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sunnybunny Knowflake Posts: 667 From: tellico plains,usa Registered: Oct 2014	posted May 16, 2015 09:20 AM This used to be a lot of fun but lately people quit reciprocating on exchanges and started leaving opinions instead of readings and people even leave negative comments to each other without getting their facts straight first. I wish it was the way it was before it got so sad here IP: Logged
ILovePoems Knowflake Posts: 814 From: Registered: Feb 2015	posted May 16, 2015 09:23 AM Since I wasn't on here for that long, I kinda get what you're saying. I would gladly try to exchange with you, but I can't connect that well an sometimes I need a picture. There are other websites that I feel so sad for because the people that been on the longest doesn't come on anymore an it makes me feel very bad. But we learn an sometimes people seem to busy also or can't connect just like me. IP: Logged
LeeLoo2014 Moderator Posts: 11920 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014	posted May 16, 2015 09:32 AM Sunnybunny, this is outrageous, really! you constantly ask for exchanges, but you only leave a random card instead with a random interpretation of 2-3 words max, for your part of the exchange. It's obvious you just want free readings, but you are not interested in reading for others; this is not "exchange". That's why people stopped answering your threads. This is indeed not fun! I have my own experience with you, when you did not honor your part of the exchange. If you want exchanges, and I can see you have the time now to be on the forum, how about you go here and honor your part of the exchange?: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/015671.html IP: Logged
dustib Knowflake Posts: 488 From: USA Registered: Feb 2015	posted May 16, 2015 09:32 AM I'm still fairly new here but I also agree with you. But I also think there are some truly good people on here and so you can't let the few bad ruin it for all the good ones still on here. IP: Logged
Randall Webmaster Posts: 53071 From: Saturn next to Charmaine Registered: Apr 2009	posted May 16, 2015 09:34 AM This Forum is an exchange of Energy. You receive what you give. IP: Logged
MineAgain Knowflake Posts: 1374 From: Dreaming of you Registered: Nov 2013	posted May 16, 2015 09:41 AM I think what you have to keep in mind is that people also have lives outside of LL and sometimes don't have the energy to exchange. LL members are not compulsively seeking exchanges or readings. It is very generous of them to offer exchanges/free readings but they are entitled to do as they please with their talents. They're not forced to reply to anyone's thread/request. It takes a lot of energy to read for someone. Some just don't waste their time on the same question being asked over and over again in different ways. It drains their energy and it is very useless. There is a limit to everyone's kindness. A lot of readers also readings outside of LL and cannot possibly reply to every single person's requests. They also need time to recharge their batteries. Don't be ungrateful or mean because some didn't reply to your threads. They don't have to. IP: Logged
Enneline Knowflake Posts: 2560 From: Registered: Nov 2012	posted May 16, 2015 09:42 AM quote: Originally posted by Randall: This Forum is an exchange of Energy. You receive what you give. basically I would agree with you but there are quite a few people on here who would join every fukng free reading but who would never do that for others. Also, there are quite a few people on here who exchange and do fairy-airy spreads - even with 1 fckng single card only -while the other puts a lot of efforts in their exchanges. And i really despise all wannabe-psychics. The make things up in order to get free exchanges. Disgusting. The sooner or later it will turn around you, this point I would agree with you Randall, but it takes some time... BUT: For the most part and for the most time 98% of all people on here are really nice, helpful and kind persons IP: Logged
Randall Webmaster Posts: 53071 From: Saturn next to Charmaine Registered: Apr 2009	posted May 16, 2015 09:45 AM quote: Originally posted by MineAgain: I think what you have to keep in mind is that people also have lives outside of LL and sometimes don't have the energy to exchange. LL members are not compulsively seeking exchanges or readings. It is very generous of them to offer exchanges/free readings but they are entitled to do as they please with their talents. They're not forced to reply to anyone's thread/request. It takes a lot of energy to read for someone. Some just don't waste their time on the same question being asked over and over again in different ways. It drains their energy and it is very useless. There is a limit to everyone's kindness. A lot of readers also readings outside of LL and cannot possibly reply to every single person's requests. They also need time to recharge their batteries. Don't be ungrateful or mean because some didn't reply to your threads. They don't have to. IP: Logged
