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LibraGirl92
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posted July 01, 2015 10:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So I have been thinking of contacting my ex J to be friendly and to apologize the hurtful things I have done to him. I am just wondering if I contact him now would he be mad and not answer or me or possibly be some type of happy I did and answer back or should I wait awhile before doing this?

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Orange
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posted July 01, 2015 10:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Orange     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am not a reader, but I did this Damage Control spread for you.

1. The bad stuff you said or did that caused damage to the relationship:
Six of Pentacles
You acted as holier-than-thou and looked down on him ( not necessarily that you felt that way, but it came out as such). There could be some money issues involved.
2. The underlying reason for your action
Three of pentacles
He wasnt acting as a team player and you felt as if it was only putting effort into the relationship. He wasnt emotional or affectionate.
3. How this put a wedge between you and your beloved
Seven of cups
You both withdrew in silence
4. What reaction this triggered in your beloved
Knight of Pentacles
He threw himself into work and kept himself occupied at work. He didnt show to you visible signs of distress
5. How he retaliated or withdrew
Ten of wands
He felt like too much burden and demands were put on his shoulders
6. Grace to be invoked from on High (pull an Angel card for this one)
4 of cups
Dissatisfaction with the status quo as it presently is - you must react now.
7. Your best possible reconciliatory move
Ten of cups
Show him that you love him, be positive, affectionate, not irate or impatient
8. Most likely outcome
The Magician
It's not a yes or not, but this card shows that you have the mastery to receive what you want. It's a very encouraging card telling you to go ahead per your plans because you know what to do and how to do it.

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LibraGirl92
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posted July 01, 2015 11:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you. Does this possibly mean there is a good chance we could possibly get back together as a couple?

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FairyDust75
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posted July 02, 2015 07:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FairyDust75     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not to be nosey but is this the person who you posted about a while back that you thought might have been abusive towards you? I hope not!

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LibraGirl92
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posted July 02, 2015 10:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I thought he could of been but I didn't know for sure and years passed and with that people can change. We were young and now that me and him are older there could possibly be that chance to give it a second chance. I believe people can change I just have a big heart.

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FairyDust75
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posted July 02, 2015 10:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FairyDust75     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please be careful. Usually people who are abusive only become worse with age. They become stronger and more domineering. I don't have a good feeling for you. I'm not intuitive or anything but I just don't feel like going back is ever a good thing. You should always go forward.

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LibraGirl92
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posted July 02, 2015 11:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would make it clear that if he pulled the stuff he did years ago I would leave. I can't explain it but in my heart I think he has changed. But I will keep myself safe.

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FairyDust75
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posted July 02, 2015 12:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for FairyDust75     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How many years has it been since you talked to him? I'm sure you can take care of yourself but it is easy to fall back into patterns and be aware you may not even be aware of him trying to control you. Just be careful is all.

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LibraGirl92
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posted July 02, 2015 12:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Last time we had contact was in 2013 since then we haven't spoke to each other.

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