. Juno being the marriage asteroid may give you both the feeling of making a long term commitment to eachother.

The soulmates aspect again confirmed by the 12th house synastry going on..his moon in your 12th and your NN/vertex conjunction on the cusp of his 12th (cusps also are strong.).

Yep...the synastry is strong as well