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Topic: Holding it in exchange
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luckystar25
Knowflake Posts: 1810
From: boston mass
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted August 28, 2015 08:08 PM
  
So me and this kid that were best friends for years , who we both always said we'd be there for each other mo matter what..is getting married tomorrow.. A year ago he ended our friendship for such a stupid reason..I feel mayb his wifey to be secretly didn't like the fact that we were friends I don't know...
I'm OK but knowing that it's tomorrow is kinda bothering me..I thought we would have made amenze by now..How does he feel that Im not going to be there? IP: Logged |
gypsywander
Knowflake Posts: 224
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted August 28, 2015 09:47 PM
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Originally posted by luckystar25:
So me and this kid that were best friends for years , who we both always said we'd be there for each other mo matter what..is getting married tomorrow.. A year ago he ended our friendship for such a stupid reason..I feel mayb his wifey to be secretly didn't like the fact that we were friends I don't know...
I'm OK but knowing that it's tomorrow is kinda bothering me..I thought we would have made amenze by now..How does he feel that Im not going to be there?
I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'm so tired of girlfriends who get jealous of their boy's having friends with other women. It's happened to me and it sucks. hermit - 6.pentacles - 7.swords
I would think he'd feel a bit betrayed, maybe things are bad now, but I feel if you don't go, it could really ruin the friendship for good - as in may never see him again... if you can go, perhaps you two can balance the friendship again. IP: Logged |
luckystar25
Knowflake Posts: 1810
From: boston mass
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted August 28, 2015 11:15 PM
I wasn't invitedIP: Logged |
gypsywander
Knowflake Posts: 224
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted August 28, 2015 11:20 PM
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Originally posted by luckystar25:
I wasn't invited
okay then I don't really see his focus being on you anymore, seems to me he's moved on and is focused on getting married, sorry but I would let it go... IP: Logged |
DreamCatcher
Knowflake Posts: 112
From: United States
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted August 28, 2015 11:28 PM
Hi Lucky- May I interject?
He does feel badly, and he' s hurt that you wont; be there. He also has wanted to get in touch with you particularly over the past six weeks, but knows his Fiance/wife would never let him hear the end of it. She's a bit controlling, and he's very manipulated by her. You are right...she is quite insecure and is therefore very jealous of any woman he has contact with, especially you. I know it hurts, but in time you will speak again, but do know that he misses you but feels his hands are tied.May I ask a question? I'd like to know what a new guy I met thinks of me.name is Tomas. if he wants to get to know me better. Thanks! IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
Knowflake Posts: 928
From: Manhattan
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted August 28, 2015 11:55 PM
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Originally posted by luckystar25:
How does he feel that Im not going to be there?
Tower - 5 of Pentacles - The Hierophant It's definitely going to shake up his world that you're not here. He's going to miss you and feel a little depressed that he will be getting married without you there. Tower shows it's not his decision, for if it were his choice, you'd be there. Hierophant shows he's sticking to the rules of his wife. However, 5 shows he's deeply saddened and unhappy by this  My q: What do i need to know about this come October? IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
Knowflake Posts: 928
From: Manhattan
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted August 28, 2015 11:57 PM
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Originally posted by gypsywander:
I would let it go...
That's not nice to say, Gypsy. IP: Logged |
gypsywander
Knowflake Posts: 224
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted August 29, 2015 12:02 AM
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Originally posted by goddessofthemoon:
That's not nice to say, Gypsy.
How is it not nice? it's not nice to tell someone to hope for something that may or may not come to be. He's getting married, it's the truth. He made it clear that he and her can't be friends because he's getting married to that ridiculous woman. I tell the truth, letting go is better than holding onto something that hurts you. I've been there, I'm telling it as it is. She'll be happier to move on and let it go than to hold on to something that hurts her. I absolutely do not sugarcoat my readings. IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
Knowflake Posts: 928
From: Manhattan
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted August 29, 2015 12:06 AM
Trust me, I know. It's good that you are a blunt reader but she asked a specific question, she didn't ask to be scolded right now. Imagine how hard it is not being able to be present at your really good friend's wedding.I have seen you ask a couple times about the same person who has cut ties, and I don't believe I've seen anyone outright tell you to just let it go even though you should. Anyway, sorry for budding in. IP: Logged |
gypsywander
Knowflake Posts: 224
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted August 29, 2015 12:09 AM
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Originally posted by goddessofthemoon:
Imagine how hard it is not being able to be present at your really good friend's wedding.
But they're not friends anymore! They haven't been for over a year. I'm not scolding her, I'm telling her what the cards say! Do not bring my situation into this, it's definitely not the same. IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
Knowflake Posts: 928
From: Manhattan
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted August 29, 2015 12:14 AM
Ok, K  IP: Logged |
luckystar25
Knowflake Posts: 1810
From: boston mass
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted August 29, 2015 12:58 AM
Best friends for over 10 years and our connection has never died I love all of you for stepping in Nd standing up for me....It just sucks and I blocked it out and its busting out IP: Logged |
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