furrybunny Knowflake Posts: 363 From: NYC Registered: Dec 2014	posted May 16, 2015 09:56 AM quote: Originally posted by MineAgain: Some just don't waste their time on the same question being asked over and over again in different ways. It drains their energy and it is very useless. There is a limit to everyone's kindness. No offense but I've seen u ask the same questions .... Lol And sunny if no one is answering u on this thread u can get a paid reading. There's a thread where we discuss psychics. If I can't get a reading on LL which is understood Bc ppl are busy etc I move over to bitwine. It's really cheap IP: Logged
sunnybunny Knowflake Posts: 667 From: tellico plains,usa Registered: Oct 2014	posted May 16, 2015 10:59 AM To those of u who don't feel my exchanges are good enough or long enough I was raised by a parent with OCD. They could not stand too many words or long explanations and i would get beaten if I wasted time with too many words I their opinion. I was taught to be short and to the point. Serves me well with songwriting but its terrible for essays. I never overcame the fear of saying too much or wasting time with words even though they're dead and gone. Sorry if any of u felt shorted I tried best i could.if u want a three card reading it whatever please specify that and I will accommodate. IP: Logged
MineAgain Knowflake Posts: 1374 From: Dreaming of you Registered: Nov 2013	posted May 16, 2015 12:29 PM quote: Originally posted by furrybunny: No offense but I've seen u ask the same questions .... Lol And sunny if no one is answering u on this thread u can get a paid reading. There's a thread where we discuss psychics. If I can't get a reading on LL which is understood Bc ppl are busy etc I move over to bitwine. It's really cheap I know I have asked the same questions but only when "free" readings were offered and those same questions were asked to different readers to get different perspectives. We all do this here, except there's a difference between when you open 3-5 exchange threads on the same page and when you ask the question to different readers when you get the chance to have a free reading. Many members ask the same questions, I won't name them, but we all do this. I think pointing at me was uncalled for, that's very childish dear. IP: Logged
ILovePoems Knowflake Posts: 814 From: Registered: Feb 2015	posted May 16, 2015 12:33 PM I agree with MineAgain. We all do it. (I don't know how to bold the word.) lol IP: Logged
sunnybunny Knowflake Posts: 667 From: tellico plains,usa Registered: Oct 2014	posted May 16, 2015 12:45 PM It's only wrong when sunnybunny does it IP: Logged
furrybunny Knowflake Posts: 363 From: NYC Registered: Dec 2014	posted May 16, 2015 12:52 PM quote: Originally posted by MineAgain: I know I have asked the same questions but only when "free" readings were offered and those same questions were asked to different readers to get different perspectives. We all do this here, except there's a difference between when you open 3-5 exchange threads on the same page and when you ask the question to different readers when you get the chance to have a free reading. Many members ask the same questions, I won't name them, but we [b]all do this. I think pointing at me was uncalled for, that's very childish dear.[/B] I was just addressing what u said... So if that makes me childish I don't mind lols. Just felt what u said was bit presumptuous. Don't take things too personally dear. IP: Logged
furrybunny Knowflake Posts: 363 From: NYC Registered: Dec 2014	posted May 16, 2015 01:10 PM quote: Originally posted by sunnybunny: It's only wrong when sunnybunny does it Just learn from this then. Since a reader mentioned u give only one card exchanges why don't you try putting more effort and developing better longer answers. even if ur parents were OCD about things, and taught u xyz, doesn't mean u have to keep doing what they say. IP: Logged
blindpainter Knowflake Posts: 224 From: Washington USA Registered: Apr 2013	posted May 16, 2015 03:58 PM I just want to point out alot of people come here for help and guidence, some dont have cards most people im sure feel very uncomfortable trying to answer peoples big life questions i know i do! But sometimes i try anyway... IP: Logged
SunAscendant Knowflake Posts: 256 From: California Registered: Oct 2014	posted May 16, 2015 06:03 PM This forum doesn't require exchanges. You can post your chart and just ask for feedback, hence why this forum is a "personal reading" forum and doesn't say that it must be an exchange forum. Read the little description of the "personal reading" forum before you come in here. Also, I don't know why you said your parent has OCD. What does that have to do with anything? My dad had OCD and I have a slight form of it too, it doesn't really relate to anything here. IP: Logged
