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Topic: @Tphoenix5
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intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 02:45 PM
  
Are you here by any chance? I need to ask you somethingIP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 03:05 PM
Peeking in a bit... but don't know how long... Go for it!IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 03:09 PM
OMG so something bad happened i need to ask someone neutral i dont know what to do.So. I met up with As ex a week ago and we talked and bonded and she told me some things about him... and she called him yesterday and mentioned I met her and how nice I am and blabla and now he sent me this rude text that do i have nothing better to do than to stalk people and to F*** off from him !! I didnt reply
I dont even know what to do or say?
Why did he do it and will he calm down and talk to me normaly?
I guess what you saw wont happen 
but I really need help :/
pls what you get on this
also should I reply ? IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
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posted September 09, 2014 03:14 PM
Intuitive,Well the feeling I get is that your friend did you no favors. I would blow him off and by that I mean... say something to the effect of you THOUGHT he was cute but now you just think he's an ASS er something in your language like that. He seemed to be a willing person until this thing. Now he feels like he is withdrawing from everyone ... not just you. He has a problem with moodiness..... welcome to his world... So, do not let him off the hook because he called you out. Tell him and this is most probably the truth... things were taken out of context. But before you do anything CALM DOWN... you are causing my monitor to have flash burns...tee hee. T IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 03:18 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
Intuitive,Well the feeling I get is that your friend did you no favors. I would blow him off and by that I mean... say something to the effect of you THOUGHT he was cute but now you just think he's an ASS er something in your language like that. He seemed to be a willing person until this thing. Now he feels like he is withdrawing from everyone ... not just you. He has a problem with moodiness..... welcome to his world... So, do not let him off the hook because he called you out. Tell him and this is most probably the truth... things were taken out of context. But before you do anything CALM DOWN... you are causing my monitor to have flash burns...tee hee. T
Im sorry and thank you !
I never expected him to be so rude, he never ever was this rude to me!
I wouldnt even know what to say except call him an ******* also.
Maybe he calms down but I doubt he will ever appologise
I get a sense he is drinking also, his text is badly written like totally wrong words used.
She told me things about him and I bet he doesnt like that I know this now cos it shows how much more of a bad guy he is. Uhhhh what a turn of events I did wish to have a nice talk with him, I guess this wont happen
I guess this is good bye to him IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 03:35 PM
Yes, I definitely get the feeling he is drinking and may drink more than you want in someone special. I do not get the feeling this is over... but I do think you should calm down too. He is moody... The apology that you are owed.... it may come. The real thing is to try and mend the fence before it goes too long. That said... its not today. Give the fire time to cool... Breathe. All this sounds cliché but its true. You will feel differently once you sleep on it. When you wake tomorrow.... you may have an even better take on what to do.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 03:39 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
Yes, I definitely get the feeling he is drinking and may drink more than you want in someone special. I do not get the feeling this is over... but I do think you should calm down too. He is moody... The apology that you are owed.... it may come. The real thing is to try and mend the fence before it goes too long. That said... its not today. Give the fire time to cool... Breathe. All this sounds cliché but its true. You will feel differently once you sleep on it. When you wake tomorrow.... you may have an even better take on what to do.
well he just called me a psycho
Thank you on your help you gave me more help than I imagined
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tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 04:21 PM
Uh, not sure I gave you more help than imagined? Not sure I understand that? Huh????? You mean I did help or not really. I think you need to give him some space.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted September 09, 2014 04:37 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
Uh, not sure I gave you more help than imagined? Not sure I understand that? Huh????? You mean I did help or not really. I think you need to give him some space.
you helped me more than i ever thought you would. good not bad  IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
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posted September 09, 2014 04:46 PM
I aims to be helpful!T May I ask you another question, if that is ok? IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 04:49 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
I aims to be helpful!T May I ask you another question, if that is ok?
sure yes go ahead i am calmed down now IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 04:55 PM
how do they perceive me at my current job (HCC)IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted September 09, 2014 05:01 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
how do they perceive me at my current job (HCC)
One person is glad you are at this job, I would say a female, younger person. Others are so-so.
Someone is being stuborn about it, like they have their opinion and wont budge on it.
I would say that some look at is like good you are making income. But nothing more than that. But yes, there is a person a male who is bleh i dont know, like oh yes that silly job.
Others are more like Ok good its a job, I dont quite see anyone be extreme bad about it IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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posted September 09, 2014 05:08 PM
THank you.... its hard because this is a job that does a hundred things but not all the time or at once. THank you... I do not work with any men... at least not yet.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted September 09, 2014 05:10 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
THank you.... its hard because this is a job that does a hundred things but not all the time or at once. THank you... I do not work with any men... at least not yet.
omg i misread you question sorry wait let me do it again, i thoguht you meant your family IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 05:18 PM
OK !
first word I got was : LIKE
I dont see any gossiping or anything like that
I do see little groups and maybe sometimes you feeling excluded but I see you are more focused on working than being in groups.
