posted October 01, 2014 10:02 PM            

No matter what happens in life there is always hope. You are an exceptionally strong person to have withstood abuse and know that you will and can be truly loved by someone the way you deserve.

posted October 02, 2014 07:56 AM            

I'm sorry that you were abused. Unfortunately, you won't get past it until you deal with it. I don't know if you can get access to healthcare, but I recommend that you see a doctor and tell him/her what happened to you so that you can psychiatric help. Abuse is traumatic and unless you talk to a professional about it, you will most likely become more depressed.

It took a long time for me to realize that I was abused as a child, but when the light bulb turned on, I, in fact, slipped into a deep depression. I struggled every day until I overdosed on acetaminophen and admitted myself to a hospital. After that, I was granted access to a lot of resources that helped me out tremendously. I do not recommend that you do what I did; I just strongly encourage you to seek professional help.

In my opinion (I'm not a doctor), you may never "get over" the abuse; however, you will learn how to cope with and live happily as an abuse survivor. I don't have to do a reading -- though, I wouldn't be good for that anyway -- to know that there will be better days in your future.

Everyone wants to be accepted. You're only 21 years old, so you have a lot of time to discover yourself and find 'your people.' Trust me, I felt the same way when I was your age (I'm 25 now).

I recommend that you focus on your healing for a little while. You will absolutely find a partner, but it wouldn't be fair to whomever that person may be if you go into the relationship broken and reliant on him/her to fix your sadness.

I've been clinically depressed for 16 months now and though I feel like I should give up sometimes, I hope that I won't. I hope the same for you as well. We can and will overcome this.

posted October 02, 2014 03:13 PM            

THANK YOU.

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Originally posted by deepseablues:
I would not suggest medication! I have suffered from suicidal depressions since I was 12 but I have always known in my heart and soul that the medications would kill me for sure, in a worse slower and unpleasant way. Medications can screw up the body and mind worse, they can make it so your body cannot properly absorb nutrients and can also make it so that the third eye cannot open. The chemical imbalances can be dealt with other ways, through herbs, proper balanced diet, meditation, working on self healing through positive thoughts (even though it seems nearly impossible to be positive when suffering depression) etc. Pharmaceuticals are evil and do more damage than good!! More can be gained by working through the depressions than medicating them away with pharmaceuticals

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posted October 02, 2014 06:33 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:

PLEASE USE DISCRETION WHEN GIVING AND ACCEPTING MEDICAL ADVICE.

THANK YOU.

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The medical system is a joke that harms more people than it helps. Did you know there have been natural cures for cancer for hundreds of years? For all of time actually? And the medical system refuses to look. Western medicine is all about making money. It's time to wake up.

posted October 02, 2014 09:24 PM            

Take this one day at time, every little positive thing you do or feel should be considered a victory. What passions do you have? What is it you like to do? As you are working through this, think about doing things not because you 'have,' to but rather showing yourself love and self-compassion. Let yourself heal: cry, laugh, write, play, meditate, or whatever will help you to get in touch with the inside. It doesn't matter if this guy likes you or not, what truly matter is whether you love yourself or not.

posted October 02, 2014 10:14 PM            

Emergency medical care for things like ebola, severed limbs, car crashes etc, is different than being prescribed meds for certain things. I am not saying its shameful to take meds, just often unnecessary. What if your sister had never gone on then meds in the first place? Then coming off of them would not have the same effect, these meds can also mess with chemical "imbalances" in the brain, as much as any drug, including causing dependence on it so when you try to come off it causes further/worse damage. There are things that can be learned by never going on them in the first place and seeking different methods and looking within. I believe it was Linda Goodman who said about the meds being unable to open the third eye if taken for prolonged period, but I do not have it marked so cannot quote directly. I have also taken medical advice of sorts (not anti-depressants as I have always known that these would make me worse, I would die if I was forced on them- many people in mental institutions have nothing wrong with them, it is just how society is looking at it/dealing with it that is the problem) that ended up making me worse off then if I had never taken the advice in the first place. I was advised a biopsy for a cancer "possibility" when I don't have cancer and the "simple" biopsy affected my body in very negative ways, they then wanted to do further experimental and unnecessary procedures that would have harmed me further. I have studied some herbal and natural holistic healing methods and I think its important to try these before going straight to the western medical system.

We need to accept that it is OKAY to be depressed and going through depression, not instantly recommend to someone to go on meds. There are reasons for depressions, your body and soul are trying to communicate something to you about what is not right/ok and it is better to try and find that first by looking and listening within than to rush off to pop "happy" pills. If we could all talk about our issues and not be expected to "put on a happy face" and not be told that its not ok to feel what we are feeling we would grow and learn much more as a society than keeping every thing behind closed doors and medications.

