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posted July 27, 2015 11:32 AM            

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So my guy E is going a little quiet again. He's responding but very minimally. This has been going on since yesterday. I know he's got some big stress right now and I'm just worried about him. I just want to make sure it's not me and how to handle him in the best way. So I guess what I'm asking is, if someone would read for me as to why the sudden pull back and what's the best thing I should do. And also when he will come around again. I don't expect he's going to just up and stop all communication but I am worried about him but don't want to be to overbearing. My thanks and appreciation to anyone who can help.

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posted July 27, 2015 04:32 PM            

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not a reading, but if it's just been a day or so, try to worry less- make yourself busy.

he is fine, nothing horrible happened, don't worry about him, he just need some space from everything, not just you. he'll be back to normal in a couple days at most.

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posted July 27, 2015 04:49 PM            

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First of all, so sorry for your worries. It’s not comfortable feeling, when you are worried for your loved ones… But it will be okay.

I pulled some cards for you.

It seems like he is running away from something or someone. Maybe he is indecisive about a particular situation that he is currently in. Maybe he is in some sort of doubts. Job field is indicated.

I also asked what you should do. Advice is to leave him alone for a few days. Give him time of isolation – some alone time for him is pointed out.

Then you should write him a love note, send him text message with romantic connotation; communication and loving feelings are pointed out.

In a week: your text, message should bring changes. Being together in a public place, nature is also pointed out.

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posted July 27, 2015 05:18 PM            

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Thank you Peaceful and Rebecca. I did leave him be for today and he did start texting me this afternoon. He has just been busy as he says, nothing dramatic. I guess it's always hard for me to take his sudden silences due to past experiences. I need to work on that more. But he did respond and we did go back and forth via text for quite some time. I'm guessing things are back on track for now. Just hoping to see him soon, in particular for his birthday next week.

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posted July 27, 2015 06:55 PM            

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Hi Fairy <3

How is he feeling Tower, not good at all, why? 9 of Pents, seems financial, what should you do, 6 of cups just keep being you and emotionally supporting him, give him his space too this individual is very Uranian. When will he come around 2 of wands give him about two weeks his mood should settle.

I should mention, Fairy, you and this man have Karma conjunct Karma. This mans lesson with you is to learn responsibility. The rest is private I will email you as there are other aspect that interact with this conjunction.

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posted July 27, 2015 06:59 PM            

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Thanks very much Julz! Yes he does have money issues right now due to losing his job. It's his greatest stress. I can give him his space I just don't like the silence. I look forward to your email

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posted July 28, 2015 10:03 AM            

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Just thought I would bump up once more in case anyone has any other insight for me. Thanks!

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posted July 29, 2015 11:21 AM            

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Ok sorry to be a pain. Just bumping up once more for any other insight. I can't help but feel like there's something wrong. I'm probably just being paranoid but I feel like he's not wanting to talk to me or something. Any takers? Thank you in advance.

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posted July 29, 2015 12:01 PM            

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Hi FairyDust,

Really, really fast because I have to go back to work. I asked, "What should FairyDust do to improve her romantic situation?"

I got GARDEN--MAN--HEART. Go out and socialize with other people, mingle, show him that you have a life without him and he should warm up to you.

The best of luck!
SL

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posted July 29, 2015 08:47 PM            

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Thanks for that! I am trying to focus on other areas so as not to be so focused on him. I did go out with other friends tonight which did me a world of good!

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posted July 30, 2015 12:27 PM            

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Ok one more bump up. Only because I think he's a bit upset with me at the moment. I'm sorry to keep asking for help like this but I can't help but feel stuck right now
I am working with a pendulum and although I'm still learning I would be more than happy to offer an exchange to anyone willing to answer my post today. Just bear in mind I'm a novice but I'm willing to try if anyone is interested.

So here's my story. I proposed a beach day to E but he said he probably couldn't due to having his daughter. Now I get it he's probably not ready to introduce us. I've always felt it's his decision for when he feels ready. All I said was if he wanted to bring her I would be fine with it. But if not no worries maybe another time. I meant another time we would go as in him and I. He replied with "no not a good idea." I'm thinking he meant not a good idea about bringing his daughter along. I said ok can I ask why. But then replied back and said nevermind and a I apologized and said it was his decision. I also said that I meant maybe we would go another time. He hasn't answered me since.

So my question is, did he mean not a good idea to bring his daughter and is he just not ready for that now? Or does he just not want to spend the time with me? And is he mad at me hence his not replying back at all. And will he reply back first or am I going to have to do it later? Sorry to ask so much I'm just feeling bad and stuck. This is all new for me and I'm not sure how to navigate through this. I will be more than happy to exchange with as many pendulum questions as you want to ask me. Thanks to anyone willing to help me.

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posted July 30, 2015 12:48 PM            

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Why would he be mad? based on what you say, you did nothing wrong, honestly to me he seemed kinda rude.

My cards aren't looking very good, Fairy I asked a few questions for you.

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posted July 30, 2015 12:56 PM            

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I feel like he was rude too. He cold have explained it a bit more to me about what he was thinking. I just feel hurt I suppose. I just feel like something is off with him this week. Maybe it doesn't have to do with me directly but I feel like it's affecting how he and I interact. I don't want to text him again but I know he's stubborn and he probably won't do it first. Is he mad at me?

And his birthday is coming up and I do want to spend time with him but I feel like he doesn't want to. Or he won't for some reason. I don' t know, maybe I'm just being too crazy.

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posted July 30, 2015 01:04 PM            

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I asked if he is hiding something from you, causing this and came up as yes Sun + Book + Key.
Then I asked with Tarot why and it is suggested he may consider taking a break. Keep in mind I am quite tense right now and hopefully the cards reflect my own state of mind. But I got quarrel and separation cards. Maybe it's temporary. Then I asked directly if he wants to be with you now, this period and came up as a no, as if he is considering the break I am mentioning. I am sorry for my cards. Maybe they reflect me now. But I wanted to help.

