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Astroboy888
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From: London
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posted August 08, 2014 11:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astroboy888     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wish i could answer this myself, ive been searching for the answer since i was a kid. i dont focus on it too much but it comes but regularly. i'm not sure if i'm a terrible person ot just unfeeling altogether. i just don't feel anything for people, atleast not emotionally. I have a charitable mentality and i like to help people who are in need like donating money or otherwise but i just dont feel any sort of empathy towards them. i feel like i help people because im obligated to or make myself think im a better person.

i think the worst moment was when my mom died a couple of years ago, i wish she was alive, but i dont feel anything towards her death in any other way, i didnt cry, i tried to, but i just didnt, that was one of the key moments in my life when i wondered have i loved anyone in my life, the same thing happened when my grandmother died and when my uncle died.

As far as relationships go, its the same, I've been in love,once, and im still hung up on her, we broke up two years ago,yet i have thought about her everyday since i met her, i havent seen her since we broke up still i think about her. i feel like iam misunderstood by people, but the girl i loved understood me from the start maybe thats why i loved her, she helped me grow as a person. There were people before her, but i wasnt it in love with any of them not like i was in love with her,ever since i broke up with her, i thought about dating other people but i just dont feel anything for the girls who approached me, even if i do its just for a moment and not as real i like it to be. I tried with this one girl after her, basically i faked love at first, then i began falling in love with her seriously, but my true colours was shown and she broke up with me in December 2013 because she told me i was too serious and unfeeling as a person, i didnt argue, i was sad. but then i realised i loved the first girl more anyway. eversince then i have given upon love, i dont remember any enjoyable thing i have done since then, im over her i dont think about her, but i cant say the same for the first girl. i judge everyone to the girl i was in love with, im ashamed everytime i do it because i personally believe judging people is wrong.

I write poetry, i guess the only way i can actually speak, i have written lots of poem about my relationships, nothing else but i havent written anything in a while because i feel drained both physically and mentally, it was the only thing i find enjoyable, and thats somewhat gone now.

It always make me laugh that even my chart looks empty ha. I've always thought cancer stellium was wrong for me because that would make me a more emotional person im not. im surprised anyone likes me outside, but most people would define me as cold, typical capricorn huh I hope somebody gives me some kind of answer, anything will do, im sure it would be better than anything i come up with

my chart:


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melodiemelodie
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From: Montreal,Qc,Canada
Registered: Jul 2014

posted August 09, 2014 12:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for melodiemelodie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good evening Astroboy!

I am quite new to astrology, so my input will be very limited and brief.

It's all the Aqua and the Cappy in your chart!!!
Also, another factor would perhaps that you have build yourself a coping mechanism as to not get too hurt, and perhaps you are indeed very emotional but have learned to distance yourself from your emotions as to not suffer. Perhaps to protect yourself, you numb yourself on purpose subconsciously...if that makes sense.

As for loving one person only truly, I have felt the same way about my exboyfriend/twinflame/soulmate whatever you want to call it. It's been over for a while now, (though he was briefly back), and I think it is perfectly normal and healthy. I don't think all relationships have to be this earth-shattering (though I'd love the drama, hahah my inner Leo revels in that s.hit) because ultimately if we are exposed to something too much we become desentisized. So if all our relationships with people were this life-altering, we'd eventually start tuning them out and not get as much as we should from them?

Does that make sense?
Anyway, I honestly feel in similar ways though I oscillate between intensity and complete detachement (Leo Sun/Aqua Moon) all the fricken time. It is quite unsettling, and frustrating but I think ultimately there are lessons for finding the perfect balance. Perhaps you can learn to allow yourself to feel some things. Also, for the empathy thing, I also think children have a lot more empathy and as we grow older and experience more pain we start shutting out others and focusing on ourselves (maybe as a method of survival, who knows?!). I am sure empathy can be worked on and developped like many other life skills. For example; I feel no sadness if you tell me about a bombing in Gaza and the amount of victims. It means very little; though I am very imaginative, it is hard to relate and feel pain or sadness. If I was to know those people, or if I see a documentary and "meet" people and am able to put human faces on a statistic, then I can feel sadness and empathy a lot easier...

Ahhh I am ranting, and I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I'm not a terrible person I swear!! And I am most certainly convinced you aren't either

Bonne nuit!

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Julz87
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posted August 09, 2014 12:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Julz87     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
They probably like you on the outside because of that ascendant in Libra, I am one as well. Yourself/ego Sun squares your ascendant so maybe your personality clashes with the way people actually perceive you to be Ascendant your Mars (drive) clashes with the way people perceive you as well. Since both those planets are squaring your ascendant they are squaring you DC as well the way you relate/establish relationships to people as well clashes.

