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Topic: @LostTaurus
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dustib
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 09:03 PM
  
so I'm thinking of sending a text to ML basically calling him out on his ghosting and telling him no more stringing along....that if he's interested great, put for the effort behind your words and if not, no worries since I'm doing my own thing. Is this a good idea and what will his reaction be? IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 09:33 PM
LOL!! I can SOOO identify with your situation. His reaction? Surprised >> Shocked >> a little P*ssed >> Amused Do what you gotta do, sister. I don't think it will 'put him off' in any substantial way, so maybe it's the shake-up he needs. Unfortunately, I'm not getting anything on whether it will be just that shake-up or not... :/ IP: Logged |
dustib
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 09:42 PM
What do you see if I don't and just keep no contact going? It's been a week since he disappeared this time IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 09:46 PM
Honestly? More of the same. It almost feels like a game to him right now - "let's see who can sweat it out the longest". I could be wrong, but it's what I'm getting. That said, it doesn't feel like intentionally malicious energy. IP: Logged |
dustib
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 09:51 PM
Exactly what I thought. Well I'm not going to send the text. I don't think he will ever change will he? IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 09:54 PM
Still feels like a long process. His energy just feels very Virgo. Feels like he genuinely likes you, but Virgos are notorious for drawing it all out and insisting on being pursued as they make the decisions. It can be exasperating.
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dustib
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 09:57 PM
I don't have time or patience for games anymore.. and that's what it feels like. I feel like if I pursue him, he disappears quicker and his ghosting routine after we meet up is old. He claims to be too busy for everything yet has time for the dating site. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 10:01 PM
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Originally posted by dustib:
I don't have time or patience for games anymore.. and that's what it feels like. I feel like if I pursue him, he disappears quicker and his ghosting routine after we meet up is old. He claims to be too busy for everything yet has time for the dating site.
Stick to your guns sweetie. It doesn't feel like enough has developed on either side for it to represent a substantial loss. Take back your energy and share it with someone who is ready for it.  IP: Logged |
dustib
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 10:03 PM
It is a loss for me and I'm hurt but he would have to prove he's seriously not playing a game. I'm not sure that will happen with him. But I'm moving forward... he either catches up or not. Do you think he will?IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 10:06 PM
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Originally posted by dustib:
It is a loss for me and I'm hurt but he would have to prove he's seriously not playing a game. I'm not sure that will happen with him. But I'm moving forward... he either catches up or not. Do you think he will?
True to his form, I feel like it'll take much longer than you expect. But I do feel like he may randomly reach out at some point down the line. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 10:07 PM
...it also feels like you'll have moved on by the time he does. :/IP: Logged |
luckystar25
Knowflake Posts: 1647
From: boston mass
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 18, 2015 01:48 AM
Would you guys exchange with me?My cat has been missing now 3 weeks....I'm starting to think back and think something weird happened in my house while I wasn't here before he escaped or whatever happened to him...where is he? Am I wrong about something happening IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 18, 2015 11:08 AM
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Originally posted by luckystar25:
Would you guys exchange with me?My cat has been missing now 3 weeks....I'm starting to think back and think something weird happened in my house while I wasn't here before he escaped or whatever happened to him...where is he? Am I wrong about something happening
Hi lucky, This feels like reaching to me. I don't feel any significant event happened which facilitated his getting out. It feels much more like accidental inattention (i.e., someone left the door open too long or he snuck through someone's feet and got out) - no idea why, but I'm seeing armsful of grocery bags - Someone distracted by bringing in the groceries.
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dustib
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 18, 2015 12:13 PM
I can pull for you tonight Lucky...crazy day at work today. IP: Logged |
luckystar25
Knowflake Posts: 1647
From: boston mass
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 18, 2015 03:54 PM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Hi lucky,This feels like reaching to me. I don't feel any significant event happened which facilitated his getting out. It feels much more like accidental inattention (i.e., someone left the door open too long or he snuck through someone's feet and got out) - no idea why, but I'm seeing armsful of grocery bags - Someone distracted by bringing in the groceries.
Ok good...its been 3 weeks  he's 17 years old I'm worried
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LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1518
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 18, 2015 09:00 PM
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Originally posted by luckystar25:
Ok good...its been 3 weeks he's 17 years old I'm worried
For what it's worth, I don't feel like he's in (or has been) harmed... (((HUG)))
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