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Topic: Need some help please
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FairyDust75
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posted March 14, 2016 12:20 PM
  
I'm just in need of some help and guidance please. I can only exchange with a pendulum and would be happy to do so if you like. Here's my situation. Basically on Saturday I had a disagreement with my guy E. Yesterday he did text me that he was more upset about me wanting to talk about what happened when he just wanted some space. I said ok and left him alone and said I didn't want to argue with him. Now it's Monday and nothing. I know I probably did the wrong thing and texted him. I asked if he was still upset with me and said I was home and not feeling well if he wanted to talk. No response at all  . So now of course I'm convinced I've completely ruined things. I would like to know how he's feeling about me at this time and if we will talk and resolve our differences. I don't even think this was a major battle between us but I still always think the worst. If anyone can help me I would be greatly appreciative. IP: Logged |
ScorpioLove
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posted March 14, 2016 01:00 PM
I'm not sure how accurate this will be, but I pulled
Devil - Two of swords - Two of wands(King of pentacles was stuck to it)Was the argument or whatever happened between you based on jealousy or lies, or just insecurities of that sort? I see that you feel really hurt over him wanting his space, and just hurt in general after the argument you need to give him his space until he himself is ready to talk. Two of wands just shows that there has been something lacking in your relationship lately, a spark or boredom might have snuck in and with king of pentacles attached i'm guessing that's him ( thats how he may be feeling). What's going to happen?
Knight of swords.. things will get better but you're going to have to be patient and take it one step at a time. I hope it resonated! IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 14, 2016 01:06 PM
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Originally posted by ScorpioLove:
I'm not sure how accurate this will be, but I pulled
Devil - Two of swords - Two of wands(King of pentacles was stuck to it)Was the argument or whatever happened between you based on jealousy or lies, or just insecurities of that sort? I see that you feel really hurt over him wanting his space, and just hurt in general after the argument you need to give him his space until he himself is ready to talk. Two of wands just shows that there has been something lacking in your relationship lately, a spark or boredom might have snuck in and with king of pentacles attached i'm guessing that's him ( thats how he may be feeling). What's going to happen?
Knight of swords.. things will get better but you're going to have to be patient and take it one step at a time. I hope it resonated!
Thank you so much for responding. I truly appreciate it. If i can offer a pendulum to you I would gladly do so. Or even a prayer please tell me and I will include it in my special intentions. Ok so I think he got upset because we have tickets to go to an event next Monday night. We were supposed to stay over in a hotel for the night since it will be late when the event ends. He said he can't do that now, stay over that is, because he said he has things to do early the next day. This is a problem for me because I have to drive a distance to get home and it will be quite late. He got mad that I asked why. I wasn't accusing him of anything but maybe he isn't being truthful? I don't know for sure. So you do feel he will talk to me and we will work out our differences? He hasn't respond to my text and it's been several hours and my tendency is to panic and think the worst IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 14, 2016 01:26 PM
If anyone has any other insight and would like to help me I would be grateful. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted March 14, 2016 02:20 PM
I am getting you will feel you make up 4 days from now, on Friday.------------------
I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... LeeLoo's Esotericorner IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 14, 2016 02:53 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I am getting you will feel you make up 4 days from now, on Friday.
Thanks Lee. I will let you know how it goes for sure! IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 14, 2016 06:40 PM
Just to update. He did text me back and said he wasn't mad. I explained my position to him and he still didn't really seem to want to discuss anything but rather let it blow over. It's a little frustrating because we haven't resolved any issues. By not talking about it doesn't make it go away. And I'm not fully convinced he's not mad just ignoring it. IP: Logged |
ScorpioLove
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posted March 14, 2016 10:50 PM
No problem! With the knight of swords at the end, i think you guys will be fine. It must be a phase for him.. and he'll get over it!IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 06:43 AM
Had another question or two regarding E. How is he feeling about our relationship and any idea where it will go? It's rather slow now and I've tried to talk about it but he doesn't seem to want to discuss it much at his present moment. I know he's got stuff he needs to get in order in his life but I was hoping the future will include me. I also wanted to know why he hasn't been so communicative in general. We used to text all day off and on. Now he doesn't initiate as much or talk as long as he did. Why, what's going on?IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 06:03 PM
Just a friendly bump upIP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 06:10 PM
5 of wands 10 of pents 10 of swords
He feels secure with you but whatever argument you two had made him feel he should distance himself for a while.
