posted January 23, 2016 09:43 AM            

For the past 3 months I've been in a relationship with this amazing man. We are together all the time and I can say I love him.

In many ways we are similar; our upbringing, views on life etc.

There is however something about him, I can't get a straight answer to. Sometimes he gets into this very moody and dissatisfied mode when we're together. Like out of the blue or from when he wakes up in the morning. I am cheery and happy normally, and being with him makes me even happier. Therefore I am puzzled. When I ask him, he assures me it has nothing to do with me. I get REALLY affected, like it makes me really sad when he is like this - asking him what I can do and lets hI'm know how ito affects me..

He wants to basically spend every day with me and move in with me (even though that's strictly taboo in our culture). He was the first to say "I love you" and he lets me know often. I however am not so sure that's how he really feels for me. He wants me to have sex with him, but I hold back.

He shows many signs of love, but he isn't very warm like me wanting to hug, kiss and steal looks from him.

When I pull tarot for how he feels I get confused. I get these terrifying cards like Death, The Tower, 3-8-9-10 of swords interchangedly with the Sun, The World, Lovers etc.

All in all.. terribly confused.

What is your take on this. Did you get a certain feeling or psychic insight when clicking this topic? Please let me know..

posted January 24, 2016 09:50 PM            

First of all, go with your gut. If something feels off it probably is, try and find out a bit more about him from family or friends.

Has this man asked you to marry him? He wants these things from you (sex and moving in), so he should be prepared to make the commitment if he is serious. As you said you are both in the same culture so there should be no room for misunderstandings here, you both know what is expected from you in the context of a relationship.

Sometimes we dont need a psychic reading or extra insight, people actually show us who they are all the time.

His actions are not aligned with his words right now. Ask him what his intentions are, and get the answer straight from the horses mouth. Then decide if this is aligned with your own goals and beliefs before you take it further with him.

posted January 24, 2016 10:58 PM            

For the first question I got the Ace of Cups - symbolic of bright new beginnings, burgeoning emotions, good feelings of unity, a positive seed of potentiality. Does one of you have a prominent water placement - maybe a water moon?

The second card I drew is the Queen of Swords.. perhaps he wants you to take more leadership initiative in the relationship? She could also be seen as the type that's a bit conservative, very cerebral and not in touch with the physical/material world so much. Does this resonate with your type of personality?

posted January 25, 2016 06:36 AM            

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Originally posted by tinkerbug:
Hi Starish, im sorry im not intuitive;
I can only offer my two cents.

First of all, go with your gut. If something feels off it probably is, try and find out a bit more about him from family or friends.

Has this man asked you to marry him? He wants these things from you (sex and moving in), so he should be prepared to make the commitment if he is serious. As you said you are both in the same culture so there should be no room for misunderstandings here, you both know what is expected from you in the context of a relationship.

Sometimes we dont need a psychic reading or extra insight, people actually show us who they are all the time.

His actions are not aligned with his words right now. Ask him what his intentions are, and get the answer straight from the horses mouth. Then decide if this is aligned with your own goals and beliefs before you take it further with him.

*hugs*

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Hi Tinkerbug

Thanks you for your insights – very much appreciated!

Actually we talked about it yesterday. What’s off is that, due to a very bad childhood with an alcoholic father, he used to suffer from OCD and BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). It makes him dwell on minor details that can shake his mood much more than others – namely me. I told him that it makes no sense to my nature that everything around one is fantastic and then due to some minor detail on something that didn’t go as planned, one would get moody.

He hasn’t asked me to marry him. I have implied a lot of times that marriage is not something you make a decision of after 3 months. He did however tell me “You’re the one for me” or something along those lines. I pretended not to hear it, and when I asked he said “Oh it’s nothing… just how much I love you”

To be honest I am afraid to make a commitment so strong to talk about marriage already and “you’re the love of my life” kind of things. We are newly in love, so I think things can change in bad times. And I want to experience the good and the bad of him..

posted January 25, 2016 06:51 AM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
I pulled two cards for you, one for "what is he feeling?" and another for "what are his intentions?"

For the first question I got the Ace of Cups - symbolic of bright new beginnings, burgeoning emotions, good feelings of unity, a positive seed of potentiality. Does one of you have a prominent water placement - maybe a water moon?

The second card I drew is the Queen of Swords.. perhaps he wants you to take more leadership initiative in the relationship? She could also be seen as the type that's a bit conservative, very cerebral and not in touch with the physical/material world so much. Does this resonate with your type of personality?

Tarot aside I would strongly abide by your gut feelings if I were you - have you expressed your worries to him? Maybe state that your intuition is making you feel ill at ease and you would feel so much more lightened if he was to truly share his inner thoughts with you? Communication is always so important for moments like this, especially in the beginning of relationships! Maybe the Queen of Swords is an illustrative personification on how you need to speak your mind more often to him and be less passive?

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Athenaia, thank you SO SO much for taking your time to do this!

After our talk yesterday, it got really Ace of Cups like  very loving very romantically… I am a Cancer rising – he has a Libra stellium with a Venus in Scorpio..

Yes, I can’t deny that I am like the Queen of Swords. Very, very logical about things and - to him - surprisingly conservative… Capricorn Stellium with Saturn in Capricorn as most dominant planet  I’m high on Earth and Fire…

Incredible!