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Topic: Are these signs?
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ihaveaquestion
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posted September 14, 2015 12:39 PM
  
So, last year P andI dated for 2 months. Our breakup saga went on for over 4 months. Less than two months after we finally parted ways he got engaged to someone. It's been over 6 months since that and 8-9 months since our final parting but in the last month or something I have been crossing paths with him a LOT and even My friends have spotted him in the cafe next to my building. I have seen his car pass by a few times. Are these things any signs? I briefly dated someone the last couple of days and I realized I was not able to give it my all because these things kept happening all the time. And I m clearly not over P.  Please help me understand these signs?IP: Logged |
ihaveaquestion
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posted September 19, 2015 05:33 AM
Bump. Please please help with some clarity!IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted September 19, 2015 05:56 AM
its signs things are not permanently over on both sides, not saying it will restart again but I feel like both of you have not healed and really moved on emotionally. You both have open wounds and are not ready to really move on until both sides feel healed and like everything has been said.
I do get you still have a longing for him so I feel like until he is in your heart and you compare other, you will not let him go to move on either. Your thoughts keep him closer and keep him tied to youIP: Logged |
ikja
Knowflake Posts: 1858
From: The Valley of Restoration
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posted September 19, 2015 05:58 AM
I don't think this is something that someone else should answer.Ask yourself if you're over him or not, if you're not... Start thinking about having a conversation with him. Perhaps at this point you can ask for some guidance as to how he may respond or whether you should tell him how you feel. Take care x IP: Logged |
ihaveaquestion
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posted September 19, 2015 05:51 PM
Yeah agreed, like I said earlier, I'm not entirely over him even though I thought I was. Could I please request you to do a reading for me to ask if I should try it to message or not? Morally I feel selfish to do that since he's engaged to someone. That'll make me a bad person but if he still has feelings for me then does that make it a little bit fair? quote:
Originally posted by ikja:
I don't think this is something that someone else should answer.Ask yourself if you're over him or not, if you're not... Start thinking about having a conversation with him. Perhaps at this point you can ask for some guidance as to how he may respond or whether you should tell him how you feel. Take care x
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ihaveaquestion
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posted September 19, 2015 05:59 PM
That might be true. I was really hurt I still am. I could see he was hurt too. 2 days ago, I saw his car outside the cafe near me, I walked inside under some pretext knowing well that he is inside, my heart was pounding he saw me got up said hello, his face lit up but was also so awkward like I caught him or something. As I walked out I was calmer. It's like I faced my biggest fear. I really wish I could go back in time and change a few things. Do you not at all see us together? quote:
Originally posted by intuitivefish:
its signs things are not permanently over on both sides, not saying it will restart again but I feel like both of you have not healed and really moved on emotionally. You both have open wounds and are not ready to really move on until both sides feel healed and like everything has been said.
I do get you still have a longing for him so I feel like until he is in your heart and you compare other, you will not let him go to move on either. Your thoughts keep him closer and keep him tied to you
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intuitivefish
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posted September 20, 2015 02:44 AM
I think you need to come to grips with it being over. and not try to recindle it because you are not being fair to him !
release him to have his happiness why would you want him to not be happy?ask yourself this : how would I feel if I were wanting to be happy and he would try and stop it? dont be the unfair ex who cant let go, let him go to search for his own happiness. he needs this chance.
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ihaveaquestion
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posted September 20, 2015 03:18 AM
Absolutely. You know I thought about it after posting the question and I was like why can't I just get over it, I am romanticising the relationship now when it's over but when we were together it was really hard and almost unbearable. I had made a conscious effort to cut him off all these months but the last month was just mad. Anyway, you're totally right I'm just going let both of us heal. There's someone who's really keen, and I am going to give him a fair shot. Slowly and in time. Thank you for hearing me out quote:
Originally posted by intuitivefish:
I think you need to come to grips with it being over. and not try to recindle it because you are not being fair to him !
release him to have his happiness why would you want him to not be happy?ask yourself this : how would I feel if I were wanting to be happy and he would try and stop it? dont be the unfair ex who cant let go, let him go to search for his own happiness. he needs this chance.
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