I will be back, its late here.

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Astroboy888
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From: London
Registered: Feb 2014

posted August 09, 2014 01:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astroboy888     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by melodiemelodie:
Good evening Astroboy!

I am quite new to astrology, so my input will be very limited and brief.

It's all the Aqua and the Cappy in your chart!!!
Also, another factor would perhaps that you have build yourself a coping mechanism as to not get too hurt, and perhaps you are indeed very emotional but have learned to distance yourself from your emotions as to not suffer. Perhaps to protect yourself, you numb yourself on purpose subconsciously...if that makes sense.

As for loving one person only truly, I have felt the same way about my exboyfriend/twinflame/soulmate whatever you want to call it. It's been over for a while now, (though he was briefly back), and I think it is perfectly normal and healthy. I don't think all relationships have to be this earth-shattering (though I'd love the drama, hahah my inner Leo revels in that s.hit) because ultimately if we are exposed to something too much we become desentisized. So if all our relationships with people were this life-altering, we'd eventually start tuning them out and not get as much as we should from them?

Does that make sense?
Anyway, I honestly feel in similar ways though I oscillate between intensity and complete detachement (Leo Sun/Aqua Moon) all the fricken time. It is quite unsettling, and frustrating but I think ultimately there are lessons for finding the perfect balance. Perhaps you can learn to allow yourself to feel some things. Also, for the empathy thing, I also think children have a lot more empathy and as we grow older and experience more pain we start shutting out others and focusing on ourselves (maybe as a method of survival, who knows?!). I am sure empathy can be worked on and developped like many other life skills. For example; I feel no sadness if you tell me about a bombing in Gaza and the amount of victims. It means very little; though I am very imaginative, it is hard to relate and feel pain or sadness. If I was to know those people, or if I see a documentary and "meet" people and am able to put human faces on a statistic, then I can feel sadness and empathy a lot easier...

Ahhh I am ranting, and I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I'm not a terrible person I swear!! And I am most certainly convinced you aren't either

Bonne nuit!


Hey mm, thanks for the post i get ya, and besides we both know my post was just a rant anyway to some degree i agree with you about the protecting myself. lol its strange you mentioned gaza, actually that was one of the main reasons that prompted me to post this, i saw a charity's ad for donations on tv and all i could think was about my numbness because they were showing kids covered with flies and stuff trying to guilt me to do something, then i just thought fukk it, i donated money.

About the love thing tho, i feel pretty detached about the whole thing, thanks to libra, relationships are on my mind pretty much all the time, atleast until 2013, now its just why bother? i was a crazy optimist who neglected every negative and thought everything's going to be alright in the end, i sincerely believe optimism is my best quality, its fading, maybe im growing up like u said, idk man.

that girl, we were on and off for 8 months straight, purely because she was already in a relationship lol, thankfully her bf was a bigger dick than me, so it happened, the drama. I always felt like relationships have life because of the drama tbh, otherwise it's just a weekend of sex for me. it makes sense cos she was a really good-looking girl plus she had a boyfriend at the time, so that made it exciting for me,thats not why i loved her, but thats why i pursued her because i enjoyed the fact that i was 'stealing' her from someone. im not a player or anything tho, i felt like she was my soul mate and besides i spent 2 months wooing her, i didnt want to got to waste. it was the kind of thing i wish it didnt happen yet im glad it did, cos this relationship shouldve happened in my 30s or so. i blame libra for everything tho, that little demon has been screwing up my relationships with idealism for years.

lol i wish could fake empathy, but noooo im far too noble for that, i have too much pride to do it, that has Capricorn written all over it. and i get really uncomfortable when people start crying around me. Jheez im like the poster boy for capricorn, thats why i never post stuff like this on here, cos people would come back to it. but you hit the spot tho, it takes an aquarius moon to understand another

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Astroboy888
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From: London
Registered: Feb 2014

posted August 09, 2014 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astroboy888     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Julz87:
They probably like you on the outside because of that ascendant in Libra, I am one as well. Yourself/ego Sun squares your ascendant so maybe your personality clashes with the way people actually perceive you to be Ascendant your Mars (drive) clashes with the way people perceive you as well. Since both those planets are squaring your ascendant they are squaring you DC as well the way you relate/establish relationships to people as well clashes.

I will be back, its late here.


Makes sense cos when people first meet me, its all smiles, then its downhill lol :P thanks for your insight Julz87

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