posted October 06, 2014 12:35 AM            

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Originally posted by LuckyStar:
Hi Cherful,
You did a reading for me that was so spot on! Can I get another?
Thank you

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posted October 06, 2014 01:56 AM            

Yay, i was born with it but in the last few years started to really hone in on it and develop it, but now im stopping. I hate it. And im glad i was correct with ur readings, but really im not god so who is to stay of anyone of us what will be or wont be. I use to be addicted to psychics and astrologers, and 95% of the time, the info is wrong...wrong predication. But i "get" how they come up with the answers and its totally unethical! So really i dont believe in predications...a person cannot control the other person's mind...thus u can't predicate what another human being's actions are going to be. That's when people say: Oh free will...blah blah blah, when really they should be saying: I can't predicate, its impossible to know what another human being is going to be thinking one day and then the next plus what he/she choices to do in regards to their actions.

So take what I say with a grain of salt as well. ok, enough with my rant.

So for your questions....
I don't sense that this marriage is hopeless...but if u were hoping for it to get better/improve in a lot of way, sorry I just dont see that happening.

Again, I could be wrong, I'm not God. But that's what i am getting. I hope for ur sake ur will get to the point of were u do need to be or gain enough confidence to throw in the towel. move on. marry better. it will always be like this until u both simply stop talking and take seperate rooms. Is this really how u want to live ur life? there's nothing wrong with ending something that isn't working. i find divorce to be the most UNselfish thing a person or persons can do. They are letting their once loved one, free. Allowed to find someone who will complete them at this time in their lives. Allowing someone to do that is truly mature, unselfish and very loving. They want u to love the right one and to be loved by the right one back. Only people who are still hurt and bitter stop their once loved one from doing that.....that's my belief anyway...and I now actually do remember my reading for u. U dont come on here very much do u? I havent seen u in a very long time, i dont think.

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Originally posted by LuckyStar:
My husband- will my marriage ever be healthy and happy? We have been going to counseling for a year I am starting to feel that this is doomed.

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posted October 06, 2014 09:24 AM            

You were so right about my friend- everything you said I still can't believe it.

I have a friend who severed a friendship with me abruptly and I was dismayed. I needed closure, he said his Girlfriend was threatened by me. The story is funny he and I had been friends for years and one day he expressed his feeling and I believe he wanted an affair. I told him I could not do that but would still be friends. What happened during the time was amazing for both of us- he helped me to stop fearing my husband and gave me the courage to speak up and seek counseling. I showed him depth in a female friendship that excluded the physical but was more of a compassion friend who was there for him.
It was a wonderful friendship helped both of us in so many ways.

When he severed it I was upset because I felt he only did it cause she threatened him and that's wrong. He and I just spoke recently and candidly- he is trying every day to be a faithful boyfriend and he works on building trust in his relationship. I am really happy for him that he turned the corner. His past of serial infidelities would have scared me away but I feel like I helped him be a better person. Now it does not matter, I am not mad about the severing of our friendship he is just trying to be the best man he can be and I feel so proud of him.

posted October 06, 2014 10:49 AM            

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Originally posted by LuckyStar:
Thank you Cherful, anything else that you see for us- I am determined to route out the problems but sometimes I feel like it's unsurmountable.

You were so right about my friend- everything you said I still can't believe it.

I have a friend who severed a friendship with me abruptly and I was dismayed. I needed closure, he said his Girlfriend was threatened by me. The story is funny he and I had been friends for years and one day he expressed his feeling and I believe he wanted an affair. I told him I could not do that but would still be friends. What happened during the time was amazing for both of us- he helped me to stop fearing my husband and gave me the courage to speak up and seek counseling. I showed him depth in a female friendship that excluded the physical but was more of a compassion friend who was there for him.
It was a wonderful friendship helped both of us in so many ways.

When he severed it I was upset because I felt he only did it cause she threatened him and that's wrong. He and I just spoke recently and candidly- he is trying every day to be a faithful boyfriend and he works on building trust in his relationship. I am really happy for him that he turned the corner. His past of serial infidelities would have scared me away but I feel like I helped him be a better person. Now it does not matter, I am not mad about the severing of our friendship he is just trying to be the best man he can be and I feel so proud of him.

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posted October 06, 2014 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
I think ur gonna need friends around u. I would encourage u to go o ut at least once a week.

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posted October 06, 2014 02:15 PM            

When u fear ur boss, do u stay and try to make ur boss open up? And if he did open up for a bit...yet its still really hard to work there, would u stay?

Im not trying to push to end ur marriage

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Originally posted by LuckyStar:
Thanks

My friends think so too. I cannot go out that much because I have children and I want to be there for them also I work some evenings. I do have lots and lots of friends. A few close girlfriends I go out with to lunch/coffee monthly. I think I wish my husband could be like my friend, I think to be able to express myself to him and he accept and supporting it, gave me the courage to finally tell my husband how I feel. Prior to that all I did was fear him. It was so nice and I miss it. I am trying to get my husband to open up. Often times I feel there is an increase in drama before getting to the real work. This marriage really is very hard.

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