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From: my mother's uterus
Registered: Apr 2015

posted April 11, 2016 09:16 AM            

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I just had a fight with my mom where I told her everything I thought... can someone see if I did the right thing here? She seems pretty upset but she always is anyways, I didnt know what else to do, this whole thing was getting on my nerves

of course, I can exchange

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From: Saturn next to Charmaine
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posted April 12, 2016 01:22 PM            

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Bump!

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From: neverneverland
Registered: Oct 2015

posted April 12, 2016 01:28 PM            

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there is a story in one of my books on honesty. It can be quite a confusing topic, especially for me. I have been, often, of the mindset, that I should just be *honest* even if it meant saying something that wasn't kind about someone. anyways the story is something along the lines of there was a criminal chasing a woman and you see the woman run by to the left... the criminal comes and says "where did she go?"
of course, in this case, telling the "truth" causes nothing but harm..

I have always found that if you have genuine concerns about someone, the only proper way to address them is to sit down and discuss them out of a place of love and genuine caring for the person's well-being. If you did that, then you have no reason to worry. However, if you just went and listed of things your mother does that bothered or annoyed you, that of course, would be very hurtful to her.. It all depends on your intention and how you delivered it.. was it from a place of unloading all of your frustrations? or out of a place of love and caring?

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From: my mother's uterus
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posted April 12, 2016 04:06 PM            

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thanks for sharing ur knowledge missblyss!

I actually did the first thing, where I just spilt out of my mouth everything, and I know a I hurt her, but sometimes she just doesn't understand if you talk to her with care and love. But anyways we are in a good place now, so thanks!

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From: neverneverland
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posted April 12, 2016 07:47 PM            

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I am glad you guys are better now

It is really, really easy to do that- especially with your parents... Your mama loves you very much, even if she can not be as sensible and receptive as you like all the time

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