Honestly I don't see it as anything TOO extreme but maybe he just wants space.. Take it from a guy, when we get into disagreements we don't want to talk to anyone about it. Sometimes it takes days, maybe even a week. I would just say let it blow over until her returns. Forcing a conversation is only going to make it worse. He has to be willing to talk about it as well. Hope I've helped.. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 06:42 PM
Thanks Dodger! It's funny, I was reading your thread before and was thinking I would love your take on my situation since you're a guy! Thanks so much for responding. What you said makes sense. He hasn't texted me today and I didn't want to text him. I wanted to give him space but I also don't like the pull back in communication. It's my insecurity thing.IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 09:06 PM
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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Thanks Dodger! It's funny, I was reading your thread before and was thinking I would love your take on my situation since you're a guy! Thanks so much for responding. What you said makes sense. He hasn't texted me today and I didn't want to text him. I wanted to give him space but I also don't like the pull back in communication. It's my insecurity thing.
It happens to all of us. I've been in situations too when I really wanted to talk to a girl but she was unresponsive. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 09:33 PM
I would love to hear any other insights you might have Dodger. I haven't had a guy read E and I'm interested to see what you get. Only if you want to of course. If not no worries! I appreciate the insight you have given me already. IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 09:45 PM
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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I would love to hear any other insights you might have Dodger. I haven't had a guy read E and I'm interested to see what you get. Only if you want to of course. If not no worries! I appreciate the insight you have given me already.
What other insight would you like? IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 09:49 PM
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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
What other insight would you like?
I guess if you could just read on him a little bit. Like where does he want things to go? What holds him back from full on commitment, that sort of thing.
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NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 10:10 PM
I asked "Where does E want the relationship to go with you" and I gotKnight Of Wands
3 of cups
page of pentacles Hard to read this. Seems like he just wants the drama to end IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 10:13 PM
I asked "What holding him back from full on commitment"6 of pents
the hermit
7 of pents. He wants things to go slowly and smoothly. He also feels like there is a lack of fairness and equality perhaps? He needs his time to reflect and wants to take things step by step and not feel burdened... IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 10:14 PM
Hmmm, interesting. We normally get along quite well. Sure we have our disagreements but I didn't think he was unhappy and wanted to end things completely. Is that what you are interpreting it as?IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 10:17 PM
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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Hmmm, interesting. We normally get along quite well. Sure we have our disagreements but I didn't think he was unhappy and wanted to end things completely. Is that what you are interpreting it as?
I don't see it as ending things completely. But i see it as moving forward and building on something new. You should talk to him about this once he's ready. But at the same time don't waste your time waiting for someone who doesn't show interest. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 10:19 PM
That's the thing, he does show interest just right now it's been a particularly stressful time for him. So it's a little confusing as to what he currently wants. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 10:21 PM
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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
I asked "What holding him back from full on commitment"6 of pents
the hermit
7 of pents. He wants things to go slowly and smoothly. He also feels like there is a lack of fairness and equality perhaps? He needs his time to reflect and wants to take things step by step and not feel burdened...
I get this totally. As far as the fairness he knows he doesn't always treat me fairly. But I get this totally. He definitely is a slow mover. IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 15, 2016 10:41 PM
Yeah i think the 6 of pents is saying give it some time. Don't overburden yourself with it.IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 15, 2016 10:49 PM
Thanks for this. He def needs time. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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posted March 17, 2016 06:29 AM
Lately, aside from our disagreement I feel like he has been a little pulled back communication wise. For example, I texted him last night to ask him something and he never responded. It was fairly early in the evening as well. He may not always respond immediately but he does respond. This time, nothing. And he's been very slow to answer lately as well in general. Where he used to text me early in the morning and throughout the day it's slowed down tremendously. Is there something going on?
Is he trying to break things off?
What is it? I feel like I'm missing something. Or is it possible it has nothing to do with me and he's got his own issues going on? Thanks to anyone who can help. I'm struggling! IP: Logged |
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