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Topic: King Of Swords is mean
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SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 02:49 AM
  
I wanted to know why this guy holds a grudge and said hateful things to me when I asked him if he would consider giving me a second chance. I was seeing him in January and broke up with him because I was going through a depressing period. Last week I apologized for breaking up with him and asked if he'd give me another shot. He said he didn't forgive me and then verbally berated me by calling me desperate and immature for even asking. WHY the hatred when we only were seeing each other for a few weeks before I broke up with him? King Of Swords is a cold, heartless man who is void of emotions... I don't get why he feels this way towards this situation.. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1565
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 02:52 AM
Is he a Virgo? I ask because I don't get any especial malice from his response and that's a pretty common Virgoan attribute, just...washing one's hands and not looking back. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 02:54 AM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Is he a Virgo? I ask because I don't get any especial malice from his response and that's a pretty common Virgoan attribute, just...washing one's hands and not looking back.
Yes. Virgo sun and Ascendant just like my father. I'm a Taurus, but I try hard not to be stubborn and hold grudges. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 02:55 AM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Is he a Virgo? I ask because I don't get any especial malice from his response and that's a pretty common Virgoan attribute, just...washing one's hands and not looking back.
He does what my dad does. He verbally berates you even if he's wrong and then he leaves you hurting. The sad thing is that he doesn't realize how difficult it is to find someone like me. We have Venus septile Juno in our composite; a septile is a minor aspect that related to destiny, so Venus & Juno septile means we'd be fated for something beautiful. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1565
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 02:58 AM
Indeed... My best recommendation, regrettably, is to move on. What's done is done with this one and it's highly unlikely to ever be undone - you'll just wind up making yourself hurt over and over for nothing. I'm so sorry. I wish I could give you something more encouraging with regard to him... IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 02:59 AM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Is he a Virgo? I ask because I don't get any especial malice from his response and that's a pretty common Virgoan attribute, just...washing one's hands and not looking back.
He went so far as to block me on Facebook, his phone and iMessage. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1565
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:01 AM
Yeah...that won't change. It's 100% in his nature: once he closes a door himself, he won't re-open it. And Virgos can (usually are) VICIOUS in their dismissal of you once they've done...  IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:03 AM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Indeed... My best recommendation, regrettably, is to move on. What's done is done with this one and it's highly unlikely to ever be undone - you'll just wind up making yourself hurt over and over for nothing. I'm so sorry. I wish I could give you something more encouraging with regard to him...
I understand. It's unfortunate. Most guys who are hurt and angry with me eventually come around, as do I if I'm upset with someone. He said that he can never find anyone who understands him, but yet the one who can is the one he refuses to accept. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:05 AM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Yeah...that won't change. It's 100% in his nature: once he closes a door himself, he won't re-open it. And Virgos can (usually are) VICIOUS in their dismissal of you once they've done...
Yes exactly. I have a terrible relationship with my OCD analytical Virgo dad. This guy is so similar when he's angry. IP: Logged |
LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1565
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:07 AM
Oh, I know exactly what you mean - I'm a Taurus too, so I look at everything with a sense of equanimity and empathy. For what it's worth, he doesn't seem angry or resentful just...past it. With a Virgo Asc, I can understand this aspect pretty well: he honestly does not get what you're holding onto, or why. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:14 AM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Oh, I know exactly what you mean - I'm a Taurus too, so I look at everything with a sense of equanimity and empathy. For what it's worth, he doesn't seem angry or resentful just...past it. With a Virgo Asc, I can understand this aspect pretty well: he honestly does not get what you're holding onto, or why.
Yeah, he separates his head from his heart I guess. Maybe he doesn't see why I like him or he doesn't think I'm good enough lol. Oh well
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LostTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1565
From: Conway, AR, USA
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:19 AM
Nooo...In his mind, if it were supposed to have worked out, it would've. It didn't, so there was a reason. I don't think it even occurs to him to wonder why.IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
Moderator Posts: 3740
From: The Harvest
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:30 AM
He got hurt. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 861
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted April 11, 2016 03:53 AM
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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
He got hurt.
Yes he did, but I never once said the words he said to me. I understand he took it hard, but I asked him if we could try again. I feel like if he really did care he would have given it another shot. IP: Logged |
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