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Topic: Emergency Reading Please!
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KayEvans
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From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 05:48 PM
  
Hi LL,I've been away from the site for a while due to focusing on some things in my personal life, but am back because of a strange situation that has come up today. Can someone please give me a reading on this situation? I don't know why I've become a sudden target for this woman, but it seems like displaced anger. I need to know what's going on and what to do about it. I also need to know a likely outcome, as I have no plan of returning her phone call. I really hope that someone can offer some insight. Thanks. IP: Logged |
cherful24
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From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 06:28 PM
I say don't call back. He blamed you ...said it's u who is after him .U who is crossing the line, not him ...u like him. He doesn't like u. Ur the one calling him. You, you, you...and he feels bad and u won't leave him aloneThere's a reason his wife is jumping the gun, and that's because this man has had several close female friends...I don't think he's cheated, but he knows his wife isn't leaving him...and he keeps doing it. Hence YOU But he i crossing the line in many other ways, and he's wife is not having it.
she's an idiot. This is not a healthy relationship with them. But he likes doing this. Be prepared to be shocked because who u thought was like a brother is really a narcissistic person....he blamed u on everything things, ur the bad guy!
...u should call her and expose his LIES...I just don't think she'll believe them
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KayEvans
Knowflake Posts: 601
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 06:48 PM
Hi Cherful,I really appreciate the reply! Oddly, I do believe that you are right about him having past close friendships with women, and I also don't get the feeling he has ever cheated.. I've never thought of him to fit the narcissistic personality, so you saying that really is a little shocking. I'm just wondering, what do you see happening with this situation? I'm not going to call her back because I have no interest in getting more mixed up in this than necessary. I really hope that she will not continue to contact me. IP: Logged |
gypsywander
Knowflake Posts: 102
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted August 14, 2015 06:53 PM
Hey Kay, if you don't mind I pulled some cards for you because I am/was in a very similar situation! ace.wands - empress -3.wands
I don't think it's *you* at all - exclusively. I think what happened was his wife saw/heard something maybe from another co-worker about you two or his past that she got upset about and probably took it out on you. I actually would call her back and explain to her what really has happened between you and him and to let her know you mean no harm. I actually like the 3.wands here in the 'future' as that is a teamwork card. I think you will be able to work things out with her and that things will go back to normal! IP: Logged |
KayEvans
Knowflake Posts: 601
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 07:09 PM
Thank you for your input gypsywander. What you've said makes sense too, as it's all come completely out of nowhere! I'll have to sleep on whether or not I'll call her back..she sounded pretty wound up and angry in the voicemail, so I am not up for talking to her while she's feeling like this. Maybe we'll be able to have a rational conversation about it once she calms down some. Something that disappoints me about this is that I was looking forward to meeting her at some point! Clearly, I'm not feeling that way right now.. IP: Logged |
cherful24
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From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 07:19 PM
Well....I don't think ur relationship with him will continue. I think he'll distance himself. And not bring it up unless u confront him. To think you'll see a wholea other person...a Jack ass/dick are the words I think you'll be thinking to yourselfLet me know what happens 😏 IP: Logged |
KayEvans
Knowflake Posts: 601
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 07:58 PM
Interesting.. I'll definitely let you know how it turns out, Cherful. Thanks again!IP: Logged |
cherful24
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From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 08:33 PM
It's interesting that he hasn't contacted you. I'm sure he knows his wife is calling you. Normally a guy would call and explain the situation and let that person understand why the wife was jumping the gun , and that he took care of it and tried to explain that no there really is nothing to get upset about. But notice how he's not doing that. He's shaddy anddoesn't seem to care that he got you involved in this and that your feelings are probably hurt and you're upset...u should call him and ask wth is going on! 😠 I don't like him! IP: Logged |
KayEvans
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From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 09:11 PM
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Springtimeflower
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posted August 14, 2015 09:16 PM
Kay,I talked to someone once and ran across the same situation. As I listened, and also managed to get their birthdates, their synastry showed that they didn't have the intimacy in their relationship. Your friend may have a similar problem in his relationship and has used you and the others to make her jealous to try to get the physical side going or maybe more attention--just a thought. He's avoiding you I bet, because he's not liking her yelling at him. Do you know any of the other girls that he was friends with? Maybe talk to one of them and compare notes. Good luck,
Spring
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cherful24
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From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 14, 2015 09:19 PM
So his wife gets upset with him to the point it's causing problems but yet he still continues on with it to the point where it's causing problems, but yet he still continues on with you.That's a horrible thing for him to do to his wife. But the fact that he's also telling you about it getting you emotionally involve, is not him looking out for you either. He's treating u both horrible. If my husband, if I had one, called up someone who I thought was a male frien but for some reason couldn't convince him of that, I would be embarrassed and I would absolutely call that person to say I'm so sorry that he was calling.If yIf you to our coworkers and goo good friend she wouldn't be calling you and leaving you messages. she think something else ...be careful with this one. It's unnecessary drama/negativity that u don't need quote:
Originally posted by KayEvans:
Lol, he did all of that when she initially complained about it, and explained things to me, we both figured it would blow over (he said that she was mad about something else, but used our being in touch as a thing to nitpick about). But you're right..he hasn't responded since she called. I sent him a text earlier to ask if he knew the number, because it was almost identical to his. I have a feeling they've been arguing tonight, but I'll see him at work, so I'll talk to him about it there.
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KayEvans
Knowflake Posts: 601
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 15, 2015 09:59 AM
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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Kay,I talked to someone once and ran across the same situation. As I listened, and also managed to get their birthdates, their synastry showed that they didn't have the intimacy in their relationship. Your friend may have a similar problem in his relationship and has used you and the others to make her jealous to try to get the physical side going or maybe more attention--just a thought. He's avoiding you I bet, because he's not liking her yelling at him. Do you know any of the other girls that he was friends with? Maybe talk to one of them and compare notes. Good luck,
Spring
I think that you're right about that. He's never mentioned any issues specifically with her, but I do think that there is a distance in their marriage. I'll talk with other past female friends that I also know and will see what happened with them. Thanks! IP: Logged |
KayEvans
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From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 15, 2015 10:04 AM
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KayEvans
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From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 17, 2015 05:59 AM
Ok, so I have an update. A family member of his who apparently has a history of causing drama told her that she thinks something is going on between us (she recently met me when a group of us were together). His wife left him a few days ago and he doesn't know if she's coming back. I was pretty shocked to hear that. Something else is obviously going on with her/them. Do either of you see them working this out and reconciling? I feel bad for him.. IP: Logged |
cherful24
Knowflake Posts: 4554
From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 17, 2015 08:59 AM
Yes. I don't see her leaving him. quote:
Originally posted by KayEvans:
Ok, so I have an update. A family member of his who apparently has a history of causing drama told her that she thinks something is going on between us (she recently met me when a group of us were together). His wife left him a few days ago and he doesn't know if she's coming back. I was pretty shocked to hear that. Something else is obviously going on with her/them. Do either of you see them working this out and reconciling? I feel bad for him..
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KayEvans
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From: USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 17, 2015 09:23 AM
Okay, thanks! IP: Logged |
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