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Topic: @ Leeloo, Intuitivefish and DreamCatcher
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tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 08:09 AM
  
Hello my dear intuitive friends!! So I'm at a loss. All 3 of you predicted DL would finally call me here over the last two weeks but alas, he didn't  NOT that I'm doubting your abilities because I KNOW how good you are! But obviously free-will is involved here on his part. So may I please ask: WHAT IS HE SCARED OF???!!!!
Is he afraid of the reaction/rejection he might get from me if he reaches out? Is he afraid of his wife and her reaction if she finds out he reached out to me? Can anyone try to pinpoint what is going on with him right now? Could it be something unexpected/unsettling came up that just completely took his focus away from reaching out to me? Anything you could pick up on would be greatly appreciated. Over the last two weeks I've had this feeling of horrible anxiety and depression but finallly last night I felt a sense of calm and acceptance realizing that I wasn't going to hear from him (yesterday was his birthday.) So I am ok with it, just don't understand what changed. I'd be happy to exchange if any of you want to leave questions for me. Thanks for all your help ❤️ IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted January 18, 2016 09:13 AM
Sorry he hasnt reach out to you. I still get he will though.OK, what I got is that his wife made some for of ultimatum or talked to him in a way that pushed him to try and work on the arriage.I feel she may have threaten him to push him to want to "go straight" and put in the effort in the marriage. BUt I dont feel this to last too long, he is trying to change for her but it seems to be something he is trying curently.
He also thinks it may give him some happiness but it wont for that long. I dont feel he gave up on you or forgot you I just feel like his focus has shifted a bit but like I said its not for too long. Im glad you are more relaxed now and its something you should keep on doing. Maybe someone else gives you more insight or something different that may help you give you the peace of mind. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 09:33 AM
Did you send him a birthday message? maybe the contact is about that?I didn't even realize this was Cusp. I'm not sure what developments happened lately, why would he contact by Sunday? did anything happen lately? for I thought you two haven't spoken in years. I am still seeing future contact for you, but I'm very confused now about why the question was asked, from what I know about the situation. Has this situation changed? IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 09:42 AM
@ Intuitive, thanks so much; this definitely makes sense. And I'm ok with it. @Leeloo, yes, this was about Cusp. The situation has not changed and no, I didn't send him a birthday message. I have resorted to letting him reach out to me now; I've done my part in the past. I just had multiple readers/readings tell me we would finally re-unite around the New Year and that his intentions to contact me were strong. I am convinced in my heart he will.....some day. If you have any thoughts about the situation, I'm all ears 👂👂👂 IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 09:56 AM
My dear Tgem, I can do a more thorough analysis for you and get back here; ask if he divorces his wife, if you two get reunited in a relationship, straightforward questions and answers. For now, contact no contact, he is choosing his marriage, as he did in the past. He is also someone who treated you badly remember? hurt you! didn't stand by your side.
But are you ready for this analysis? that is the problem.
If the answer is yes, some future about this, I wouldn't want it to be a reason for you to go to psychics, especially paid, to ask if he contacts every week or month. Cause if it's yes, it's gonna be by fate, it will most likely take years or a long time, and it doesn't mean you put your life on hold for this, by no means. It would be a blow of fate, for right now, everything is against him contacting you, based on the story so far. He mistreated you, and he also clearly chose his marriage, burnt the bridges with you.If it's no, no romantic future between you, are you ready for this answer, and ready to put him behind? I am saying this because I feel you should take a reading about this only if you are ready to put him behind you, and let fate do its work, in both cases. It's not OK for me for you to live every week or worse, day, focusing and suffering if he contacts you or not, this is not a life for you, you deserve much better.
