posted February 22, 2015 03:19 PM            

remember, you once said, around end of monthe we might argue well I think it kind of happened tonight ( now ) and now I would really appraciate if you can look into what will happen next?
will there be a long pause before we talk again
where his thoughts/feelings are about this

here is what happened :

edit.

.... sorry I know I am asking a lot.. but I need the help

thank you !!!

*hopefully you understood*

p.s. - later I wrote something calmer, trying to explain in a calm way and with no blaming saying hope he is not mad and again saying I understood what he was saying...

posted February 22, 2015 04:39 PM            

Give me about five minutes.

I'm kind of glad you asked, because I had an interesting convo with N I'd love to get your thoughts on.

posted February 22, 2015 04:58 PM            

Lots of reversals here... 2 of Pentacles rx The Tower rx and 6 of Wands rx

So you declining to come over definitely was a blow to his ego. I think he was feeling lonely but didn't want to admit that, perhaps why the Tower is rx. Or him being inconsistent in his respect towards you is a recurring issue.

Then we have The Devil and The Star upright..kind of cool, kind of intense. It almost gives me the feeling of someone who was in a really bad place healing from that. So even though he's sort of seedy now, there is hope in the future if you have patience.

2 of Pentacles RX and The Devil and Tower RX - he knew it was wrong but chose not to care, decided to give in to his desires vs. doing the right thing. I think he is realizing a few things, maybe how he contributed to the destruction of the relationship before.

The Star and 6 of Wands rx - I think this is a sign he will come back and apologize, with his tail between his legs lol. He might've been drunk at the time and not meant it or something, but I do feel this is a combination symbol for "ashamed."

posted February 23, 2015 12:40 AM            

I also thought he was drunk.
Him being a s#it head is not in his character.
It all makes sense.
Even in the other reading where you saw an argument you saw an apology.
Woould be nice but I cant picture it.

I am glad I wrote the calm message too.

posted February 23, 2015 12:45 AM            

- does he ask a lot of people that?
- why has he asked me twice?
- what did he think of my response this time, did it influence how he felt about me?

posted February 23, 2015 07:44 AM            

Background:
Two weeks ago I ran into an acquaintance (VO) who invited me to a 40's themed party scheduled for 2/21. I was super excited to go. Two days before the party I texted her to double check on the time and let her know I was definitely planning on attending. Oddly enough I found out a mutual friend of ours (TZ who I consider a close friend) was going as well.
Friday came and I thought it odd my good friend TZ had not text me indicating she would see me at the party so I txt her. I told her I was really looking forward to the party the next night and I asked what she was wearing? I never heard back from her.

Saturday came (the day of the party) and we got hit with a big snowstorm. Lots of events in town were being cancelled but nobody had text me to let me know of any change about the party so I figured it was still on. 3 PM rolled around, the party was to start at 7 and my friend TZ still hadn't returned my text so I sent her another one saying "hey did you get my text? Looking forward to seeing you!" She responded simply with "the party was postponed due to the weather."

I was surprised to hear this as nobody had let me know so I responded "bummer, I was really looking forward to seeing you-glad you told me."
She never responded. From then on I had a really fishy feeling that things just were not right. I shook it off but couldn't escape the feeling that I was "in the dark" about something. I pulled cards asking about the event and what happened and they told me the party happened and my friends wern't being truthful with me. So I decdied to text VO(the girl who threw the party) telling her I found out by accident the party was postponed and that I was really bummed about it. I asked her if she had picked a date yet for when the party was re-scheduled?

posted February 23, 2015 07:46 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
To make a long story short, N asked what I thought of him and I was more honest this time, but didn't say much after. I'd like to know three things -

- does he ask a lot of people that?
- why has he asked me twice?
- what did he think of my response this time, did it influence how he felt about me?

I'm asking a lot too so ...you know how it goes

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No he has not asked others the same question. he values your opinion and he really wanted to know what you truely think of him. he also took a long time to build up the courage to ask you this.

- I feel that he asked twice because he wanted to hear it again, almost like he couldnt believe what you said and that you said the things you have. I also feel like he enjozed hearing you say it. He wanted to confirm what he heard and wanted to remember every word and pay good attention to what you were saying.

