posted December 29, 2014 01:13 AM            

I have this stalker in my life that I hate. He repulses me. He keeps asking me about what I think about his looks. He truly is disgusting how he is needy. He has been sexually abused, and he uses it as an excuse to abuse others. I have clearly told him "I WILL NEVER MARRY YOU, PSYCHO!!! WEIRDO!!" And he's gotten desperate. I hurt him purposely. And he's still soooo needy. HE is a complete weirdo. He gives me the creeps. Everytime I had interacted with him,I would want to scrape of my skin. I think he is sooooooooo ugly. He keeps asking me this every few days thinking I will change my mind. He is also Bipolar, so he has this sadistic desire to hurt me. He would hurt me all the time that now I don't see him as a human with a heart. I hurt him as much as possible. He is the most disloyal person also. I tell him that if he forces me to do anything with him, I will cheat on him for the disloyalty he has shown me. That's a promise. I HATE HIM AND HIS EMOTIONAL SICK NEEDY ATTENTION SEEKING UGLY FACE!!!!!!

Can someone tell me why a guy I don't find attratcive and knows I will never want to date/marry/have sex with is forcing himself into my life. When is this loser going to leave me alone and find someone weirdo girl to marry?

Ps This guy has mommy issues too. He has told me "ANIT-A-LAY". His mom's name is ANITA!!!! PUKE!!!!!!

AND HE IS SOOOO EMOTIONAL!!!!!!!!!! I HATE HIM!!!!! He iS worse than a girl! It's always something miserable or sad or sonething with this guy. And his excuse is always "Oh, I've been raped" or its "I.m a cancerian"

DID I MENTION how much I hate this guy!!!
I hate his emotions, his brain, his way of thinking, how he acts. I hate his nails, his puffy water retentive hands, his hair, his face, his eyebrows, his eyes, his fat face!!!!!! There is nothing I like about this guy!!!! I tell him this and in return its " i want to marry you"

HE IS GROSS TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate him i hate him i hate him!!!!

A psychic once told me this will only end with his death. That he will commit suicide. Do you see this happening soon?

Oh and he uses witchcraft to hurt people.
Basically he hurts people with magic when he doesnt get his way. He is so disgusting. If he didnt have magic he wouldnt even have passed high school. I think he is such a loser?

Why does he use witchraft to make things happen in his career, school , and women when he should be using his own will and strength? I dont see him as a "strong man"
I see him as a weepy POS who will use any exucse in the book to hurt people.

JOSHUA LUNSFORD GROSSES ME OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HIS FACE HIS REPULSIVE!!!!! HE wants to ruin my life, so I will out him.

posted December 29, 2014 02:56 AM            

Take his name off your post.

Why are you talking to him? How does he get in contact with you?

posted December 29, 2014 02:23 PM            

I met one such guy few years ago and he used to say the same thing that he wants to marry me, while I knew he didn't have enough spine to stand up for himself let alone for me. He was abused in his childhood too, and instead of having empathy for others, he imposed his feelings on other's as if they owed him cause he felt for them.

The worst thing was the world was no more than 'F..' word for him, because life had always imposed such scenarios to him. It was really depressing to be around him, at that time I was already in a relationship with someone else and told him it'll never happen, and he too knew it was never going to happen, but he held on just to prove his point. He said he'll never marry anyone else. It used to make me angry that why was he smothering me. When you fall in love with someone it's your problem, not their.

The last time I met him, I confronted him in public and told him clearly to stop forcing his emotions on me this way, though he thought I was going to go back to him, but I knew him through and through to let him move past my limits. I had to hold the red flag on his face tightly. When it isn't there you just have to be rude. I'm not trying to sound harsh, but few people become self vindictive to abuse other's and their explanation is, when I'm treated like this, I've no better attitude towards others.

