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Topic: Honoring Your Exchanges
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LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 15, 2014 05:32 AM
It has been a recurring issue with a few members that they will OFFER or ACCEPT an exchange and not honor it. This is a forum for free readings. People are giving their energy to in turn receive. If you will not honor the exchange, please be courteous enough to say so. I feel like it's metaphysical theft and I, too, have been stolen from. It's a shame to have doubt over whether you'll get a reading from someone you have given one. If you open an exchange THREAD, know that the person expects an EXCHANGE. PLEASE DO NOT OPEN AN EXCHANGE THREAD HOPING TO GET A SPECIFIC PERSON AND BECOMING HOSTILE WITH WHO ANSWERS. If you don't want to exchange with the person, politely decline. If they have done the reading, you owe them. To no repay the favor is nothing less than rude. Please be kind to one another. ------------------ Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House) Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House) Cancer ♋ Rising Svātī Nakshatra IP: Logged |
andstuff Knowflake Posts: 2966 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 15, 2014 05:35 AM
*applause*you couldn't be more right about this, LP i have recently seen cases of such behaviour and was completely appalled. i thought this was unheard of on LL, but i was ah ever so wrong thanks for saying this!! IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Moderator Posts: 26212 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 15, 2014 05:42 AM
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quietstorm Knowflake Posts: 482 From: away Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 15, 2014 05:54 AM
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KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 6446 From: LURKING Registered: May 2011
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posted July 15, 2014 06:12 AM
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Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5151 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 15, 2014 06:14 AM
I was going to open a thread about the same subject. Thanks for doing it LoadedPistil.This is a forum where readings are being offered free of cost. So if you are requesting a reading of any kind and you are not able to offer anything in return it is perfectly okay. BUT if you have explicitly stated that you will exchange with the person and that person has honored her/his word it is only fair and honest that you respect the end of the bargain. IF you are not able to honor your part due to unforeseen circumstances or due to private reasons, because this CAN happen to any of us, please be kind enough to give the person a time frame at which you will be able to perfect the exchange. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 15, 2014 06:31 AM
@andstuff I, too, was befuddled so much that I took a screenshot and thus behooved. SMHA deck I have coveted for so long, the Alice in Wonderland deck is $100 ON PREORDER SALE. If I buy this deck and put wear on it for an exchange I never got, I've been robbed. This is just an example for those thinking a reading doesn't cost. It costs money sometimes and energy. If you promise, pay. If you can't pay, file bankruptcy. -Pluto in Libra/Sun square Saturn ------------------ Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House) Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House) Cancer ♋ Rising Svātī Nakshatra IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 1373 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted July 15, 2014 06:36 AM
Well said!I know of one woman on another forum who asks for readings all the time and has not given back once! Unbelievable! IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5151 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 15, 2014 06:43 AM
However, this is a FREE forum, people can ask for free readings here.You can choose for whom you want to read. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 15, 2014 06:43 AM
Call me Captain T http://youtu.be/Y6OvsJqimfg ------------------ Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House) Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House) Cancer ♋ Rising Svātī Nakshatra IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 1373 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted July 15, 2014 07:58 AM
..i stil take issue with people that ask but never give back...just to offer something up is courteous, whatever it is?IP: Logged |
moonstruck87 Knowflake Posts: 2268 From: USA Registered: Mar 2011
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posted July 15, 2014 09:21 AM
I forget sometimes and I have been guilty of this but if this happens, do bump the thread or shout me out in a new one.lol I don't mind being called out! :P Thank you LP for bringing this subject to hand. I think it's been over due. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 15, 2014 09:32 AM
Bump me 100x if you have to. If you gave me a reading, I owe you one. ------------------ Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House) Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House) Cancer ♋ Rising Svātī Nakshatra IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5151 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 16, 2014 01:59 AM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: ..i stil take issue with people that ask but never give back...just to offer something up is courteous, whatever it is?
