posted March 29, 2016 05:05 PM            

My friend and I were talking about relationships recently and how some relationships are so easy to move on from and others you struggle with letting go. She went a little deeper and talked about how even though she loves her now husband, she had an affair with another man (she came clean to him and they worked on their relationship and are now better). She told me that she sensed from the moment she met the guy she cheated with that he was "trouble" and she went out of her way for months to avoid him because of this. Despite her efforts, she kept running into him and eventually acted on the connection.

I've actually heard several stories such as this, not always involving cheating but just where someone was trying to avoid another person and it still ended up happening. My longest relationship was with a guy that had absolutely no interest in in the beginning and I avoided him like the plague. Still he ended up being very relevant in my life for a time (wouldn't take him now lol)

posted March 29, 2016 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by SpiritualSadie:
We always have a choice on whether or not to act on something.

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Also, by actively avoiding or fearing something we somehow give it energy, and so we draw in the very thing we want to avoid, at least so it seems to me.

Iīve done the avoiding for many years myself, and it drove me insane, and apparently not only me, so now I try to just let it flow, feelingswise. I feel what I feel and I will be damned if I will feel the need to ever justify or apologize for that again!

BUT that doesn`t mean I would act on it. I hope I wouldn`t.

But whatever, one thing I am not wanting to do ever again is going into avoidance mode because of paranoia/ fear/ insecurity or some strange sort of "moral code" (which I probably just use to mask insecurity or fear anyway ).

Soul connections will exist, no matter if you make them physical or keep them platonic. No willpower in the world can make a true soul connection go away.
But I also donīt believe that some (sexual/ romantic) relationships are "fated" to happen (as that you do not have any other choice but to consummate, like being under a spell or something) - actually I believe sometimes we like to tell ourselves that to not having to face our responsibility for what we do and admit that our actions have consequences, and that there was not some anonymous power in the universe pulling that string, but our very own doing.

If you can`t turn away from a connection, it tells me that something inside you does not WANT to turn away. For what reason ever. And maybe sometimes we are not courageous enough to admit that we really really WANT this (no matter how wrong it is as our reason or moral code or family or friends or society tells us).

posted March 29, 2016 06:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:

If you can`t turn away from a connection, it tells me that something inside you does not WANT to turn away. For what reason ever. And maybe sometimes we are not courageous enough to admit that we really really WANT this (no matter how wrong it is as our reason or moral code or family or friends or society tells us).

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Love this!! Great point! 100% agree but never thought of it like that.