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Topic: Feeling lonely
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strawberryaa Newflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Dec 2015
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posted January 10, 2016 03:40 PM
I have always been a quite lonely person, I don’t have a lot of friends, so it’s a big problem for me, because I need interaction with people, just like air!!!! But at the same time I tend to push people away… Now that I have been into astrology and looked up some of my planetary placements, I know that that’s my Venus retrograde doing its nasty job -_- so I try to overcome it, but I just don’t know how… How do you even make friends and where? It’s weird for me to go to the clubs all by myself and I think it’s quite dangerous too, because I’m quite young. Also my love life hasn’t been so fun. I had my first “boyfriend” last autumn and at first I wasn’t really into him (as I usually am, I never know what do I want), but when I suddenly understood that I like him, a lot, he started pushing me away and just stopped texting me. We dated just for a few months, but probably because he was my first “boyfriend” I felt quite sad, because he just didn’t explain anything, why he left me… So I’m still blaming myself that it was all my fault… (I know that it’s my Venus R, talking know). I’m still blaming myself, that maybe I was too boring, maybe I’m just ugly (even though I know I’m not), maybe I was too clingy… I don’t know. Also I saw him on a date with another girl, which made me even more sad. I feel very sad, because I have so much love to give, but there is nobody around. I’m really sorry for just spilling my problems out here, but I just don’t have anybody at this moment to talk to about this and tonight I felt so lonely that I thought I need to put my thoughts somewhere where I feel at least presents of people. I don’t know… Maybe someone could give me some kind of positive reading if possible? But also genuine, because I tend to see everything rose coloured, especially now when Neptune is transiting my 5th house -_- I will include my natal, transit and progression chart just in case, because maybe someone sees something positive in it. IP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 4790 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted January 10, 2016 04:21 PM
I'm sorry. I feel ur broken empty Hart. 😫 I wish I could do a reading for u but I don't read charts....just wanted to say ur not the only one whose in that boatIP: Logged |
strawberryaa Newflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Dec 2015
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posted January 10, 2016 04:34 PM
thank you, cherful24!! i do try to remind myself that i'm not alone in this world. IP: Logged |
soren Knowflake Posts: 557 From: vancouver, bc, canada Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 10, 2016 05:01 PM
same thing happened to meall you can do is eat food, drink sips of water from a plastic cup with lid/straw i don't go out i dont do anything but sit around if you love life i love IP: Logged |
soren Knowflake Posts: 557 From: vancouver, bc, canada Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 10, 2016 05:04 PM
so there you are good now, keep along moving sisterIP: Logged |
soren Knowflake Posts: 557 From: vancouver, bc, canada Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 10, 2016 05:08 PM
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candycrush Knowflake Posts: 320 From: soaring Registered: Sep 2015
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posted January 10, 2016 06:20 PM
Your natal chart doesn't really indicate why you'd be lonely, but if you moved far enough from your place of birth then your relocated chart might be more clear. Do you live near or in the city you were born in or did you move?IP: Logged |
strawberryaa Newflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Dec 2015
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posted January 10, 2016 06:29 PM
I moved to another city, but it's not too far away, it's in the same country. Well i had a lot friends when i was a kid, but since high school I have been really lonely and always struggling with that.IP: Logged |
candycrush Knowflake Posts: 320 From: soaring Registered: Sep 2015
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posted January 10, 2016 07:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by strawberryaa: I moved to another city, but it's not too far away, it's in the same country. Well i had a lot friends when i was a kid, but since high school I have been really lonely and always struggling with that.
Do you know how to post your relocation chart? Go on Astro and instead of "natal chart" scroll down to where it says "relocation chart" and don't forget to change your reference place to your current city. It might be that that move might have changed planet/house placement that may indicate why you feel lonely. I can't do a whole interpretation because I still have to do someone else's chart, but I'd be curious to see if maybe your relocated chart shows something.
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strawberryaa Newflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Dec 2015
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posted January 11, 2016 02:47 AM
Hmm.. well I checked, nothing changed, because the cities are not too far away (108 km or 67 miles). Maybe there are some transits giving me the blues...IP: Logged |
candycrush Knowflake Posts: 320 From: soaring Registered: Sep 2015
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posted January 11, 2016 06:18 AM
Then it must be the chiron in the 5th trabsit (which I just noticed, I missed it the first time I took a look at the chart). The 5th house represents the social life, casual sex, romance, fun activities, children...and wherever chiron is is where we experience pain/difficulty. Due to this transit you're feeling lonely (probably little to no fun activities involving friends) and you're likely lacking or struggling with romance/dates right now too. You can look up more about Chiron in the 5th, it does play out in many different ways for different people though. But generally it causes pain and struggle for people making them feel like they don't have enough fun and romance in their life. When that transit is gone, you'll be fine.IP: Logged |
strawberryaa Newflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Dec 2015
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posted January 11, 2016 11:33 AM
Thank you candycrush! Hmm interesting.. That actually might be the case, I didn't really paid attention to Chiron in my chart. It's getting out of my 5th house in June, finally!!! It's so slow! IP: Logged |
bubbles7 Knowflake Posts: 36 From: Registered: Apr 2015
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posted January 11, 2016 10:54 PM
I am the exact same way. I get lonely pretty easily, I have to get out of the house and if I feel I do not have friends I get quite depressed...I think it's pretty common and natural especially at your age, but I think I will personally always be this way and I'm 26. I'm an air sign as well (libra) and I think I get my energy from others, it's therapeutic indeed. It even fulfills me to make online friends just to have someone to talk to. In high school I made a lot of online friends and it's actually how I met my first love! It is one of the worst feelings I know. I recommend to ask a friend to hang out, they will lead you to meeting so many new people. If you need to make a friend just randomly, try talking to people at school. At first it is scary and awkward, but the more you socialize the easier it becomes. That is coming from first hand experience. At first I was a major awkward turtle, then the more I socialize the easier it is. You see that everyone just wants to be accepted and wants a new friend. You will do great! In the meantime if you need a friend to talk to you can email me! hks798@yahoo.com IP: Logged |