posted July 18, 2015 02:12 PM            

I'm sorry for coming here again to vent.
Truth is, I really don't have many friends... and the few I have, don't want to bother them with my pain, my insecurities, I fear I'll lose them as well.

Most of the time I try not to think about my love life. And funny thing is, when I truly disconnect from it, everything seems to be better. But somehow, I keep falling again.
I keep falling for guys that either reject me, or hurt me. And this completely disrupts the harmony I work so hard to reestablish in between. And it is so painful, I can barely wake up in the morning feeling like a person, it's like I'm surviving in autopilot mode.

I have a sun, venus, mars and mercury stellium in the 7th. Of course, too much focus about relationships. But it is driving me insane, to the point of affecting other areas of my life.
I'm truly afraid I'll be single for the rest of my life.

The last relationship I had was 5 years ago. I don't remember anymore how it feels to be hugged.

posted July 19, 2015 03:05 PM            

I am sorry There are periods of loneliness in our love life, but then the sun shines again It is good to use those moments to focus on yourself, to be busy with learning new things, doing things that you like, by yourself. When love starts again, you don't have time for those anymore, and you regret not doing many things when you were free and alone Some things come later in life, but they are worth waiting.

posted July 20, 2015 03:53 PM            

Thank you so much for your kind words!

I do try to not think so much about it, and keep myself busy... but sometimes it's inevitable, as you must imagine these 5 years didn't go through with no one showing up. They do show up. And sometimes they go by and I'm unaffected, but others... there is an impact.

The last guy that showed up, it was fast. Less than 1 month. But I really thought I had found the one. Not the complementary kind, where you see differences between each other that feel nice. He was like me. A guy, but just like me. He even had the same name of my deceased father. I know it sounds ridiculous... but it was so powerfull, for just 1 month of getting to know each other. And it drives crazy to not know what happened on his side, to know why he suddenly just stopped communicating after we briefly met for a cup of coffee.

posted July 20, 2015 04:14 PM            

It's not you, it's a trend. The lost art of seduction.

I'm sorry to say, I have to be very honest, some of you ladies are ignoring it.

One example is the FWB trend. Gurls, what's up with that? Men have craved for millennia for this moment when women accept sexual relations only, for free, as a trend. No obligations from their part, sexual maintenance only (sorry to say, pipe maintenance). This is what FWB is about.

FWB? Sleeping on first dates? Hell no! I only sleep with my boyfriend, the one who takes me home from work, cooks for me when I'm tired, massages my feet, holds my head when I'm drunk and throw up, brings me flowers every week, writes me little poems in the morning. Za man in my life, the smile I die for, the voice giving me tingles, the hair I want to breathe in, the kiss I want to drink, is the only Knight who gets to dig up the treasure.

Everyone else, not playing this role, is most likely using you, sorry to say this, and they know about it. Or at least this is how they see it, in their mind.

Just because lots of people do something, don't make the mistake to do it yourself. Trends come and go. Seduction is eternal.

I strongly recommend this book, you may download it for free; don't mind the cheap presentation and title, the content is very good.
http://everythinggirlyandpink.files.wordpress.com/2013/11/why-men-love-******* .pdf

posted July 20, 2015 05:15 PM            

Thank you for saying that!!!

posted July 20, 2015 06:10 PM            

Not sure what is the impression I've passed through my venting, but I've never had a one nght stant. Nor a FWB.

I'll download the book anyway because I love a good read.

posted July 20, 2015 06:49 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I am sorry Fishy and IntuitiveJ (how are you?? and I am happy the good feeling I had about the Venus/Mars guy came true awwww) for the mix. I owe you both a roasted lamb

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