Anyways I tried to pull few cards for you -
Justice rx, Knight of Wands, 10 of Swords rx, Queen of Cups, 5 of Cups
Clarifier - 4 of cups rx

What I feel is you just have to hold your ground tight. This is a very passionate interest but certainly not a love one. It is more of an obsession. He's not going to leave you alone without always trying to bounce back, and I don't think marriage is on his mind, it's just him wanting and emotional comfort from somewhere, which for now is you. So, the only possible solution is you trying to maintain a distance from him, like just stop reacting and act as if he's dead to you. Your reaction fuels him in some way. He's going to move away wanting same thing from somewhere else, but will never close up on you and - the more you'll rationalise or react he won't go away..and if things get worse legal action is always a solution you may want to keep in head.

I hope you both find your peace in opposite directions

posted December 29, 2014 05:06 PM            

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Originally posted by thequeen:
The Intensity with which you've written makes me wonder if you're an Empath..I guess you're..

I met one such guy few years ago and he used to say the same thing that he wants to marry me, while I knew he didn't have enough spine to stand up for himself let alone for me. He was abused in his childhood too, and instead of having empathy for others, he imposed his feelings on other's as if they owed him cause he felt for them.

The worst thing was the world was no more than 'F..' word for him, because life had always imposed such scenarios to him. It was really depressing to be around him, at that time I was already in a relationship with someone else and told him it'll never happen, and he too knew it was never going to happen, but he held on just to prove his point. He said he'll never marry anyone else. It used to make me angry that why was he smothering me. When you fall in love with someone it's your problem, not their.

The last time I met him, I confronted him in public and told him clearly to stop forcing his emotions on me this way, though he thought I was going to go back to him, but I knew him through and through to let him move past my limits. I had to hold the red flag on his face tightly. When it isn't there you just have to be rude. I'm not trying to sound harsh, but few people become self vindictive to abuse other's and their explanation is, when I'm treated like this, I've no better attitude towards others.

Anyways I tried to pull few cards for you -
Justice rx, Knight of Wands, 10 of Swords rx, Queen of Cups, 5 of Cups
Clarifier - 4 of cups rx

What I feel is you just have to hold your ground tight. This is a very passionate interest but certainly not a love one. It is more of an obsession. He's not going to leave you alone without always trying to bounce back, and I don't think marriage is on his mind, it's just him wanting and emotional comfort from somewhere, which for now is you. So, the only possible solution is you trying to maintain a distance from him, like just stop reacting and act as if he's dead to you. Your reaction fuels him in some way. He's going to move away wanting same thing from somewhere else, but will never close up on you and - the more you'll rationalise or react he won't go away..and if things get worse legal action is always a solution you may want to keep in head.

I hope you both find your peace in opposite directions

My request is if you can please take down his and his mother's name, you don't have to mention that. I guess you'll when you'll calm down

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Thank you Queen for replying.

You said he wants emotional comfort. why doesn't he find it from his mom, his family,friends,ex-gf's, new crushes? Why me? When I used to give him emotional comfort, I would get nothing but anger,cruel remarks, and statements to inflict pain. He is obsessed with my family; he brings up my family to make me suffer. Why? He never reacted positively when I actually cared. Now I don't. He always used me as a punching bag. He still does. It always seems to me he needs someone to fight with; to take out his aggression on. Again, why me? He knows, of all people, I am not in a good place. So why hurt me. I think his heart is disgusting. Why not ask for a shoulder to cry on from his ex-gf. He's obsessed with her also. At least, she seems like she is in a good place and can take his problems.

The thing with ignoring him is, I will eventually, but there are things that he destroyed in my life that he said he would fix. Will he fix them, even if we go in opposite directions? Will he fix things regarding my school and career.

Also, he says he's in desperate need for love, then why isn't it going through his head that he wont't receive love from someone he treats badly. When will he turn a new leaf and move on. It's been forever.

posted December 29, 2014 05:59 PM            

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Originally posted by thequeen:
Poker face is the best. Co dependant relationships eventually turn abusive and end badly. I am also learning to walk away while I can so that I don't victimize myself.

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