- in short yes it did influence him, in longer it gave him something to think over and re think about and just have in his mind. He is now thinking of a way to say how he feels about you as you in some way encouraged him to open up and he can see its not so bad. He really wants to show you he cares and wants to tell you and show you in sme way that he has more feelings for you. I dont know how soon this might happen but I can feel him thinking about it and having it in his mind and heart to do some action about it.

Well I want to ask today, as the day after the argument, what is he thinking about it now?

Will there be some contact from him soon? ( week or so is soon for me)

should I text him casualy in a few days? to try and get things back to normal, hopingly he wants to mend things

thank you!!

posted February 23, 2015 08:13 AM            

hi! and I am so sorry you are having this happen to you from what seemed like your close friends
*hugs*

My first impression was that some guys were invited to the party and one (or both) girls hd ther eye on someone and did not want "competition" as stupid as it sounds, for girls sometimes it does not take a lot to single someone out. I feel that a man is the reason you were lied to and I also feel, either the party will take place and you wont be told or it happened.I know this is not a lot of help, as that is your main question but I am having trouble differing from the two. In both cases I feel that you wont be told even when it will over. I am leaning more towards it will happen but you wont be told when and you will be avoided until after the party. I also feel like they both will pretend like nothing happened. I am feelin like the other one (OV)is the one that made the scheme up and she is more jealous of you than you think. Yes I know " the old jealous" excuse, but I do feel like she even worried you would look better than her and you would get more attention. The reason is actualy very petty. And I feel like the other one (TZ) just followed like a sheep and also she help some "secret" above her head to make her lie to you.

I am sorry if Iam not so much help but this is the most I am getting right now. maybe Hanna gets something better.

if you wouldnt mind doing a quick exchange, since you were good before about contact.

posted February 23, 2015 09:40 AM            

Will A reach out to you soon after your fight?
Ring-mice-birds
I don't think so. I think he is pretty upset and worried about the relationship. And I think he's afraid of having another stressful conversation with you. The mice in the middle tells me he won't reach out.

posted February 23, 2015 11:04 AM            

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Originally posted by intuitivefish:
[B]
No he has not asked others the same question. he values your opinion and he really wanted to know what you truely think of him. he also took a long time to build up the courage to ask you this.

- I feel that he asked twice because he wanted to hear it again, almost like he couldnt believe what you said and that you said the things you have. I also feel like he enjozed hearing you say it. He wanted to confirm what he heard and wanted to remember every word and pay good attention to what you were saying.

- in short yes it did influence him, in longer it gave him something to think over and re think about and just have in his mind. He is now thinking of a way to say how he feels about you as you in some way encouraged him to open up and he can see its not so bad. He really wants to show you he cares and wants to tell you and show you in sme way that he has more feelings for you. I dont know how soon this might happen but I can feel him thinking about it and having it in his mind and heart to do some action about it.

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He asked me when we were involved before (so last year) and again this time after I told him (nicely) that his dating profile sucked and didn't reflect him...but when he asked how I would write it / what I'd say, I was kind of elusive in my response and not very warm about it like I think he was expecting.
I agree he is probably mulling it over, after I was done all he said was "Lol" (in reference to a joke I said at the end)

posted February 23, 2015 11:09 AM            

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Originally posted by intuitivefish:

Well I want to ask today, as the day after the argument, what is he thinking about it now?

Will there be some contact from him soon? ( week or so is soon for me)

should I text him casualy in a few days? to try and get things back to normal, hopingly he wants to mend things

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What he's thinking about it now: 7 of Wands - I think he is defending his actions to himself, like validating the reasons for why it was okay to act like that. But the very fact he's defensive means subconsciously he knows it was wrong to treat you that way.

Will there be contact from him soon? - Ace of Swords 4 of Swords The High Priestess - Yes! Seems like a good card to get in the sense that he will be pretty honest with you, it might come off harsh or mean but that's not his intention. It will be something he's been sitting on for awhile, and probably something you knew but waited to hear. He will probably go quiet again after.

Should you text him - Queen of Cups Page of Swords The Tower 8 of Wands 6 of Wands

posted February 23, 2015 11:12 AM            

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Originally posted by intuitivefish:
yes I do get the same still.
I still feel he wanted to confirm your words, to see exactly what you meant. I even get he wanted to try and read between the lines, see if there is anything he is missing.
I still feel he values your opinion and I feel he likes hearing from you no matter how silly it sounds to you, to him its more like "yay she wrote"

I feel like he almost doesnt mind it wasnt nice, and that he still values what you say and what you mean. he wants you to think good of him but is having trouble doing that.

