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threepoolsoflight
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posted April 25, 2015 03:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for threepoolsoflight     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This week has been awful, and I feel upset & disillusioned, especially about my boyfriend. I participate in a sport that's male-dominated and sometimes egos get out of whack, but this week has been extreme. Most men are really supportive and friendly to me and other women, but there are a few bad seeds with something to prove, or other underlying issues that ruin everything! I always try to respect the right of way rules and apologize when I make a mistake, which is A LOT more than what a lot of people do. It can get really crazy with people interfering with everyone else. A few days ago, a guy accused me of doing something I didn't do. I tried to brush it off, but when I heard him talking disparagingly about me to someone else I let him have it verbally (I found out later he had been an a** to other people too, so I didn't feel bad). Then yesterday I may have done something wrong that I wasn't aware of to some guy, but instead of confronting me about it, he made this awful chauvinistic post about vaginas on a public forum (and I was the only female around, so it had to be about me). It turned my good mood sour in an instant, even though I tried to talk myself out of it (and I had watched people interfering with each other all morning). It made me feel like sh** because I'm female and not a member of "the club" especially when the other members of the forum, one of whom I know, joined in on the chauvinistic comments. But the worst was my bf. He interfered with me, but I wasn't seriously mad at him b/c I knew he was having a frustrating day and I was doing pretty well. I did roll my eyes, and when he saw my expression he exploded, calling me a b**ch and ranting and raving in front of everyone. And he was the one who wronged me!! I was so embarrassed and ****** off. We had a huge blowout (not about this, but that was a catalyst). I feel like I can't go on with him, and that he guilt trips me into staying with him and plays the victim. I know I'm not easy to be with either, but I feel like I'm making too many concessions for him. We've been together for 13 years and I love him, but I think about how much nicer life would be with a partner who doesn't have anger issues and calls me names. Can anyone get a read on what is going on with him? First initial M.
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SereneDaze
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posted April 25, 2015 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SereneDaze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You don't have to worry too much about M, he really cares about you. He is optimistic about building a future with you. I get the sense that he wants to take care of you as well, but he wants to be the dominant one in the relationship. He does have unconditional love for you and I'm not sure about this but he could think you would be a good mother too.

As for what happened with him that day, he was feeling really frustrated with how things went for him. Things didnt go out as he had hoped and he was just down. He was insecure and this made it worse because it was in front of everyone and it sort of went public which was worse for him. He snapped because he felt like everyone could see his insecurity.

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threepoolsoflight
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posted April 25, 2015 06:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for threepoolsoflight     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for the reading SD, it made me feel better! Other readers have made similar comments about M, that he has very loyal feelings towards me. I know he has a good heart, but it's so difficult for us to air our grievances in a sane way. We're both ultra sensitive and inclined towards angry outbursts. Plus, he harbors grudges forever, and remembers negative comments I made years ago (tho sometimes he twists them all around...). I tend to forgive and forget. That's funny what you said about him wanting to be dominant. Definitely true, and it comes across as him being a control freak. I can't stand that! Ugh!
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threepoolsoflight
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posted April 25, 2015 06:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for threepoolsoflight     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wanted to add that overall, your reading was really accurate, including the part about his insecurities. He doesn't seem too optimistic about the future, though...he often mentions leaving, but he might be saying that to gauge my reaction. Maybe I want him to leave more than he does?!..thanks again!

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SereneDaze
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posted April 25, 2015 08:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SereneDaze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hes pulling all this I'm leaving acts because of his insecurity as well. He wants to take care of you but he needs to know from your actions and also verbally that he is needed. Which is why he doesnt seem optimistic about your future together, because you're not showing him that you need him. You might be OK with everything but he wants you to be his baby bird lol.

I pulled a clarifier card and got the two of pentacles. Hes definitely contemplating and thinking about your future together, so I'm pretty sure you can work things out with him if it is what you want.

Yes I did have a question. Does MG want to be friends with me again?

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threepoolsoflight
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posted April 25, 2015 10:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for threepoolsoflight     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Baby bird, too funny! I kinda feel like he is my kid and father figure all in one! We must have an interesting past life history. On a serious note, I must make it hard for him to feel needed because I put a lot of importance on being independent....hmm...Thanks for the clarification.

For you and MG I did a past-present-future reading and got hanged man, 9 cups rx and 2 of swords. So there has been a separation between you, and I feel like MG is wallowing in righteousness or huffiness with the 9 cups rx. it reminds me of the black cloud that hovers over the heads of disgruntled cartoon characters...like whatever happened wasn't too severe in the grand scale of things, but it's going to linger for awhile. The 2 of swords does suggest reconciliation in the future though, after a period of thought and reflection. Hope this resonates a little bit

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SereneDaze
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posted April 25, 2015 10:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SereneDaze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes it did resonate

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