2 of sw judgment 6 of pentacles death was the last string

maybe this explains his behavior, trying to drive you off. I suggest meeting up with him somehow and have a heart-to-heart, if you two are indeed close.

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posted July 30, 2015 01:08 PM            

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Oh wow, I do hope the cards are reflecting your mood. I don't think a break is coming only because we talked earlier about some stuff I'm supposed to help him with later on in the month and if he were planning a break then I don't think he would have asked me to help him. We do talk everyday and it's been about a week since I last saw him. I am wanting to see him for his birthday next week and I did put it out there about getting together so I do hope that happens and maybe we will talk then.

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posted July 30, 2015 01:10 PM            

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Maybe he is having this break up and quarrel with someone else, and this is affecting his mood? Anyway, cards show you will find out pretty soon. I wish I am wrong and things are much better then I saw them

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posted July 30, 2015 01:14 PM            

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I'm not sure who else he might be quarreling with. I know often doesn't get along with his mom and his ex (baby mama). Maybe it's one of them? As far as I know I'm the only girl. I just hope he answers me something soon. It's really upsetting me.

Thank you Lee for replying. I truly appreciate your time and energy. If I can do anything at all for you, my offer remains for a pendulum read. Please tell me what I can do for you in exchange. I really appreciate it.

Do you feel he will reach out first or me? I do hope he's not too mad at me.

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posted July 30, 2015 01:26 PM            

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It's Ok, we will do the pendulum reading some other time I can't wait!
It seems he won't call first, or at least for now. I have the impression it;s possible his conflicts or upset is about his child

I got Child (Ship) Whip Scythe for him calling you.
this means no, but whip is quarrel, disagreements and ship is a journey, travel, what you mentioned. or maybe his communication with you will be incisive again, like a Scythe

I want to tell you something, I hope you don't get offended, but I have to say it: I don't think it's right for you to stress so much for every message or the lack of it, it's bad for you health maybe these readings actually entertain that? I mean the best way is to communicate with the person directly and not worry for everything they think or say. I know how it feels, it's horrible to have these moments of uncertainty and not being able to communicate with the one you care about, but maybe you should trust the universe, the right moment when it will happen if, let's say, right now is blocking communication? things tend to work by themselves. It's too stressful for you, for your well being. I hope you're not upset I said it. And I really don't think you have reasons to blame yourself here it doesn't feel right to me. It was normal what you asked.

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posted July 30, 2015 01:52 PM            

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I'm not upset at all with you for saying it's not good for my health to worry all the time about it. I know it's true. I worry and analyze every little thing. It's horrible. I guess I've had so many bad experiences when it comes to men I always doubt myself and live in the constant worry that it will be over and it's the end. I think I'm far from the end with him but I always worry and stress. I'm sure he's not sitting there thinking of our conversation right now like I am. And I know it's best to speak to the person directly. I would love to just text him now and be like, is everything ok, but I'm afraid I'll make it worse. If I know him, he won't text me the rest of the day. And if I know me, by tonight I'll text him. I appreciate your concern and I know it's true about the stress of worrying. I have to get over it and whatever is meant to be will be. I guess he is someone I really care about and don't want to lose him right now. Even if I do end up reaching out first I don't know what to say, ignore the whole conversation or bring it up. With him it's probably best to ignore it. I don't know anymore.

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posted July 30, 2015 02:04 PM            

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Fairy, I think you should do what YOU want, what you feel like doing, to be yourself; otherwise it is amputating to do things based on if he likes it or not. Don't fear rejection and abandonment, people love you for yourself, for who you really are; and you can't force this anyway. When it happens, rejection, it's usually best for both sides. If you do everything based on acceptance/rejection you annihilate yourself, you're no longer you; you know, people feel this anyway, they have an instinct, like animals; and it may trigger negative reactions by itself. Call the guy if you like it when you feel like and say what YOU want to say or communicate. He will know and love you like this. I said these things because I felt you are tense and in pain about this and it is not fair, this is what I believe. You did nothing wrong!

Try to relax now or contact him to get it over with, whatever is best for you or what you like about you two
Good luck!

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posted July 30, 2015 02:10 PM            

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Thanks again. I think I will wait it out a bit until my emotions have settled down. Maybe he will surprise me and contact first. But you are very right, I need to make me happy and if he can't accept that then so be it. I know he does care and I'm sure this will work itself out. Thanks for talking with me today!

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posted July 30, 2015 04:53 PM            

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Fairy, I just wanted to say you should stop apologizing so much to men you're dating... respect yourself and they will respect you. If you extend yourself too far, they will not respect your needs- not out of malice but out of habit.

you were reasonable, the guy was not. he may be difficult (well I did tell you he is/has probably anger/emotional issues) but does not mean you have to always go above and beyond for him... strive for balance, and you deserve his good treatment too. all the best

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posted July 30, 2015 05:19 PM            

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Thanks Peaceful. I think I'm totally blinded by my feelings for him as well. I just have such a need to please him and make him happy I put that above myself which I know I should not do but end up doing anyway. I haven't heard back from him now all day and I'm quite upset about it. I'm not even sure what to say to him should I text him first. I don't even know that he's looking at this the same way I am. Clearly I'm not good with relationships.

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posted July 30, 2015 05:48 PM            

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You make a good partner, you are good with relationships. You are caring and will do anything to prove your love. I understand we can't choose who we fell for sometimes, and that is fine. You just have to accept this guy is not operating on the same speed as you at this moment...

I'll email you in a bit

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posted July 30, 2015 06:05 PM            

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Thanks I look forward to it.

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