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missblyss
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From: san diego, ca, USA
Registered: Oct 2015

posted October 27, 2015 05:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a 24-year-old single mom to a 2-year-old baby girl.

I have done everything in my power to give her the best upbringing possible, even when it meant leaving her dad (who was very volatile). She has slept in my arms every night since she was born. I practiced "baby wearing", still breastfeed, have never spent a night away from her... I have only been away from her a dozen times and never for more than 4 hrs...

But my daughter is SO sensitive, and SOOOO passionate. She honestly has the same energy that I see Hitler having in those crazy speeches he gave (no, she is nothing like that, but the intensity really is comparable.)

She is so hard for me to handle, not when we are alone.. But in public. If she get's angry she screams, throws herself on the ground, rips things off the shelves, hits.

I have never yelled at her, I do try to enforce boundaries. When she is upset I sit calmly and hug and hold her and try to get her grounded....

Being that I am a single mom, this is getting so hard for me. Not even her grandparents will watch her because of how difficult she is. I know she is an amazing girl, she is my everything, but maybe understanding her chart more deeply will give me some guidance as to WHY she feels and acts the way she does. It feels like such a fine line because she is SO sensitive, but also SO powerful.

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Soltze
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posted October 27, 2015 07:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Soltze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your daughter has too much nervous energy (Moon conj Uranus) and Mars in the 1st can give restless. She's still too young anyway but expressing her emotions might be difficult later since the Moon/Uranus conjunction is opposing Mercury.

The Moon is also square Pluto. I have a Pluto/Moon aspect as well. You love her a lot but if you overprotect her she will perceive it as control and rebel. That's what happens with Moon/Pluto aspects.

But right now she only has the power you give to her. Right now she is a little child and you can conteract her bad tendencies.
She needs discipline as much as she needs love.
Don't reward bad behaviour. If she misbehaves you need to make her do some action to fix it.
If she throws stuff than make her catch the stuff. Be firm. It will take time and patience. Letting the child getting her way can have bad consequences years later.~

Have you tried putting a crib in your bedroom? She can't sleep with you forever. I was 8 months when my parents got me to sleep in my little bed. You need to start creating boundaries slowly so that she will be na autonomous and self-assured person in the future. Also to avoid that the child becomes too anxious later.

Maybe you can start looking for sport activities for little children as well. She will need it so all the energy she has doesn't become destructive.

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Livsauce
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posted November 05, 2015 02:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Livsauce     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You sound like such a great mom! I love that you said when she gets upset you sit calmly with her. It's hard to do, but so helpful because if a child sees their parent getting upset and losing control too it only makes it worse for them. She'll carry the emotional memory of that with her.

Since she's only 2, she's still living very much through her south node in the 10th house, so she's comfortable expressing herself in public, and in an Aries, physical, aggressive way

Her AC/DC is at 4 degrees and her MC/IC at 22 (which equals 4, and a master number). In numerology, the number 4 is all about steady work and usually lots of challenges, but overcoming them by not giving up or losing control. Her 4th house also has her NN/Saturn at 8 degrees, I don't know if that's exactly relevant lol but it seems interesting because they are similar energies. Grounding herself will probably be important so that's good that you already know that.

Her cardinal grand cross means she was meant to balance all these conflicting energies, so maybe she kinda senses this big task in front of her? Steve Jobs had a cardinal grand cross in his chart You're right, she is both very sensitive and very powerful.

Cardinal Grand Cross:
"Here is how this rare configuration can be described:

This planetary pattern also represents stress, stress, and more stress. Fortunately, it also gives you lots of excess energy to deal with everything on your plate! The biggest challenge for you is giving up your overwhelming need to control what is going on in your life and the lives of others. This is because your astrology has taught you that nine times out of ten, you’re correct about the situations you find yourself in!"

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visions
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posted November 07, 2015 12:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for visions     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
here is my thoughts on the chart.

Beware i am saturnian. i alwyas think astrologer have an approach of their astrology reading according to their own chart. even with the best intention trying to be neutral. You can be actually if you apply rule ony rules. but i am momre of an intuitive astrololger because all my planet are in water or water house.

so i am sometimes rude in my reading and highly realistic, so if i see bad things i tell the bad, and if i see good thing, it has to be great to be told.

you said she is somewhat difficult to handle, in public(the moon = public). i was surprized because she has moon trine mars so she is able to manage her emotion in public and to show emotional strength but that moon conjunct uranus make her mood erratic in square with 12th jupiter very erratic.as Jupiter is in cancer(jupiter exlatation sign) i will suggest that bringing her home will calm her mood when she makes such crisis the trine from jupiter to IC venus/saturn will bring innerpeace to her and joy(jupiter) but i guess she does also crisis at home even bigger sometimes because jupiter amplify the mon/uranus conjonction paradoxically...so, the problem is that mars square the IC venus saturn,show lack of father...of an authoritary figure in a male way, maybe a substitutive father could work, uncle, male friend, boyfriend to take this role, and it's very important as she grows up she will show difficulty in relationship with men with that square is not handled now, but life is not easy sometimes we don't have the necessary things and environnemnet to cope with problems. but i think if you try to find a way to rythm her life as she is very erratic and you need to adapt a lot, not easy, but she is like that, she need fast pace outside(moon uranus MC) and peace and stability at homme(venus saturn 4th house). everythink that work her imaginery is very good because she has a very good neptune with chiron,dance also. so when you have a 2yo baby child you have to call specialist to know what are the entertainment for 2yr baby to make that dreaming space alive.

i think you can find a solution to manage her nervous streak but i am more anxious about her mercury, mercury rule youth and speak, so when she will hit 14yo she will get a very naughty tongue, very harsh, you have to show her that you have to be respected also as her mother.(moon in opposition to mercury) the peace she get now is the peace she will give you later.

adult, she will be a hardworker serious, and as she get older she will polish her image and even inspire people, people will show her respect.when she will be attacked in some way whe will raised great defences. she has a lot of assets, ability to command even the men, i think she will be a specialist in her work field.

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