I am not giving medical advice. I am giving an opinion from someone who has suffered severe depression my whole life and been told by many to go on meds but knowing intuitively that this would be my true downfall. But people don't want to listen to the truth or believe that I could know something intuitively about myself or want to take the time to hear how I'm truly feeling so they have tried to tell me that what I feel or think "isn't ok." But the truth is I have learned so much more about myself and life by working through it and listening to my bodies screaming demands and NO'S to even the thought of medications. Even for simple things that could be cured quite readily by other means doc's have tried to prescribe an easy one off pill that comes with a 2 page list in capitals of all the horrible possible side effects including death, liver failure and cancer. Working through the issues even if it takes years is better than those odds.

I have known many that have been "guinea pigs" to the medical system and have been more hurt through it and even lost parts (one friend lost an eye due to being a guinea pig and experiment to doctor's that had no idea what the true problem was so continued to prescribe things that in the end worsened the condition and caused him to lose his eye forever). This may not have happened had he sought alternative methods first. We need to look at the larger picture here.

How come it ok for the people that told her to go to a doc and go on meds, but I say that I wouldn't suggest that and I'm being attacked for "trying to give medical advice." Telling someone to take a medication is giving more medical advice than saying maybe one shouldn't take the medication and try alternative therapies first. And further more I'm not giving medical advice its merely an opinion. But people are instantly more open to hearing, yes take some medication! That is just backwards. I just think humanity needs to open its eyes more. What about when we never had these medications to begin with? Seems to me that things have gotten worse since we started with the pharmaceuticals. I have a herbal book with many documented cases that were given up to die by regular doctor's yet "miraculously healed" by longer, more natural methods and truly caring people, who were not looking for money.

Sorry if I hijacked this thread I just wish people could be more open to not instantly say take meds if you are depressed.

Sorry I do not have the ability to give you a reading ScorpioLove I can only tell you what has helped me work through my intense depressions, and I have been through many forms of abuse and abandoment, through family and otherwise, so I understand how hard depression can be, how hard it is to see the light. I have spent days where I did nothing but cry from the moment I woke till I went to sleep. I begged the universe for help and answers and slowly they did and do start to come, but it is a much longer more difficult process than going on medication.

posted October 02, 2014 10:17 PM            

Hugs to you. I dont know how to do the reading but I pray that you should get well soon. And dont worry, you are still 21. You will come across a nice man who would understand your feelings and make you more stronger. just be strong enough until then.

posted October 02, 2014 11:14 PM            

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Originally posted by iQ:
Hi Abcd,

We have to start by performing deep breathing to enter a state of relaxation. Best to switch off all electronic gadgets and be away from electricity as well. Sitting in your garden is ideal.

After a minute or two of breathing, you must visualize your own Highest State of Being, connected by a Silver or Golden Cord to your Crown Chakra. This is your Superconsciousness or Oversoul or Higher Self as written by Linda in Star Signs.

Visualize golden light entering your spine and then your Aura [including body] through your feet, clearing all debris of negative thoughts, negative feelings and negativity ever felt by you out through your Crown CHakra. Imagine all negative bits of mud flowing out. Do this till you can imagine only the golden light going back up. This is cleansing. Deep breathing all the while.

You can use bright pale pink or even violet for this. Gold is the highest frequency for this purpose just like violet is used for shielding. Advanced practitioner use bright white.

Next,
Verbally affirm forgiveness for all those who contributed to your genetics. Visualize a ladder with 4 rungs in your Pineal Gland, in Amber Colour. Send Pale Pink to that from your heart and from your Crown. Watch all dark bits escape that PI symbol again out through your Crown into your Higher Self.
You can even visualize a Double Helix DNA molecule if you can hold the image in your head.

Next, fill yourself with Pale Pink so that the voids of eliminated negativity are filled with the energy of unconditional love.

Repeat the affirmations 5-7 times in any language.

This is not a religious ceremony, improvise as you please.

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posted October 02, 2014 11:25 PM            

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Originally posted by ScorpioLove:
If someone can get a chance for the reading it would be great, and also does anyone know any helpful tips on meditation? I would like to start looking into it, but find it hard to focus

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Hi, first of all, i'm sorry to hear you're going through this. It gets better, we're not lying! (we being people who got through depression)
As for the meditation, you can try looking into mindfulness techniques. It's not even something spiritual or religious, and highly recommended by mental health professionals.
Basically, you can start with just taking long breaths. inhale through your nose counting to 10, keep it in for about 6 seconds, and exhale through your mouth, emptying your lungs completely, slowly, in about 10 seconds. Keep doing that, you can do it a bit faster if it's too hard but not too fast - breathing quickly can increase heart rate and anxiety.
when thoughts come to you, simply let them be. Acknowledge that you had this thought, and simply let it go. There's no point making it go away. It may keep coming back at first - this is normal and you don't need to be alarmed. The key is acceptance.
be content, you deserve it. put yourself before anything else for a while.