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tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 10:31 AM
I appreciate the offer Leeloo, but honestly I don't need an in-depth reading about him or if he'll leave his wife etc. I cannot put him behind me because he lives in my heart. Yes, he chose his marriage. And I happy for him IF he is happy. All I want is for him to be happy..then I am happy and at peace. Yes, he treated me unfair and burned bridges. That obviously didn't change and won't change the love I have for him. I know fate is at work. I live my life everyday trying to do the healing and work my soul is supposed to do, regardless of what's going on in his life. ...it's just always nice to have a little dab hope to keep me going once in a while. That's all. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 11:32 AM
No problem, Tgem  I hope I didn't offend you, it seemed from the OP you had hopes and felt as if they were shattered and that you are in pain. To me, it seems this question is not well asked, considering the story and what happened/is happening, the proper question would be if he contacts you ever again and when, and the nature of this contact, for contact doesn't necessarily mean a romantic future, and the other questions I mentioned. But this is happening if the person wants to know these things if you don't, and prefer to keep the suspense, as you describe, I totally understand. I saw contact and I still do, but I guess I was wrong.IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 12:02 PM
I actually thought the OP questions were pretty clear. I was told I would hear from him by a certain timeframe and I didn't. So I asked why. That's all. Of course I'm disappointed the prediction didn't come to pass as I'm sure others get disappointed too when their predictions don't come to pass. IP: Logged |
DreamCatcher
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posted January 18, 2016 12:53 PM
Hi TGEM!I agree with Intuitive, I do still see him reaching out. I get a strong 3 now (might be 3 days, 3 weeks, or the 3rd of february) possibly even march) pretty wide range of time , I know. But now that we know a bit more of the circumstances, I see why he's waffling so much. Push/pull with his emotions. It seems like while he does have a place in his heart for you, I do NOT see him leaving his wife, regardless of how "miserable" he truly is. I don't feel he is miserable enough to leave her, quite honestly. And while he does think of you often and miss you, and he's attracted, I just don't see any good coming of it FOR YOU. And you are the priority my friend SO try to look at it as though he's happy, and than it will be easier to let go. Inconvenient fate & timing are at play, and your challenge is to detach from any outcome....make sense? IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 12:59 PM
Thank you for all of the replies. It makes absolute sense!IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 01:29 PM
OK, Tgem, I looked into the reason. The reason he didn't contact you by Sunday is that ever since that letter, he has decided, in an agreement with his wife as well, to never talk to you again or contact you again. And he is holding to this promise, and this is because he wants to be in his marriage. Apart from this, I am getting the same thing as DC and Fishy, that there will be contact in the future, but also that he is going to be with his wife, for this is how he comes up here, so I guess the contact will be of a different nature.
Also, I must say it is not OK to ask "will X contact me by Sunday?" if X is a person you haven't seen in years and who cut you out of his life the way he did, the question doesn't make sense in the context, considering the situation. The way it was phrased, other questions are suitable for the situation, not this one, and everything becomes misleading for everyone if the questions are out of context. I am sorry but I have to say this. The question and your reaction gives the impression that you are looking for a comfort reading, and you don't want it to be spoiled by a deeper look at the truth, you even cut me out with this, as if you don't want this "dream" to be taken away from you, or you don't want to feel judged or advised, but my cards are showing he doesn't have feelings for you, he is not even thinking of you at this point, it's all behind him. I am sorry, I am not a robot, to see only the part you want me to see. I am sorry if you start hating me now, and it really breaks my heart if you do it, and you probably will, but the whole thing looks like feeding a negative illusion at this point, saying otherwise. Especially the part when you think he has feelings for you, for you to believe he would contact you like the way you imagine it. It doesn't seem he has any feelings, he's oblivious to the matter. It's also not OK, in my view, to interfere between two married people who decided to be together, even by thought, if you see that's their decision for such a long time. They could have handled the situation much better, such as writing you a message in private, in response to that letter (him, her, both) and reinforce their marriage, rather than what they did to you. I don't understand why this is not a clear message to you, about him.
Please forgive me, but when one looks into these things, sees them, and normally we are supposed to say what we see, especially since I feel things kind of escalated with these expectations. I could be wrong, I could be right, this is what I saw. But you had no reason to cut me out and expect me to answer like a robot to a question, without commenting on the situation as a whole or giving my advice. This is mostly about guidance, readings, and seeing the situation as a whole, and what is best for you.IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 02:05 PM
I'm sorry, I didn't know there were "rules" when asking asking intuitive questions. Now I know. Consider this the last question I ask about him. Thank you.IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 02:20 PM
Great It's not that there are rules, the challenge is sometimes in the way we think, our expectations, if they are realistic and good for us. A friend, or someone advising you, either they like it or not, need to focus on what's beyond the question, sometimes, if they want to be good for you or really help you. It's about the rules of life, and they reflect in questions as well.I think I remember I saw a letter for your Sunday question, and a seal with a triangle, and something startling I don't remember now. It made me think of a yes. I didn't realize the person in question, now I see another possible meaning, although I still see contact, as I said. Sorry for having upset you. Best wishes to you! IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted January 18, 2016 03:21 PM