BellaFenice Knowflake Posts: 2967 From: Neptune with PisceanDream, Faith, and Meissieri Registered: Sep 2013	posted May 16, 2015 08:06 PM A few thoughts here. I agree with what a lot of you said. First of all, readers are giving their services for free, and we should be grateful for whatever we get in return. We all have lives outside of LL, so sometimes we cannot get back to people right away or give as thorough as answers as some would like, which is understandable. No matter your timeline or request, always respect the reader because they are giving their services selflessly. Unless someone requests a certain type of reading in their post, always show gratitude for the time and energy people put into your readings. I may be too altruistic, but I am firm believer you should give way more than you receive. I often get blanked on exchanges, which is fine, because at the end of the day I get way more satisfaction out of helping others than the other way around. When I make long tarot exchange threads (about to drop one now), I read for tons of people and very rarely does anyone offer to read for me. Does this bother me? No, absolutely not. When I make threads, I do it because I enjoy reading for others and expect nothing in return. I've been told by society plenty of times that my attitude is naive, but opinions be dammed, I would much rather continue to give and give positive energy out into the world. It makes the world a better place. Also, I think the concept of exchanging needs to be revisited a bit. Not everyone in the forum has the capability to provide readings yet, and it isn't fair to cast judgment on them. For example, I have read for plenty of people that could not give me anything in return. People come on here for guidance, information, help, support, etc., and we should keep in mind that everyone in here has an equal right for readings. So for those of you out there who feel tentative to post because you cannot offer anything in return- please do. There are plenty of us here who would be more than happy to help you. Bottom line: let us continue to bring positive energy into this forum. IP: Logged
blindpainter Knowflake Posts: 224 From: Washington USA Registered: Apr 2013	posted May 16, 2015 08:10 PM I just want to point out alot of people come here for help and guidence, some dont have cards most people im sure feel very uncomfortable trying to answer peoples big life questions i know i do! But sometimes i try anyway... IP: Logged
Debby4 Knowflake Posts: 862 From: TX,USA Registered: Apr 2012	posted May 16, 2015 08:27 PM quote: Originally posted by BellaFenice: A few thoughts here. I agree with what a lot of you said. First of all, readers are giving their services for free, and we should be grateful for whatever we get in return. We all have lives outside of LL, so sometimes we cannot get back to people right away or give as thorough as answers as some would like, which is understandable. No matter your timeline or request, always respect the reader because they are giving their services selflessly. Unless someone requests a certain type of reading in their post, always show gratitude for the time and energy people put into your readings. I may be too altruistic, but I am firm believer you should give way more than you receive. I often get blanked on exchanges, which is fine, because at the end of the day I get way more satisfaction out of helping others than the other way around. When I make long tarot exchange threads (about to drop one now), I read for tons of people and very rarely does anyone offer to read for me. Does this bother me? No, absolutely not. When I make threads, I do it because I enjoy reading for others and expect nothing in return. I've been told by society plenty of times that my attitude is naive, but opinions be dammed, I would much rather continue to give and give positive energy out into the world. It makes the world a better place. Also, I think the concept of exchanging needs to be revisited a bit. Not everyone in the forum has the capability to provide readings yet, and it isn't fair to cast judgment on them. For example, I have read for plenty of people that could not give me anything in return. People come on here for guidance, information, help, support, etc., and we should keep in mind that everyone in here has an equal right for readings. So for those of you out there who feel tentative to post because you cannot offer anything in return- please do. There are plenty of us here who would be more than happy to help you. Bottom line: let us continue to bring positive energy into this forum. IP: Logged
