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cherful24
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From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted January 14, 2015 12:16 PM
  
hi I wanted to ask you a few questions if you don't mind and I can answering anything that you might have. So he did contact me and were on Facebook now so it's a start. It's been light contact here and there but its I think him getting why I did what I did. he calming down, he was able to sort out the facts.... so just wanted to know what you can see... where he's at now with his thought process and what I can expect...more communication? when I go back up there in a couple months, will we see each other? also can you now pick up his level of attraction for me as well as what he thinks of me my personality IP: Logged |
BNY10
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posted January 14, 2015 09:30 PM
HATE to say this, but I think he still has not gotten over what has happened. The little contact that you two do have on Facebook does not make him happy. Are you forcing contact on him? Will it be so hard to cut contact for some time? You understand he equates you with pain and loss, right? He will come around when he feels like you aren't his enemy anymore, and after you do everything to fix things. He wants to "see" the changes, not just talk about it anymore. As far as your personality, I feel like he saw and heard more of your negative personality than he did of your "good" personality. I'm picking up that he senses that you came off very aggressive. Have you done anything to show him you are a good person? You sort off don't match his "style"...the style he aspires to be and the style he wants his woman to be. I still get the feeling he is tired of this whole thing, and just wants to be left alone.Sorry if that's not what you want to hear. IP: Logged |
cherful24
Knowflake Posts: 3507
From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted January 15, 2015 08:40 AM
I haven't done anything to push it And I'm surprised he would see more my negative side because he in fact would point out how much of a helper I was to him and his life. But what happened might be negative and therefore that's how he's doing it right now. I look exactly like his sister... So that's funny if I'm not his style and if we ever do contact normally I'll have to see what he thinks about his sister and her style. he contacted me this time and I've been letting him take the lead so I will keep backing off until he figures out what he wants to do quote:
Originally posted by BNY10:
HATE to say this, but I think he still has not gotten over what has happened. The little contact that you two do have on Facebook does not make him happy. Are you forcing contact on him? Will it be so hard to cut contact for some time? You understand he equates you with pain and loss, right? He will come around when he feels like you aren't his enemy anymore, and after you do everything to fix things. He wants to "see" the changes, not just talk about it anymore. As far as your personality, I feel like he saw and heard more of your negative personality than he did of your "good" personality. I'm picking up that he senses that you came off very aggressive. Have you done anything to show him you are a good person? You sort off don't match his "style"...the style he aspires to be and the style he wants his woman to be. I still get the feeling he is tired of this whole thing, and just wants to be left alone.Sorry if that's not what you want to hear.
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