posted August 28, 2014 02:06 PM            

No, not at all. And definitely not physically. What I do see here is that when you two find yourselves in a "heated moment", he could get a bit immature in the sense that he would say things out of impulse, only meant to hurt you. He would not mean those things, but in that moment the hurt he'd feel inside could transform itself in a thorn ready to attack & hurt whoever created and/or touches it. But actually, if you give him some time, he is able to realize where and how he did wrong. He just has trouble dealing and processing a certain type of emotions... But in fact, he is a very loving and sweet guy who has a good heart. I can see him being protective towards you as you mentioned and he'd definitely make you feel very loved. You will just require a bit of patience to deal with that side of him. I don't see physical violence at all, hun!

I hope this helps you.

posted August 28, 2014 03:46 PM            

There may take a lot of discipline to make this relationship work for one of you may start to feel a lack of passion that turns into frustration. This leads to constant bickering and arguments. During this downfall in the union, (I'm assuming A) could get caught up in the hopeless act of infidelity or some form betrayal.

Then I asked, "Can Adimi and A make there relationship work?"
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It seems like the conflict between the two of you is difficult, if not impossible to avoid. However, if you somehow can surrender yourselves to the experience and move passed it you just may be able to turn things around. After all, once you've hit rock bottom you can only go up.

posted August 29, 2014 05:56 AM            

Argh... Things have not been easy. He did show a big interest in trying to make this work, but I feel there are things he's not telling me... Thanks for being honest. It hurts but if I need to move on, then that's what I'll do. I just can't allow someone to play around with my emotions like this.

posted August 29, 2014 05:49 PM            

Yes, I'd like to ask another question actually, if you're up for it...

Just to give you a bit of background...
We have been talking on Skype and the last thing he told me was "If you don't want to have anything with me, tell me please... I don't want to be illuded.". This was on Monday. On that day, he wrote a bunch of stuff saying how much he wanted me and the one thing he didn't want was to lose me for good etc... I felt that maybe we could be getting to a good place again!
I replied to him on the following day and I told him how much I want him. I also said, naturally, I had some fears, but that's not what is going to make me give up on him. Etcetc...
Today is Friday and he hasn't said anything yet. I know not many days have passed yet, but we used to talk everyday before and he would always make time for me, somehow... Lately, he just doesn't. He spends days without talking to me and he explained why before we reconnected, I thought we were past that and trying to work things out, and now here's the silence again... I just don't understand why...

So that is my question Moonfish: Why didn't he say anything yet?

Oh, and today I was supposed to send a file to a friend I was talking to there, but I opened the conversation with A., just to confirm he hasn't said anything yet, and ended up sending the file to him, somehow. I immediatly cancelled it but I felt so embarrassed... I really didn't want to say/do anything before he reaches out to me, I don't want to seem clingy or something like that.

posted August 29, 2014 06:31 PM            

It's okay! Hmm very interesting. So here is what's got.
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He seems to be overwhelmed by your statement of having fears. Perhaps this triggered a form of guilt or fears of his own. At this time, he wants to focus on regrouping before he decides to respond back, for now talking to you makes him feel vulnerable in some way.

"How does A feel about Adimi?"
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To him, you are someone who embodies trust, loyalty, and comfort in moments where he feels lonely and insecure. However, this also makes him feel inferior to you because he doesn't think he can give you the same feelings in return.

posted August 29, 2014 06:53 PM            

Well D has worked with my parents under the same company for a long time. Last year, I too got a job in the same building but in a different department.

When me and D starting talking it wasn't long until I decided to ask him out. At first he was interested but than he admitted that it would be uncomfortable dating the daughter of two people he has worked with.

posted August 30, 2014 01:49 PM            

Will he change his mind and go out with me?

Alrighty, I have good and bad news. Bad news is he will still be very much cautious about all of this. He will feel right away it would be wrong and this an idea he will not easily let go of. He is a guy with "strong ideas", he has a very fixed mind when it comes to his morals and beliefs... You will have to give him some time to get adjusted to the idea of you two being together as in more than friends. I actually do see you guys interacting much more in a friendly way, getting to know each other without necessarily being on a date... And this will make him consider go on a date with you because he certainly likes you for who you are, and if it wasn't because you are his boss's daughter, I'm sure you'd be together by now. He does feel a pull towards you, but he tries to block that and pretend it does not exist. However, it's there and he won't be able to hold that back at a certain point. I do see him agreeing to go on a date with you eventually.

Is there any chance of a successful relationship between us?

