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dustib
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posted May 03, 2016 07:59 PM
  
Can I ask you why R contacted me then disappeared again? Is it a game or ego boost to him? IP: Logged |
missblyss
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posted May 03, 2016 11:32 PM
Hey girl I am out and about on my
Phone but will do it once I'm home in an hour or so IP: Logged |
missblyss
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posted May 04, 2016 01:18 AM
ok what it looks like to me at least, is that he is mostly acting out of logic at the moment. he has come to the conclusion in his mind that it is best that he doesn't focus on you and puts his energies elsewhere, so that is what he is doing, however in that moment he was sort of in his emotions so he reached out. he wen't cold again because his logical mind stepped back in and took control over his emotions againIP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 04, 2016 09:46 AM
OK that makes sense. So we are back to the no contact again... and again this will be permenant or last a long time? IP: Logged |
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posted May 04, 2016 10:56 AM
hey honey, I cannot and do not like to say for sure, because I believe things can change, but all I will say is that I do feel a definite softness in him for you.. Like it is pronounced.. So i would say not to doubt what there was between you, because he feels it also.. And move forward with faith that you will get to revisit that, but without holding onto it at the expense of new things. Does that make sense lol?IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 04, 2016 01:01 PM
That makes a lot if sense and what I am doing. Just sucks that after I'm moving forward, he does that. Almost feels like a game to me..that he's checking to make sure I'm still into him so he can go back to having fun and dating others. Now I don't have a dating profile up or anything as I'm not really interested in putting myself back out there but I am going on with my life. Just wish things were different IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 04, 2016 07:13 PM
Can I ask 1 last thing...I did ask R about going to my high school reunion with me and he said he would check his schedule. I don't know if I should ask if he checked his schedule or let it go. Which do you think is better? IP: Logged |
missblyss
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posted May 04, 2016 11:34 PM
I say ask, simply because I see you wanting to ask and I see you being more unhappy if you do not ask. I feel that getting a solid answer will actually help you because you won't need to think about it so muchIP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 04, 2016 11:40 PM
Do you think he will go? Or if he says he will go, that he would show up?IP: Logged |
missblyss
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posted May 05, 2016 11:09 AM
I am seeing hesitation on his part, but only related to the fact that things have been a bit "off" between the two of you, so it is like that needs to be dealt with before more casual hangouts can happen, so it is like he may want to avoid the discomfort of that. But I do see him having very soft feelings for you beyond that.IP: Logged |
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posted May 05, 2016 11:23 AM
There is some element of you asking him though that seems to ignite a bit of power in you, like you not needing to just sit around and wait for him... I know he is into sports, but energetically you feel to be the stronger one of the two of you, so don't forget that. It's like because he is kinda not interacting as much, you've given you're power to him, thinking he is in control.. But in reality, he isn't in control either, he is just swimming in his own emotions and insecurities which are controlling his actions... IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 05, 2016 11:38 AM
Thanks! But we really can't get past things being off if he continues to pull away and me even mentioning it comes across as pushy and he will pull back even more. So it's a no win situation really is what it sounds like. So unless he's willing to make more contact, I am moving on. IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 05, 2016 12:09 PM
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Originally posted by missblyss:
There is some element of you asking him though that seems to ignite a bit of power in you, like you not needing to just sit around and wait for him... I know he is into sports, but energetically you feel to be the stronger one of the two of you, so don't forget that. It's like because he is kinda not interacting as much, you've given you're power to him, thinking he is in control.. But in reality, he isn't in control either, he is just swimming in his own emotions and insecurities which are controlling his actions...
I have to say that it is so awesome you said this because just yesterday I had said he was in control and he knew it since I seem to put so much thought on him and then this morning I told my friend that I feel like since I asked him and then sent a message to him this morning acting like it didn't even matter that he ignored me the other day but did miss him and asked if he could just let me know either way about the reunion that I felt like I had taken power back. Is there anything that can be done about things being off between us or is this up to him at this point since he's the one who pulled back and disappeared?