I agree. But if the person doesn't have anything to offer back, it's still okay to ask for a free reading, that's what this forum is about. This has to be made very clear to all of you here. No one is obliged to offer something back to you. They can do so out of courtesy and good faith. Sometimes it happens that readers take on board too many requests and find it difficult to answer to all of them. This can happen and since they have no obligation to continue reading they can choose not to. Because it is a free reading forum. Now if you feel that you are always the one GIVING without getting anything in return, it is also your right to decide for whom you want to read and with whom you want to exchange. It doesn't mean you have to exchange with the first one who responds to your thread. IP: Logged |
Twirl Knowflake Posts: 4191 From: Europe Registered: Mar 2013
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posted July 16, 2014 02:10 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: I agree.But if the person doesn't have anything to offer back, it's still okay to ask for a free reading, that's what this forum is about. This has to be made very clear to all of you here. No one is obliged to offer something back to you. They can do so out of courtesy and good faith. Sometimes it happens that readers take on board too many requests and find it difficult to answer to all of them. This can happen and since they have no obligation to continue reading they can choose not to. Because it is a free reading forum. Now if you feel that you are always the one GIVING without getting anything in return, it is also your right to decide for whom you want to read and with whom you want to exchange. It doesn't mean you have to exchange with the first one who responds to your thread.
I've seen what sparked this & altough of course it would be great people live up to exchanges all the time, I think this thread/issue got sparked over the wrong person & it simply was a thing between 2 people that I'm sure both are very capable handling it themselves. Not representative of this issue of not living up to exchanges (that was up in the air for a longer time already) at all. Especially since it concerns people that are normally very giving & helping without asking anything in return.
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Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5151 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 16, 2014 02:16 AM
Thank you Twirl.Because I don't want anyone to feel bad if they can't offer something in return. This is not what this forum is about. IP: Logged |
andstuff Knowflake Posts: 2966 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2014 02:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by redshoes: ..i stil take issue with people that ask but never give back...just to offer something up is courteous, whatever it is?
well, i suppose, if the person registers here to be able to get free readings it's totally legitimate
so in this case it's curteous not to nag for a billion updates/follow-ups. we've all seen this done, let's not pretend otherwise IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 16, 2014 05:07 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: Thank you Twirl.Because I don't want anyone to feel bad if they can't offer something in return. This is not what this forum is about.
NO MUGGLE SHAMING, PLEASE ------------------ Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House) Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House) Cancer ♋ Rising Svātī Nakshatra IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Moderator Posts: 26212 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 16, 2014 05:08 AM
To me it is perfectly okay, if someone cannot offer anything back. What I think is courtesy though, is stating clearly if you want to do an exchange or just asking for a free reading, and if offering an exchange, honour your word or, if it should not be possible (sometimes life barges in), just tell the first person so, so they don`t wait around for something that might never come. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5151 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 16, 2014 05:22 AM
quote: Originally posted by LoadedPistil: NO MUGGLE SHAMING, PLEASE
Excuse me? Not everyone is a tarot reader or knowledgeable in astrology. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 16, 2014 05:52 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: Excuse me?Not everyone is a tarot reader or knowledgeable in astrology.
I think you need to go to google. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 16, 2014 06:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by Twirl: I've seen what sparked this & altough of course it would be great people live up to exchanges all the time, I think this thread/issue got sparked over the wrong person & it simply was a thing between 2 people that I'm sure both are very capable handling it themselves. Not representative of this issue of not living up to exchanges (that was up in the air for a longer time already) at all. Especially since it concerns people that are normally very giving & helping without asking anything in return.
Actually, it's concerned me and I've added people to my list of poor credit applicants. So how YOU perceive my thread is fine. It's ugly. It's theft. I addressed it.
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LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 16, 2014 06:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: To me it is perfectly okay, if someone cannot offer anything back. What I think is courtesy though, is stating clearly if you want to do an exchange or just asking for a free reading, and if offering an exchange, honour your word or, if it should not be possible (sometimes life barges in), just tell the first person so, so they don`t wait around for something that might never come.
Exactly. I, personally, decide to never read the person again. I have no problem reading for Muggles, but an exchange is an exchange.
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Twirl Knowflake Posts: 4191 From: Europe Registered: Mar 2013
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posted July 16, 2014 06:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by LoadedPistil: Actually, it's concerned me and I've added people to my list of poor credit applicants. So how YOU perceive my thread is fine. It's ugly. It's theft. I addressed it.
Glad that's clear to yourself & you were able to express that. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil Moderator Posts: 3140 From: NJ, USA Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 16, 2014 06:50 AM
quote: Originally posted by Twirl: Glad that's clear to yourself & you were able to express that.
Me, too, as well as others. IP: Logged |