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Topic: Wedding reception tears
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SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 1483
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Registered: May 2009
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posted June 08, 2015 03:59 PM
  
Hey AllWent to my friends wedding dinner - was so beautiful! Love is beautiful. Am so down - r I want closure with my ex - I want to message him to say bye and to please delete all our messages. I feel like I am a mess  Sparkling IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 53784
From: Saturn next to Charmaine
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 08, 2015 08:43 PM
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Julz87
Knowflake Posts: 926
From: Over the Rainbow
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 08, 2015 10:42 PM
Sparkling don't feel bad, if you need closure then try to get it. There's nothing wrong with that and you are in your every right to seek it out. The way you described how he ended things I think you need it. I really don't know what else to say to you, if you need someone to talk to you can message me. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 1483
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Registered: May 2009
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posted June 09, 2015 05:00 AM
Hello Both  Thank you so much for being there Was emotional last night but feeling better this morning. I do need closure, even if he has moved on. I will think carefully about what I would like to say to help me and do it, Sparkling IP: Logged |
ikja
Knowflake Posts: 1389
From: London, UK (GMT - 5 hours ahead)
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted June 09, 2015 05:09 AM
If you want to message your ex to get closure, this is fine and normal. Just be aware that he may not necessarily respond in the way that you hope. Looking back on the times that I have sought closure, I can say that "final" texts work best when you literally want it to be your LAST message. Not when you secretly hope that more will come out of it.If you want to send a final text, think about what you want to say. What do you want your ex to know that he doesn't necessarily know already? What do you want his "lasting" impression of you to be? What have you been prevented from expressing? What has hurt you the most? In terms of telling him to delete all your text messages, I'll be honest... I think that's an attention seeking ploy (I'm not throwing shade, I've done it lol). You have no control over what he does with your messages, and if I'm being honest... If he has moved on, he might have done this already anyway. If you're going to send a text, steer clear of drama and over the topness; because I can guarantee you that when your emotions clear up and away slightly more, you'll realise that those dramatic words were not an accurate representation of how you really feel. Take your time. There's no rush to obtain closure, you just need to figure out what YOU want to say and how the words reflect you and your feelings. Go out on a high, not like a grovelling mess (again, been there got the tshirt). IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 1483
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Registered: May 2009
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posted June 09, 2015 03:51 PM
Hello IkjaYou give great advice! I woke up today thinking, real closure comes when you do not care anymore, can say the words you wish to say without expecting a response. I am off on a work trip soon so will use that as a therapy trip to enjoy myself and distract myself. Who knows what is around the corner? Sparkling IP: Logged |
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