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posted May 05, 2016 05:23 PM
I honestly see this as him being in a weird emotional/ energetic state and the effects on yours and his relationship is just a sort of side effect of that. I think that you just need to let him sort through his own issues and I do think he will come back once he has. I think your lesson in this is to learn how to still stand in your power even when he is being so wishy washy and sort of leaving you out to dry. Find that place within yourself that stands strong regardless of how he acts or doesn't act. He is not as strong as he seems, and you are stronger than you think.IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 05, 2016 06:56 PM
Yes I think you are 100% on what my lesson is here! I am trying to change a few things about myself and have made great strides but in this area I struggle. Thank you so much! You are completely awesome!! Please let me know if you ever have any questions. I use Lenormand and just ordered 2 different decks that I should have soon, the dream and the love oracles so will be practicing soon with those. IP: Logged |
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posted May 05, 2016 07:02 PM
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Originally posted by dustib:
Yes I think you are 100% on what my lesson is here! I am trying to change a few things about myself and have made great strides but in this area I struggle. Thank you so much! You are completely awesome!! Please let me know if you ever have any questions. I use Lenormand and just ordered 2 different decks that I should have soon, the dream and the love oracles so will be practicing soon with those.
you are so sweet, dear! I would always be honored to get a reading from you! IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 09, 2016 11:10 PM
Just wanted to share with you that you are right. I decided to send R a message tonight and just tell that I hope he finds what he's looking for and that I was done. And I truly was giving myself closure. He responded that he's been busy and I told him I get that but I also know that people make time for who and what they want and he's already proven to me that he can do that but that o wasn't asking for that, that I was just telling him how I felt and moving on. So he's been texting me most of the night and I told him that I never wanted more than what he could or would do but that by ignoring me, it has prompted me to let go and move on. So...is he just in the moment again and will disappear again tomorrow or in a few days?IP: Logged |
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posted May 10, 2016 02:13 AM
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Originally posted by dustib:
Just wanted to share with you that you are right. I decided to send R a message tonight and just tell that I hope he finds what he's looking for and that I was done. And I truly was giving myself closure. He responded that he's been busy and I told him I get that but I also know that people make time for who and what they want and he's already proven to me that he can do that but that o wasn't asking for that, that I was just telling him how I felt and moving on. So he's been texting me most of the night and I told him that I never wanted more than what he could or would do but that by ignoring me, it has prompted me to let go and move on. So...is he just in the moment again and will disappear again tomorrow or in a few days?
honestly everything I pull seems promising. i don't see any indication of him dropping off, but do let me know <3 good luck IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 10, 2016 07:07 AM
I wonder what changed...we may never know IP: Logged |
missblyss
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posted May 10, 2016 10:40 AM
I pulled again for you as far as his feelings for you and I got all positive cards, apart from one card (out of a 5 card spread) that showed him feeling burdened, we can assume this is because he really is busy.. I think you needn't really look into his behavior and just try taking what he says at face value. Men are different creatures, they can compartmentalize emotions when they need to focus on other things. I think he is doing this now because he NEEDS to focus on other things and he knows it. My advice would be to remain neutral, be okay with not knowing... He has responded to you and shown interest and told you the reason he has been distant is because he's busy! So take that as truth.. no need to put all of your own interpretations on that.. Now, if he doesn't answer, assume he is busy again... I don't think that you are going to get the clarity you want immediately, but I also don't think you need to totally cut him outIP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 10, 2016 11:01 AM
Thank you so much! Yes he has said he's been busy, I just don't think people are THAT busy but if he is focusing his energies elsewhere that makes sense. I also see the types of women he's adding to his facebook and wow....let's just say I could never look like that or have that profession so that does concern me as well. I am just going to do what I told him and enjoy life and if wants to come along for the ride then he will make an effort.  Now to do what I say.....lolIP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 14, 2016 09:37 PM
just wanted to update you....he was doing really well for awhile and then boom....silence again. He hasn't really iniatated the conversations but I know he's busy and small steps, he was responding. I did not text him for a few days to see what would happen and silence and then we did have a good normal conversation and now he's ignoring my message from this morning even though I can see he's been online multiple times. This man frustrates me and I just don't know if anything will ever change or if this is the pattern it will always be with him! Guess we will see if he reaches out to me....IP: Logged |
dustib
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posted May 15, 2016 06:23 PM
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posted May 17, 2016 02:09 PM
Ugh this man is so frustrating....he is back to ignoring me over the weekend and now silence. What in the world is going on with him. I feel like at this time it's just a game to him and it will never change. IP: Logged |
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