I again do not pick up any bad vibes I get mostly so-so vibes and also some are interested in you and the way you work. I dont know if there is some younger blonde or just younger, someone who is glad you are there. Others dont have any bad or strong feelingIP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 05:22 PM
The younger blonde is my BIG boss. I think she picked me. My immediate boss would probably have chosen someone a bit younger. But I tell war stories (army) and stories of the different colleges I have attended (this is a college). Yes, they all meet and close the door and it could be anything ... but I like this job... if it does not pertain to me... So be it!Thank you... yeah... my family really could care less.... if I am alive or dead or anything... I wish that were not true but it is. I do not cotton to their ways any more than they cotton to mine. Thank you! IP: Logged |
MiaPluto
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From: Montreal, Quebec, Canada
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 05:23 PM
@intuitivefishHi my kind friend can I please ask you for an urgent help pls pls pls I would like to know if tomorrow I will get admitted to college will there be a seat left for me? It is the last day tomorrow! IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 05:25 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
The younger blonde is my BIG boss. I think she picked me. My immediate boss would probably have chosen someone a bit younger. But I tell war stories (army) and stories of the different colleges I have attended (this is a college). Yes, they all meet and close the door and it could be anything ... but I like this job... if it does not pertain to me... So be it!Thank you... yeah... my family really could care less.... if I am alive or dead or anything... I wish that were not true but it is. I do not cotton to their ways any more than they cotton to mine. Thank you!
wow i surprise myself
I happy to help you as much as I can and glad to resonate with you.
dont worry over the groups, you do your job and let them be how they want to be it does not reflect personaly on you what so ever. please ask what you need any time I am glad to do these exchanges
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intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 05:28 PM
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Originally posted by MiaPluto:
@intuitivefishHi my kind friend can I please ask you for an urgent help pls pls pls I would like to know if tomorrow I will get admitted to college will there be a seat left for me? It is the last day tomorrow!
Sorry but I got a "no" . only way they might is if someone drops out at last minute. I think you should ber persistant and ask and ask but in person be like - hi i am here and please let me know and wait at the door IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 05:32 PM
Phoenixcan I ask you, do you see this man my ex "a" talk to me again really ? I mean do you see him in a nicer light to try and mend things ? IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 06:02 PM
When I ask the question my heart literally hurts. I feel he has the same deep seated emotions you do. The problem is that both of you see only the one side of the story and not that there is a middle road. As you begin to see things a bit differently, so will he. Right now he is upset and he does not want anyone to know you got to him in that way. He likes to see himself as Cool hand luke... but .... he is really susceptible to you ... you make him vulnerable and he loves and hates the feeling.Does this make sense? IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 06:12 PM
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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
When I ask the question my heart literally hurts. I feel he has the same deep seated emotions you do. The problem is that both of you see only the one side of the story and not that there is a middle road. As you begin to see things a bit differently, so will he. Right now he is upset and he does not want anyone to know you got to him in that way. He likes to see himself as Cool hand luke... but .... he is really susceptible to you ... you make him vulnerable and he loves and hates the feeling.Does this make sense?
yes it does. I KNOW in all my hearts he loves me.
never was he so mean to me I dont think I will be able to reach out after this one, he was too mean to me.
if only he saw me meeting her was a good thing, I bonded and saw some things but it did not make me feel less of him. I have a heart where I am able to forgive but I have to say stop also.
I belive it is up to him to show the hand of peace and be humble.
I am able to recive it well if he can show he saw error in his ways
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tphoenix5
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted September 09, 2014 06:16 PM
Love and hate are on the same continuum. If he were indifferent towards you... it might be a different story. I say this because I have indifferent feelings toward some of my past relations that ... I thought I would always love, always.... blah blah blah... and now I could see them and speak with them and nothing... just indifferent. So when you are dwelling over how mean he was... remember ... its because you GET to him... and that should help ease the pain.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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From: Europe
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2014 06:22 PM
I understand you completley.
I also have another ex who I can fight with all day long and not shed a tear I blocked him the other day without a care in the world.
But this one.. yeah... it hurts deep and he knows it.instead of being normal and asking " hey how come you met her " he said " you stalking psycho" But yeah.. maybe after a few days he will see he said things he did not mean.
Hopefully it will get him to change and reach out. .. all of this.. so pointless, he is being upset over nothing. IP: Logged |
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