OH YES! Girl... I don't want to sound overly enthusiastic here (I do have that tendency - Jupiter influenced chart eheh), but this would be such a strong match! Like I already saw before, he'd make you feel so much loved and happy in ways you can't even imagine right now. With him, I get the sense of him feeling "at home"... I get that warm, cozy feeling, like I want to put my arms around you and not let go... He will want to take care of you and you won't even have to do much to make him want to show his caring side to you. In a whole, this would be a very grounded and stable relationship actually, with both of you knowing exactly where each other stands. There will be an openess in sharing thoughts and feelings that you'll find unusual (comparing to previous experiences), but it will be for the better and it will create a strong spiritual bond. I don't see it happening that fast though, you getting together romantically... That is because he's not ready yet and you know why. But he'll change his mind once he sees you more and has more interaction with you. He'll be able to separate his personal life from his professional life, despite you two working at the same place and you being his boss's daughter. What he feels towards you will speak louder.

posted August 30, 2014 02:07 PM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
"Does a truly want to be with Adimi?"
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Ugh, I don't like this one but here goes. When you're not together his feelings for you tend to come and go rather quickly. HOWEVER, it seems as though every time you start contacting each other again the passion builds back up. It's just a matter if you stay around or not. Granted he is making an effort which means he definitely has hope that you two could have a future.

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You know... I haven't looked at things on that perspective, but you're probably right. It makes me so sad that he could easily forget about me when I'm not around (plus we actually have physical distance as an obstacle)... It really does, specially after all that he's told me. I think he meant those things, but like you said, he probaly only feels that passion in the moment he is in contact with me.

Thank you so much again... I'm feeling very torn and conflicted about this and, of course, I still have no words from him... I don't see this lasting much longer, but I wish he wouldn't just leave me hanging... I don't think I deserve that.

posted August 30, 2014 02:11 PM            

But yea, everything else fits aswell. In regards to his feelings, I can see why he doesn't feel like he can give me the same feelings in return because in the past I had many doubts about his true intentions towards me. So now he feels like I don't understand what he really wants from me. Which is right at some level, because he keeps giving me mixed signals... He says one thing, only to do something which shows the opposite thing to what he said.

posted September 02, 2014 02:18 PM            

Oh, things are pretty much the same... He hasn't said anything until now. I've thought about reaching out to him many times but I don't think I will this time. I have done it once and he had his chance... If he doesn't contact me, it's probably because he doesn't like me or want me as much as he was claiming to... It's not easy to deal with the way things are apparently ending between us, but if that's what he wants, that's what he'll get... I won't force my presence in anyone's life, ever.

posted September 03, 2014 10:26 AM            

You know, I feel that aswell... I think he may be hoping that I say something to him, in spite of me having been the last one to reach out. That's what happened the last time... I said something and he went silent. Then I sent him a "final message" and he replied immediatly. If he thinks I'll be running after him, he's in for a surprise. Right, he may still see me as a possibility, but he probably isn't as into it as I am... At least, that's what he's telling me with his attitudes. I'll give you some update, if something happens...

posted September 05, 2014 12:56 PM            

Aww, thank you so much for those lovely words! It means a lot. You're a great woman yourself and have qualities that everyone would appreciatte to see in someone, trust that.

A. reached out to me on Wednesday night, by the way... However, he only said "...". Ugh. I really don't understand this guy. I replied yesterday... I gave him a punctuational answer aswell lol: "?...". Later, I said "Things would be much simpler if only you'd talk to me...". Now I just have to wait for the answer, I guess, who knows for how long...

posted September 05, 2014 01:27 PM            

Alright, first of all: Would he cheat on you? No. Absolutely not! Never, that is out of question and out of sync with who he is. He'd never do that to anyone, so don't worry!

In regards to their connection - you're right. I can feel the compatibility there. They are similar in nature. To be honest, I do feel there's the possibility that your friend G. could develop an attraction for this guy... I'm getting some vibes from her that feel to be romantic in nature, but very light-hearted aswell. So I'd say, if you weren't in the mix, she could easily let herself get a crush on him. Since you are in the mix, she would feel very torn, and in spite of not being able to control the feelings of attraction, she wouldn't make any action to push things to another level between her and D. . She would respect your thing. But I don't see her being "head over heals" for him or totally "in love" per say, it would be just a flirty type of thing.

I don't think D. would see her as a romantic interest... I get the feeling that, once he is committed to someone, he doesn't even allow himself to think of any other person as a romantic interest. Yes, he'd really like her as a person and I feel their intelects would connect well... The communication would flow easily, the interests would be similar, just as their thought proccess etc. . He would connect to her mentally, but no more than that.