posted December 22, 2015 03:51 AM
Hi harmonicvibes, Please let me just say that all this lessons mumbo jumbo in my personal experience is nothing but counter-productive.
It is true that you can't change what happened, but it's also true you are not the only one to blame for the way things worked out, there were other people involved, making choices, decisions and whatnot.
The best thing you can do is to stop putting pressure on yourself, do the things you enjoy and things that make you feel content. Once you start operating from a place of peace and attain inner security, life will get easier and more importantly a way more pleasurable experience.
The more you pressurise yourself with self-accusing behaviour, the more frustrated you will feel as you start trying to take steps to mend your ways. It would be much better to try to know yourself and your needs and what's good for you, learn to respect others' boundaries and adhere to basic ethical principles when dealing with other people.