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Topic: will my ex J be mad at me if I contacted him now?
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LibraGirl92 Knowflake Posts: 327 From: IL Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 01, 2015 10:31 PM
So I have been thinking of contacting my ex J to be friendly and to apologize the hurtful things I have done to him. I am just wondering if I contact him now would he be mad and not answer or me or possibly be some type of happy I did and answer back or should I wait awhile before doing this?IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 2343 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted July 01, 2015 10:54 PM
I am not a reader, but I did this Damage Control spread for you. 1. The bad stuff you said or did that caused damage to the relationship: Six of Pentacles You acted as holier-than-thou and looked down on him ( not necessarily that you felt that way, but it came out as such). There could be some money issues involved. 2. The underlying reason for your action Three of pentacles He wasnt acting as a team player and you felt as if it was only putting effort into the relationship. He wasnt emotional or affectionate. 3. How this put a wedge between you and your beloved Seven of cups You both withdrew in silence 4. What reaction this triggered in your beloved Knight of Pentacles He threw himself into work and kept himself occupied at work. He didnt show to you visible signs of distress 5. How he retaliated or withdrew Ten of wands He felt like too much burden and demands were put on his shoulders 6. Grace to be invoked from on High (pull an Angel card for this one) 4 of cups Dissatisfaction with the status quo as it presently is - you must react now. 7. Your best possible reconciliatory move Ten of cups Show him that you love him, be positive, affectionate, not irate or impatient 8. Most likely outcome The Magician It's not a yes or not, but this card shows that you have the mastery to receive what you want. It's a very encouraging card telling you to go ahead per your plans because you know what to do and how to do it. IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92 Knowflake Posts: 327 From: IL Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 01, 2015 11:36 PM
Thank you. Does this possibly mean there is a good chance we could possibly get back together as a couple? IP: Logged |
FairyDust75 Knowflake Posts: 2097 From: USA Registered: Dec 2013
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posted July 02, 2015 07:18 AM
Not to be nosey but is this the person who you posted about a while back that you thought might have been abusive towards you? I hope not!IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92 Knowflake Posts: 327 From: IL Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 02, 2015 10:43 AM
I thought he could of been but I didn't know for sure and years passed and with that people can change. We were young and now that me and him are older there could possibly be that chance to give it a second chance. I believe people can change I just have a big heart. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75 Knowflake Posts: 2097 From: USA Registered: Dec 2013
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posted July 02, 2015 10:54 AM
Please be careful. Usually people who are abusive only become worse with age. They become stronger and more domineering. I don't have a good feeling for you. I'm not intuitive or anything but I just don't feel like going back is ever a good thing. You should always go forward. IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92 Knowflake Posts: 327 From: IL Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 02, 2015 11:20 AM
I would make it clear that if he pulled the stuff he did years ago I would leave. I can't explain it but in my heart I think he has changed. But I will keep myself safe.IP: Logged |
FairyDust75 Knowflake Posts: 2097 From: USA Registered: Dec 2013
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posted July 02, 2015 12:17 PM
How many years has it been since you talked to him? I'm sure you can take care of yourself but it is easy to fall back into patterns and be aware you may not even be aware of him trying to control you. Just be careful is all.IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92 Knowflake Posts: 327 From: IL Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 02, 2015 12:33 PM
Last time we had contact was in 2013 since then we haven't spoke to each other. IP: Logged |