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tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 09:07 AM
Hi there! How are ya? I'm having some difficulty with a situation and I was hoping for some insight. Would you like to exchange?I nanny for a little girl and she's giving me a lot of problems. She's very difficult, despite my constant attempts to be sweet and kind to her. Can you give some insight as to what is causing such problems with her? Thanks so very much. IP: Logged |
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 1698 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014
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posted March 24, 2015 02:56 PM
well other than "insight" I might be able to give professional help since I work with children you could describe maybe whats going on and I can try and help in that way also. but what I would say with intuition is this, she is being a rebel towards you because she is rebeling against something to do with her mom I would say, not sure maybe it could be the dad, but I feel like she is feeling that she is not getting enough love or attention, she sees that you took on the role of her mom and she is rebeling against that. She also wants things her way and she is not wanting to give in to anyone. I do believe she sees herself as much older than she is, so she equals the attempts you do as giving her love and attention. my Q - did A comment to E, about E ( girl he is seeing) blocking me off HIS facebook page. so she with his password, blocked me, from his account/profile IP: Logged |
tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 03:19 PM
Wow, I would really appreciate some insight. She changed nannies and started with me a month ago. Apparently she changed nannies because the other wasn't giving her enough attention and the girl didn't have anyone her age to play with. She also had to be moved to another kindergarten class due to behavior issues. Although she is doing better in her new class, she is still on a behavior chart. The first month she really challenged me but her mom hired me becasue she said she wanted a STERN nanny. I have been sweet and kind to her but also very stern. I thought the rebellion would stop but she is still really tough with me ...and gives my son a hard time too (he's her age.) I thought they would play nice together but it's hard for them to get along. He is super sweet. Any insight would be appreciated. I'll be back with your question IP: Logged |
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 1698 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014
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posted March 24, 2015 03:29 PM
the thing is, I think she is used to getting her way, as it seems to me, he mother probably doesnt know how to and doesnt have the time and energy to deal with her, so changin nannies/ classes is the worst that can happen to the child. children dont take well to changes like that and they know very well that they are being bounced around, the more things seem unstable ( the changes) the more she is taking advantage of this and rebeling the way she is. I still think her main issue is her mother. Her mother is not there as much as she needs/wants. I have "difficult" children in my group and trust me when I say, with me they are great and when they see the parent its a whole another world.She NEEDS and actually craves stirnness, you see, children are like little puppies, they WANT boundaries if they dont get them they will use you and will think you are idiots who give a child anything they want. I would say keep being stirn, yes ofcourse be loving but have better boundaries and keep at them, dont get soft, keep having a routine also. an exact routine i.e - breakfast at 8:30, play time until 9:15 then, MAKE her clean her toys, watch over her and make her pick up each toy, then have some activites and so on. the way they have it in kindergardens, because thats a good thing for them, it gives them much needed discipline. your bigger problem can be the parents not following throug with what you do and it all falls out of place.
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tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 03:55 PM
I pulled scythe-mountain-whip With the mountain in the middle I see you were blocked. The scythe and whip surrounding the mountain shows there were arguements and heated discussions so she quickly cut you off. However the scythe, mountain and whip are all "no" cards in my deck so although the arguements caused the blocking of you on FB, I don't think he made a comment to her about it. In other words, "no" he didn't.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 1698 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014
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posted March 24, 2015 03:57 PM
thank you.Do you mind another question please. Will me and him continue normal communication after this? I mean will this change/ruin how he is with me? since things have been going pretty good so far. IP: Logged |
tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 03:58 PM
Ok thank you soooooo very much!! I will definitely do all this. Can you, by any chance, see if she will continue to stay with me for the next two or three months? She's tough but I hate to see her get bounced around again.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 1698 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014
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posted March 24, 2015 04:03 PM
I work in a kindergarden so I am very familiar with what you tell me also ahve a talk with her mother, you need the support and the mother continuing the disciplin you put in.I feel a max of maybe 4-5 months with you. I feel like you will want to find something else, it will take too much a toll on you and your energy. IP: Logged |
tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 04:12 PM
Ok I'll sure do these things! Thanks so much for all your help❤️IP: Logged |
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 1698 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014
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posted March 24, 2015 04:20 PM
you are welcome sorry, not sure if you saw I put another question if you up for it IP: Logged |
tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 04:47 PM
Oh just saw your second question. Ok I'm out now but I can to this in about an hour or so. IP: Logged |
tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 24, 2015 06:34 PM
Ok as to whether you and A will continue normal conversation after the FB incident? Birds-clouds-tree Pulled clover to clarify clouds I think he's uncertain about it. But you two will still talk (clover and birds). With the tree there it may start very slow but grow in frequency over time.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 1698 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014
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posted March 25, 2015 01:24 AM
Thanks If you need more help about the child, let me know I will try to if I can. IP: Logged |
tgem Moderator Posts: 3721 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 25, 2015 07:35 AM
Will do thanks. Had a conference with her mother last night and it went really well. So hopefully things will improve soon IP: Logged |