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Oh that's weird because the reading in between the lines thing is something that's been popping in my head since yesterday. I kept thinking of how a girl will be rude to a guy, and his bro friends can justify why that means she's into him! Not him specifically but that situation in general.

Weird that he likes hearing from me...you would think he would reach out if he wanted that.

posted February 23, 2015 11:14 AM            

- when he reveales something to me, will this be about us? about his feelings or something else?

as you say he has been sitting on it

so would this mean it might be something positive actually?

and you saying " watch out for yourself" - as in watch out for something bad or ?

posted February 23, 2015 11:16 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Oh that's weird because the reading in between the lines thing is something that's been popping in my head since yesterday. I kept thinking of how a girl will be rude to a guy, and his bro friends can justify why that means she's into him! Not him specifically but that situation in general.

Weird that he likes hearing from me...you would think he would reach out if he wanted that.

I could also see him taking the courage to ask even though initially I didn't think of that.

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I even feel he likes taunting you just to get you to write more, he likes it when he gets you to react
like with his "lol"
he knew it would bother you a bit, and knew you would have more to say. he is being this way on purpouse. to get reactions out of you, yet again to read into the "behind" meaning.

posted February 23, 2015 11:20 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by intuitivefish:
I even feel he likes taunting you just to get you to write more, he likes it when he gets you to react
like with his "lol"
he knew it would bother you a bit, and knew you would have more to say. he is being this way on purpouse. to get reactions out of you, yet again to read into the "behind" meaning.

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Haha, damn why don't I ever realize that... ugh. I didn't say much, just that I don't know him that well now and how I knew him then may not be accurate to how he is now.

posted February 23, 2015 11:23 AM            

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Originally posted by intuitivefish:
sorry, again I need clarification.
( your reading this time is again similar to the one you gave me before this happened)

- when he reveales something to me, will this be about us? about his feelings or something else?

as you say he has been sitting on it

so would this mean it might be something positive actually?

and you saying " watch out for yourself" - as in watch out for something bad or ?

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- The revelation is the apology, I still feel it in these cards! I got The Hermit 5 of Pentacles and The Hierophant. From the picture on these cards it immediately makes me think he would confess how lonely he's been and that he's sorry for treating you badly, that he understands what he did wrong (The Hierophant is about lessons). I hope this comes true for you and isn't just reflecting what we want to happen.

Yes, I think it will be positive but he will feel uncomfortable admitting it so it may not come out eloquently.

posted February 23, 2015 11:27 AM            

I asked if you were being avoided, kind of thinking to myself "Surely not," but the cards I drew were surprising. Especially the first set!

4 of Wands (The Party) 2 of Swords (exclusion) and Ace of Pentacles (I don't know why but this made me think they did it because you're more attractive or prettier than them.)

The Wheel of Fortune Page of Swords King of Pentacles

posted February 23, 2015 11:27 AM            

Even though yes it might not be eloquent, I know him enough to know what he means.
I even know what he means when he writes "hm" instead of "hmmm"
so yeah I can understand him well.

he is not a man of many words. I sitll dont anticipate a "sorry" but I would be happy if it does happen.

my last thing to him, I said how I understood what he was saying and his words and not wanting to be mad and liking talking to him and blablabla...and he replied "ok "

lol ..men...
but I do know, that "ok" was good enough last night..

thank you Hanna
I hope to come tell you again how right you were.

posted February 23, 2015 11:42 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
@ TGem -

I asked if you were being avoided, kind of thinking to myself "Surely not," but the cards I drew were surprising. Especially the first set!

4 of Wands (The Party) 2 of Swords (exclusion) and Ace of Pentacles (I don't know why but this made me think they did it because you're more attractive or prettier than them.)

The Wheel of Fortune Page of Swords King of Pentacles

Hm. Kind of stumped by the Wheel of Fortune, but the Page and King make me wonder if your ex would be there. Even so you'd think they'd just tell you that if that was the case.. do you have more money than them by any chance? Because I feel like it's out of jealousy but that it's different than just petty things like looks.

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Ok so here's the deal: I THINK there was a significant chance DL (the guy I'm always asking about ) is/was DJing that party and they didn't want us to meet? What do you think?

posted February 23, 2015 11:47 AM            

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