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Topic: I am desperately in love,,
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Valmu83
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Helsinki
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 27, 2014 08:26 PM
  
Could someone pull me a card? I am desperately in love and I donŽt know what to do.It feels almost like between us would be some karma issues. I'm tired and disappointed but I can not forget him. Feels like IŽam being pulled back whenever I try to break away from him. Is there hope? What would be right the approach?
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 48280
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 27, 2014 08:58 PM
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BNY10
Knowflake Posts: 34
From:
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 27, 2014 09:31 PM
Hi, 10 swords, lovers Karmic issues seem to follow you through all your relationships. Is there a pattern that you have noticed? I think there has been irreversible damage done to this relationship. But for your next relationship, if you make some adjustments then you can have the life you desire. Do you think you're ready for a relationship (because the next one is the "one")? I see some anger disrespectful issues. Can you make the changes? I see the next person you date as a blonde. Younger than you. IP: Logged |
Valmu83
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Helsinki
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 27, 2014 09:49 PM
Thank You! And Yes! I have noticed the pattern! Also with my late dad. It has made me wonder about what harm I have done in a previous life  This (love life) has been so hard so far. I have started to feel angry or strong displeasure alongside grief only recently and I hope that I will get over it soon. Do you see how soon this is happening? IP: Logged |
BNY10
Knowflake Posts: 34
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 27, 2014 10:07 PM
It's a process, but it seems like you're dragging your feet on changing. It seems like you are stuck or you get more satisfaction with the way you are.First step is the realization that you aren't perfect and that is fine. Understand that other people aren't perfect either. Some people will like you some won't. Develop a thick skin. Second is to take small steps to change.
Train yourself to think a certain way. Try to be empathetic to others, only then will you feel and get the same thing back.
You have to start treating people the way you want to be treated. YOU have to set the tone from the beginning and be an example of what kind of relationship you want it to be. Be the leader in your relationships, only then can you guide the other person to fulfill your needs. A tender heart will get you the family you want. Don't expect anything back that you can't give...I think that's a big karmic lesson for you. When do I see this happening> It depends on you. How fast can you change? I think the minute, you truly and genuinely get the realization and start taking steps then you will start to see changes. IP: Logged |
Valmu83
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Helsinki
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 27, 2014 10:49 PM
Thank You again! Words of wisdom  I think that I have more problems with that I give people walk all over me. And the fact that my love will not be accepted. I do not get love back or the situation is otherwise impossible. As it is now. But the same issues are certainly on the surface anyway. I have to think about the matter. IP: Logged |
BNY10
Knowflake Posts: 34
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 27, 2014 11:03 PM
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Originally posted by Valmu83:
Thank You again! Words of wisdom I think that I have more problems with that I give people walk all over me. And the fact that my love will not be accepted. I do not get love back or the situation is otherwise impossible. As it is now. But the same issues are certainly on the surface anyway. I have to think about the matter.
You said that you're love won't be accepted, but I am getting the feeling that even though you might love them, they don't feel it. I think you have to show people your love and that you have genuine feelings (not just talk about it).
How can someone who doesn't know about or feel your love accept it? You have to SHOW it. If you feel uncomfortable to show it in the beginning, don't hurt others because of your shortcomings. Try to see things in the others' perspective. Please stop hurting people because you are hurt. It will only take you further from what you wantg. IP: Logged |
Valmu83
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Helsinki
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted December 28, 2014 05:48 AM
That don't resonate with me at all, But I'm sorry if someone has hurt you. That sounds like that to my ears. Sorry if I'm wrong.IP: Logged |
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