On the other hand, if we as readers know too much (but not enough in depth) about the context, our own lifeconcepts and opinions might colour our interpretations. That is why I like blind-readings. Of course they are more complicated/ difficult, but honestly, only those eleminate the risk of letting our own opinions cloud our judgement of the reading on its own. IP: Logged |
candycrush
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posted January 18, 2016 04:05 PM
This wasn't for me but I wanted to try to help if I can. I went back and looked at LeeLoos original prediction to your question and here's my take: LeeLoo said there would be contact, then a this party would interfere and then a startling response...perhaps he was planning on contacting you, maybe was even in the process of emailing back, in any case he likely had plans to contact you but then his wife (third party interference) put a stop to it immedietely and he then listened to his wife (startling response--you thought he'd email back and probably so did he). Might that be possible? That he didn't see anything wrong with a friendly response until he saw that his was was objecting and then he opted not to? Sorry for inserting myself into something I have nothing to do with, it's just my two cents as I figured maybe I could help out. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 04:06 PM
Not all blind readings work as we expect them to. For example, there is someone who asked me how X feels now, I assumed it's someone close to them, part of their life, for they approached me this way. The cards were nice, the feelings were nice. Then the person tells me this X is Bugs Bunny, they feel they have a connection with, since birth. Bugs Bunny is a nice feeling for all children of this world, hence the cards. The cards are a flash, or any other divination method. To see all facets of a situation, you need lots of time and peace and focus. And in a speed world, you don't have it as one should. That's why the more honest and detailed the info, the more precise the answers, in a context of speed, and since I don't care about a show of my skills. It's unrealistic to expect of psychics or readers to see everything in a few seconds, everything in this world takes time and hard work, even this. I agree that we all have our life concepts, it's a limitation for all of us. But I don't agree they always prevent you from seeing the truth or giving good advice, for some life concepts actually help with seeing the situations properly. But it's true that sometimes they give us expectations and they contaminate the interpretations. For me, readings have caused a huge shift with this, for I saw things happening against odds and they happened and I learned to trust the messages which seem against all odds, if they come. This in turns made me be more detached from my own expectations about a situation.
My comments about the marriage part don't come from a judgmental position, they come from a very important idea for me that the individual good doesn't go beyond the general good/ the good of all people involved. In other words, it is important, at least for me, to put yourself in the shoes of all parties. If married or in a couple, I wouldn't like anyone to interfere in my couple, and I always try to look at things from the perspective of doing or wishing to others what I want happening to me and I can't but advising everyone to do the same. That's why I made that comment. I think if two people decide to be together and are together, for whatever reasons, happy or not happy, it's the moment to step out and respect that, the same you would want for yourself. Nothing good comes out of doing otherwise anyway.
But not everyone has to agree with my views, it's just that I can only communicate the views I have; and I see this as an important truth, for me, that nolens volens you need to mention at times. As for the actual emotional involvement, I didn't get it here, it could have been, but I didn't find an emotional basis here. IP: Logged |
Enneline
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posted January 18, 2016 04:09 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Ceridwen:
On the other hand, if we as readers know too much (but not enough in depth) about the context, our own lifeconcepts and opinions might colour our interpretations. That is why I like blind-readings. Of course they are more complicated/ difficult, but honestly, only those eleminate the risk of letting our own opinions cloud our judgement of the reading on its own.
basically I absolutey would agree with you but i think it's a bit tricky in love readings. For example once a lady asked me how a man feels about her; from her writing i assumed that the 2 of them were/are dating. I pulled the emperor the empress and the star. Ah, so i thought, that he still feels strongly and happily connected with her. As a matter of fact, that guy was happily married to another woman! And she knew it!
Sorry, i find these kind of questions, somehow outrageous. basically you are lying to the reader and expect an accurate reading in return. This isn't fair. IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted January 18, 2016 04:19 PM
I believe this thread and its responses have been all blown way out of proportion. There was no/is no mal intent here toward any marriage or any of the people involved in the reading. I appreciate the responses ** MOD please close this thread
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LeeLoo2014
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posted January 18, 2016 04:30 PM
Great getting better and better. Tgem, did I say mal intent? I said not taking into consideration, for your own good. What do you expect when you speak of a man who is with someone else? For no one to mention: Hey, he is with someone else!! who cares if he wants to contact or not, or will contact or not, as long as he is with someone else? Not to mention what you said about what happened. Someone who cares for you even a little bit won't mention it at all?It's my fault, I said it the first time we talked about it, and then indulged in talking about him, for I knew you needed a transition, but it has all been a mistake, it didn't work, I can see it now. It's not your fault actually. Your OP scared me, the way you imagine things are between you now, or could be, and all of us, or many of us encouraged you to get to this point. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 18, 2016 07:22 PM
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