Randall Webmaster Posts: 53071 From: Saturn next to Charmaine Registered: Apr 2009	posted May 16, 2015 08:40 PM Well-said, Bella. IP: Logged
intuitivefish Knowflake Posts: 2022 From: Europe Registered: Aug 2014	posted May 17, 2015 03:49 AM I would agree with the part that everyone is entitled to get a free reading on here, there is no need to give exchanges, there are pleanty of readers who do give readings asking nothing in return. I also think noone should be judged on asking the same thing over and over again, I myself have been asking the same and have also gotten wrist slapped for asking too much of the same question. Althugh I do understand why I was told this ( too many readings can brng on confusion) but I also understand the need to ask 100 times the same thing, grasping for straws is a natural way of dealing with something. And better to grasp for straws here for free than throwing away money is my opinion. BUt I also agree that this forum has gotten a lot more negative and has this negative energy sometimes, its a great forum but there is too much tension, people get frustrated, our own problems show up in these feelings of frustration. Also, I don not think its nice or fair to ask for a reading, get half a page paragraph and in return in "exchange" give 2 words. that to me is not a fair exchange of energy in no way. This does not go to sunnybunny only. Mostly there is a lack of atleast saying thank you, I dont know why is it sow hard to atleast write "ty". Another point is opening a thread, sayings its an exchange and when you get your answer simply disappearing and then opening another thread in the same day and ignoring you have left someone hanging, I think thats rude. I can understand being busy but bluntly playing the blind card as to pretending not to have seen something while the person who waits "bumped" the thread 4 times. The most this forum was meant to give advice, guidance and to make friends, to open discussions and we should all try to be kind to eachother. x Fishy IP: Logged
erickaf Knowflake Posts: 453 From: Europe Registered: Oct 2014	posted May 17, 2015 04:11 AM I don't mind giving free readings and sometimes I do. But when I ask for exchange I just simply ask and if no one wants to give exchange oh well, it doesn't hurt my feelings. Also I find a bit of feedback or a thank you is great manners!!! It is not required but its good courtesy!!!! I have a mental list of those who never provided even a thank you or ignored me so I simply will never read for them again. IP: Logged
FruityLlama Knowflake Posts: 606 From: Registered: Sep 2013	posted May 17, 2015 05:32 AM I think its important on this forum to not take advantage which is quite easily done when people are offering readings for free. Whenever I ask a question I prepare myself to give just a detailed response back in return. I'm not too fussed personally about receiving a less detailed response, but given that people are offering their services for free etc etc I think it's important to give back otherwise this happens and it's not fair. That said I love practising with my cards which is mainly why j come here and look for threads that are still open, so I always make time anyways because it is a passion. IP: Logged
ikja Knowflake Posts: 1308 From: London, UK Registered: Oct 2014	posted May 17, 2015 05:58 AM Can I just say, in a terms of people saying thank you... Sometimes for me, it's because a thread gets extremely long to the point of having to search through 100 posts to find your original question and then coming back to say thank you. Tbh, sometimes I even forget to go back to a thread because it gets so long winded or there's such a long delay between asking the question and the answer given (no disrespect, but honestly). In these cases, it is very difficult to remember and that's why there has been an absence of a thank you from me in some instances. In my opinion, exchanges and free reading posts should operate more clearly and smoothly. If you ask a question, wait until the person has responded to you to respond and then only respond (if possible) ONCE. What I find is that some people come back to ask follow up questions x 3 and it delays everyone else having their questions answered. It also makes the thread hard to follow and then, we have situations where people are skipped. I'm inclined to say make another thread if you have MORE than like 1 (maybe 2) questions about a reading. Finally, if you're someone who needs an answer to an important question and people are not offering them here... Go to Fiverr.com. There many people who can spend time unpicking your situation down to its finer details. IP: Logged

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