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posted November 29, 2014 03:22 PM            

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Hello everyone. If someone can help me with some insight into what is happening in my family, it would be really helpful.

Background story:

My parents are forcing my sister to go back home in December to marry some random guy.
She's totally against it, but her voice isn't being heard.
My dad finally said that if my sister can find her own guy and take care of herself, then he will leave her life to herself.
But the thing is, she is really shy and sheltered. I am really worried about her. This is causing all kinds of tension in my family.I don't know what to do.
My question is:
My sister wants to move to NY with me. Will she be able to find a job there and will she meet a guy there (or on her own) that she can fall in love with.
If not, will they be going back home in December? Will the trip happen?
What can I do to prevent this?
Someone please help. I would really appreciate it.

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posted December 02, 2014 01:15 PM            

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Can someone please help?

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posted December 02, 2014 02:07 PM            

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I think you should move her in with you & force her to get a job. Even if it's something small. Tell her it's better than being forced into a lifetime with someone she doesn't want to be with.

Working a small job while living with your brother (if I'm correct?) to help cover mutual expenses wouldn't be HALF as bad as being stuck with a man you don't love.

I think you should also tell your parents to think not only of her but of themselves because forcing someone to do something is the worst karmic debt you can collect and they will regret it if they continue onwards. Bad things will happen for them if they force her to do something she doesn't comply with, even if it takes years to happen. It could be anything; it may even relate to their own marriage or relationship.

Also, while she's there, try getting her on a dating site or something. It could be very helpful. Many people who use dating sites (not to be rude or judgmental) are usually a bit shy themselves, or they wouldn't be using the site in the first place.

Everything will be okay if you pray and hope for the best.

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posted December 02, 2014 02:09 PM            

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Btw, I don't mean FORCE her to get a job, but really encourage her to get out there and explain to her what the outcomes of that would be compared to the outcomes of a life-long marriage.

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posted December 02, 2014 05:06 PM            

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i drew the 8 of cups, if there's not some sort of intervention, i see her moving away. her life will not be happy if she marries this guy. if there's any way for her to live with you and get a fresh start, that's definitely the thing to do.

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posted December 03, 2014 12:41 PM            

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Thank you meowpower and sunnybunny for your responses. I passed on the advice to my sister, she started to look for jobs today.

If you don't mind, can someone tell me where you see her working. Or if you see her getting a job this month.

Thank you so much.

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