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Topic: Very sad ...if anyone can help shed some light family related
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Bluestar33
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posted January 01, 2016 11:05 PM
  
I've had a very rough time lately with my family the situation is I was abused as a child by my mother my grandmother sort of raised me while my mother did all these things to me as of two years ago I finally cut all ties with my mother I'd rather die than see her again in front of me my grandmother recently moved in with her and my grandma has been acting strange with me and yesterday asked me if I would give her a picture of my son I said no because I don't want my mother to see him not even in pictures since she's no longer in my life I don't trust my grandmother enough to give her a photo and not show it to my mother point is my grandmother got really mad at me told really hurtful things and I've started to think my grandmother no longer cares about me or respects me and I love her so much because she's basically the only living family I have left I don't know what to do anymore I'm so tired of all this drama should I just stop talking to my grandmother? And end our relationship because I feel it's become toxic after she moved in with my mother any advice will be greatly appreciatedIP: Logged |
SpiritualSadie
Knowflake Posts: 153
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted January 02, 2016 01:17 AM
I'm sorry you're going through this. Holidays always seem to exacerbate family issues.I feel that your strong feelings about your mother are coloring your perception of your grandmother's actions right now. Before you think of cutting ties with your Grandma, consider looking at it from her perspective. Things are rarely a one way street. As someone who had a really strong propensity for just cutting people out when there was conflict, I have a lot of regrets. There is definitely a time and place to do so, but it's not always the right answer. Sometimes we have to make peace with a situation in other ways. I recommend thinking on this more and trying a different approach to resolving it before you walk away. IP: Logged |
LostSoulRebecca
Knowflake Posts: 1113
From: Europe
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted January 02, 2016 02:13 AM
Bluestar33, I am so sorry, that you had and have to go through this. Really. Before I can say anything more, may I see your natal chart with transits? A solar return for 2015/2016 would also help. IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
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From: Brooklyn, New York
Registered: May 2012
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posted January 02, 2016 10:42 AM
Wow, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this - sounds horrendous =(. This is not a reading, but more like advice. I wouldn't cut your grandmother off - you know you both love each other dearly, so that should be out of the question. Have you tried discussing with your grandmother the reason why you don't want to give her a photo? I know it's a hard topic, so I understand if you haven't or won't. Maybe try explaining to her in other forms that you don't really get along with your mother, and that's the main reason why you won't provide a photo. I know this isn't much help, but I strongly feel that you shouldn't cut ties with your grandmother over this. Wish you the best <3 ------------------
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Ayelet
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posted January 02, 2016 11:38 AM
Hi Bluestar, I also don't think you should cut your connection with your grandma. I think the best strategy, which was already suggested, is honesty. Tell her how you feel, that now that she is living with your mom you feel your relationship has somewhat change, explain to her you love her but you won't have anything to do with your mom. I hope you'll be able to reconcile.IP: Logged |
mattva
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posted January 02, 2016 12:27 PM
hey im really sorry to hear about the family.But I think toxic relationships are there regardless of where you end up in your life. Sometimes it's those closest to us and sometimes its people we encounter in life. If I've learned anything is that... take this as an opportunity to center yourself and build a boundary so that no one is able to affect you. I don't think you should cut your ties with your grandmother either. If she is acting odd, then give her the space she needs. And rise up to the situation by being stronger. You don't have to cut her off but you also don't have to be extremely attached either. I hope things improve! IP: Logged |
Bluestar33
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posted January 02, 2016 04:47 PM
Thank you all for your help I really needed to hear some advice because I really don't know what to do anymore...I'm going to take all your advice and I'm going to continue my relationship with my grandmother all of you said I should so I'm going to its just hard but I really do love her and I want her to be a part of my son''S life ..I'm really grateful for your help all of you.. I will let you know how it goes IP: Logged |
Bluestar33
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posted January 02, 2016 04:51 PM
Hi lost soul Rebecca I'm going to try and post my chart later today thanks for your support IP: Logged |
Bluestar33
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posted January 02, 2016 05:15 PM
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Bluestar33
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posted January 02, 2016 05:18 PM
I don't know if that's the chart you are asking for LostsoulRebecca my birthdate is July 2 1982 time is 10:48amIP: Logged |
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