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Topic: exchange? the cause of this?
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whitewitch111
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From: Hillsboro, OR, USA
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posted August 28, 2014 10:53 AM
  
SO...I would like to know what is the cause of his sexual problems, I'm leaning that they are psychological, but why? Did something happen to him? Or is he just afraid? Or is it me? Stress?Please leave q below.  IP: Logged |
Twitterbird05
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posted August 28, 2014 12:31 PM
Hi whitewitch, I've seen you asking about this question a lot. Have you had an honest conversation with him about these issues? I know it's hard but maybe you can help him figure things out.IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 01:42 PM
I honestly don't even know where to begin with it...I've tried but it gets us nowhere...IP: Logged |
Twitterbird05
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posted August 28, 2014 02:19 PM
ok so, let me try and piece some things together about this relationship from what you've said on LL. correct me if I'm wrong about anything.your boyfriend is significantly older than you, you guys are living with his parents or some other relatives, you have wanted off and on to get pregnant, have had maybe more than one miscarriage/issue with pregnancy, you want to move out on your own together, he has sexual issues, sometimes you think he's cheating. is this right? IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 02:23 PM
We were living with my mom...we have our own place now...other then that...its all right. One miscarriage, which I'm honestly amazed I even got pregnant...IP: Logged |
Twitterbird05
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posted August 28, 2014 02:25 PM
ok, thanks. a few more questions. do you want children now? what are you wanting to move towards right now? (can be anything, I'm not implying marriage) IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 02:27 PM
I dream of children i do want them...but honestly...for now...I just want a good sex life..IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 02:45 PM
Are you there twitter?? Do you have a q?? IP: Logged |
Twitterbird05
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posted August 28, 2014 02:47 PM
hmm yeah I think talking about it more and/or seeking out therapy might be the best thing. you probably already know this but guys feel a lot of pressure to perform and can get very in their heads about sex. women can too but this doesn't stop sex altogether in the same way.it also takes a lot to dig feelings out of some guys, they need to be asked a lot of specific questions to get to the bottom of what's going on. I hope you find a good solution. try your best to talk to him in ways that don't create more pressure, make sure he feels accepted and loved so he can relax. IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 02:51 PM
ok, thank you. So you think it definitely is a pressure to perform that is the issue? You don't think he had a bad experience with a woman that turned him off to sex?IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 02:54 PM
Do you think he would be able to perform better with another woman? I worry he's cheating and that he has fine sex with her...IP: Logged |
peacefulclouds
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From: somewhere in south and the east
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posted August 28, 2014 03:11 PM
Do you bring up babies to him? or wish to have babies ? Sometimes guys get pretty antsy about it and the pressure brings them down, even if u dont ask them to have babies with you (but they know you really want a baby) not saying you're wrong, on the contrary perhaps it's incompatibility IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 03:12 PM
I do bring up babies a lot to him....almost every day actually...IP: Logged |
peacefulclouds
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posted August 28, 2014 04:16 PM
then seems like that probably put a damper in his sexual needs-IF he goes to other women, probably because he felt less pressured about that (babies). but do not take my word as if he actually cheated, I dont know but just my 2 cents about his possible reasoning if he's like most men IP: Logged |
whitewitch111
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posted August 28, 2014 04:17 PM
ok...thank you... IP: Logged |
Twitterbird05
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posted August 28, 2014 04:42 PM
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Originally posted by whitewitch111:
ok, thank you. So you think it definitely is a pressure to perform that is the issue? You don't think he had a bad experience with a woman that turned him off to sex?
I think these are questions you need to ask him. My question for the Tarot is why did M invite me to his birthday?
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Twitterbird05
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posted August 29, 2014 11:38 AM
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Twitterbird05
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posted August 30, 2014 11:34 AM
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carm76
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posted August 30, 2014 12:01 PM
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Originally posted by peacefulclouds:
then seems like that probably put a damper in his sexual needs-IF he goes to other women, probably because he felt less pressured about that (babies). but do not take my word as if he actually cheated, I dont know but just my 2 cents about his possible reasoning if he's like most men
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All The Best
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carm76
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posted August 30, 2014 12:10 PM
My question for the Tarot is why did M invite me to his birthday?[/B][/QUOTE]Twitter, Card 1- Break Free. Try different ventures and experiences as a way to grow and learn. Swim outside your comfort zone, test the water and explore new ways of thinking or being in relationships. Card 2- Protection. You are safe and protect by heaven. Card 3- A new Dawn- The worst is behind you, positive new experiences are on the horizon.
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Twitterbird05
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posted August 30, 2014 04:18 PM
that doesn't answer my question.IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen
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posted August 30, 2014 04:19 PM
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Originally posted by Twitterbird05:
that doesn't answer my question.
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