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rajin
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posted September 30, 2014 06:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rajin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I lost my dad on the 29th of July at about 7.30 am IST. He had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on 1st May. I never thought I would lose him so soon.
To add to my grief my mom was also diagnosed with ovarian cancer, she underwent surgery and chemo around the same time.
Is there anything in my chart that indicates this overwhelmingly sorrowful period? I am worried for my mom and I don't see how I can survive if I lose her too.
Can someone take a look at my chart please to see if the tides are changing?
My DOB is 22 Nov 1971, 2.19 pm Bombay, India.
Thank you very much.
Any help in understanding this grief will help.

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posted September 30, 2014 06:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not very good with reading charts like this rajin but I'm sorry for your loss. Fingers crossed that everything smooths out for you sooner than later. ((hugs))

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rajin
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posted September 30, 2014 06:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rajin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you very much for your kind words. It has been a very difficult year for me and my mom. She lost her best friend of 50+ years, they knew each other for a very long time. Plus she underwent major surgery and gruelling chemo sessions in the midst of his loss.
I am hoping that she does not have a relapse. Wont be able to bear another loss.

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posted September 30, 2014 07:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leoeve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Rajin!

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I've lost my father to cancer as well, in December 2012. There are no shortcuts to grief, and only time can lessen it somehow, although I'm sure it'll never disappear completely.
One thing that help me was changing my perspective on how I remembered him. Instead of thinking about myself, how pitiful I felt, how he'll never see ME get married, he'll never see ME graduate, etc. When it stopped being about how I felt, and how I honored his memory, the tears slowly began to be replaced with a smile. Not a happy smile, but still, a smile. Now I smile everytime I see a DVD sale and think how he'd love all this stuff, jumping across the racks, picking up his favourites and come over to spoil the story before I've even watched the movie. I smile when I smell someone using the same perfume he used to. Little, simple things.

I don't know how my transits were like at the time he died, but I think it was not half bad actually!

In December 2013, almost exactly 1 year later to his death, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. It's been a battle of endless exams, specialist appointments, and exhausting treatments. It's now October and she just got the news: everything is fine and she's gonna make it

I had saturn squaring my sun, venus, mars and mercury... only aspect I can remember. I'm not good with charts and transits, but I read what you wrote and found it so similar to my past experience I thought you could use some encouragement.

Sending good vibes to your mother, and be strong! She'll need it too.
We may feel bad because of so many bad things are happening to us, sometimes we forget it's them who have the disease and are having the hardest time.

Lots of love.

Hugs <3

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rajin
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posted September 30, 2014 07:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rajin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks a ton for your understanding. I realize my mom faces a bigger challenge than me. Sometimes my grief causes her more pain and I feel helpless against it. I should not cause her any more agony, but she is the only one who shared similar experiences about him. We were a tight unit, one for all all for one. Now it feels like we are lost and can't figure out how to move forward and like life has lost its meaning.
Thank you so much for your good wishes. Hope your mom stays in remission.

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rajin
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posted October 01, 2014 12:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rajin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How did you cope with the grief and loss for the first year? People tell me the pain dulls after a while but for me it feels very raw and I seem to find no closure at all.

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