posted January 24, 2015 06:19 PM            

I would like any insight on dan. a couple weeks ago there was a major miscommunication and he got really upset to the point he basically threw in the towel but then we communicated again and I think he at least understands my perspective. Yesterday there was a little bit more and I think he felt I was open genuine so I wanted to see where is he thinking what does he feel, want to do, etc

posted January 24, 2015 06:54 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
Thank you! Brb!

You're right--I went from pretty dark to caramel, & I just want them to touch up my roots (but I'm scared they're actually going to somehow **** up my color entirely, & red would be a nightmare no way that can look natural-ish on me). But hey, if I'm going to look anything like Crawford... yes, please!

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posted January 24, 2015 06:55 PM            

Bear+Clouds+Whip

First I have to ask you: is Dan a Bear kind of guy? Stable (e.g., financially), maybe a bit cautious (emotionally), assertive? Because I remember reading for you in November (I think--it could have October/December) and Bear was popping up everywhere. So Bear may just be describing him here. It could also be saying that he sees that miscommunication as very important & still hasn't gotten over it.
With Clouds (and Clouds+Whip), I'd say--again--that he's still very confused; he's not sure where you stand after whatever it is that happened between the two of you, i.e., after that miscommunication. It's like he still can't wrap his mind around it.
So... not very helpful cards because it seems to me you already knew all this. So I asked then how he feels about you.

Letter+Bouquet+Coffin

Do you guys text a lot? Did you invite him somewhere? Because that's what I'm getting from Letter+Bouquet--either a message or an invite from you has made him happy recently. Also, with those two cards, I'd say he likes texting/talking/communicating with you. Are you a Queen of Swords (dark haired, no nonsense; Bouquet)? Either way, I'd bet he finds you really attractive with Bouquet as the central card. Coffin at the end tells me his feelings are changing--which makes sense in light of the miscommunication you mentioned; he's probably finally getting over it.

posted January 24, 2015 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
No I don't see u walking out unhappy. I don't think the touch up will go wrong

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posted January 24, 2015 07:14 PM            

I did deliver a message to him and I thought that it would make him happy so that's good but I didn't ask him to meet up. I'm blonde

posted January 25, 2015 07:05 PM            

Can I ask about my career projection. I've been at my new job for 3 months which meant I moved away from Chicago and I feel like I want to move back. So I just wanted to see you mean am I going to make it in this job like stay here for a year to get promoted or my going to take a new job somewhere else....

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
Bumping because I'm sooooo tired of cover letters. So... anything coming up romance-wise for me? (Not interested in anyone at all at the moment.)

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posted January 25, 2015 07:07 PM            

QUOTE]Originally posted by lily712lily:
Bumping because I'm sooooo tired of cover letters. So... anything coming up romance-wise for me? (Not interested in anyone at all at the moment.)[/QUOTE]

posted January 25, 2015 07:30 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
I hope I don't cross any lines or offend you by asking or saying this but would you have a friends with benefits type of a situation because I can see that coming up for you. It won't be a relationship because I don't see you wanting it to go there but and nice man he'll take you to dinner and will hang out but of course it serve another purpose as well for your needs to be met... But like a forming of a boyfriend girlfriend type of a thing I don't see happening hence friends with benefits

QUOTE]Originally posted by lily712lily:
[b]Bumping because I'm sooooo tired of cover letters. So... anything coming up romance-wise for me? (Not interested in anyone at all at the moment.)

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posted January 25, 2015 07:38 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
Thank you! And don't worry, I'm not easily offended. lol FWB is not something I would consciously look for at this point, but I can imagine that happening (no clue who with, though).

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posted January 25, 2015 07:41 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
I think you're going to take a different job. The question I asked was: "Is Cherful going to stay at her current job?" I actually looked at the cutting cards this time--Dog, Garden, Ring. Based on this, I think you're going to sign a new contract (Ring), one for a job that will come to you through a friend/someone already in your network (Dog, Garden).
The actual cards I pulled were: Whip+Clouds+Child. You likely work a lot at the moment, but your work isn't unnoticed and unappreciated by your coworkers/supervisors (Whip). I feel that appreciation is probably the reason you'll hesitate to go work somewhere else (Clouds); you're going to be rethinking that decision over and over (Whip+Clouds). Still, with Child (new beginning) as the final card--like I said--you're likely to accept a position somewhere else, and in the end you'll feel pretty enthusiastic about it.

Now, all these cards, including the cutting ones, could conceivably be interpreted as you staying in your current job--with Dog & Garden standing for connections you've already made there, & Ring for a change in your current contract, Whip & Clouds for your indecision, & Child for your renewed enthusiasm for your current job. Still, I do think you're going to decide to leave as that was my first instinct, and I pulled Crossroads & Rider--both of which imply movement--as clarifiers.

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posted January 25, 2015 07:54 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
although I did make good connections I can tell this isn't the right fit for me. Can I ask when you see this new offer and you know if it's in the same area or back in Chicago or another area perhaps? And it will it offer more pay or more authority... Anything you see with those two things would be great. Thank you

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Don't rely too much on this because my timing is pretty bad. I pulled Dog, which could mean in about 18 weeks, or it could mean in July. I also got Fish for Chicago, and Fish really tends to mean yes in my readings. For more money, I got House--I take that to mean that you'll be satisfied with the salary but you won't necessarily be getting more money than at your current job. You should definitely be getting enough money to live comfortably, though. And for more authority I got Clouds, so I think that's a no, or at least not right from the start.

posted January 25, 2015 08:12 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
Don't rely too much on this because my timing is pretty bad. I pulled Dog, which could mean in about 18 weeks, or it could mean in July. I also got Fish for Chicago, and Fish really tends to mean yes in my readings. For more money, I got House--I take that to mean that you'll be satisfied with the salary but you won't necessarily be getting more money than at your current job. You should definitely be getting enough money to live comfortably, though. And for more authority I got Clouds, so I think that's a no, or at least not right from the start.

Edit: I love the "more upscale than FWB" description. lol

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posted January 25, 2015 09:08 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
You're right that his age would likely be a dealbreaker for me. Really, really not into older guys.
Btw, I was thinking today how, when I was a little girl (8? 9?), I thought I'd definitely be married & have kids by now. I definitely don't think I'm ready for kids, but I'd really like to finally meet someone I could see myself being married to (regardless of where the relationship actually goes). Le sigh. /endrant

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