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SpiritualSadie
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posted May 03, 2016 09:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'll look at your question tomorrow if you'd still like me to. I'll post it here though instead of on the other thread.

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posted May 03, 2016 10:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks so much love I really appreciate that

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posted May 04, 2016 02:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
leave any questions you've got too

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posted May 04, 2016 10:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Okay, so I get this really heavy feeling around him. Like the weight of the world is on his shoulders, but it seems like a lot of it is self imposed. It's his own fears, his self implemented restrictions, his perceived short comings, a feeling that he's hated by the world in general that's working against him right now. It feels like he's in a period of growth though, like he's coming from being very immature and hateful towards the world, to more of a place of acceptance and understanding. This phase is going to take a lot of time, years for him to mature into a man that can offer you a stable family life. I'd say right now, he's confused about life in general and has quite a chip on his shoulder.

I feel he has respect for you, more so than he has in the past. This is part of his maturation process, he'll begin to appreciate the woman that you are and realize that he wasn't the best partner to you, for a long time. Moreover, he'll understand that his reason for this was within himself and not due to outside influences and circumstances as he feels now. He'll try to make amends for this.

I feel that you love him but maybe not in the same way you used to, like you see him more for who he is now and not what you wanted him to be. In the past, it seems like you loved more of an idea of him or his potential rather than who he really was. Maybe you or he or both had this idea of what your relationship would be and become but it didn't match reality at all.

I feel like the two of you will become friends, like true friends, over the upcoming period, and from that a real and lasting love may develop. I don't see this as something that will reconcile successfully in the near future. You may see each other (and be intimate) but it doesn't have what it needs to go the distance yet. It's like you're both gathering the tools right now for what you may have together in the future.

I'm not convinced right now that when that time comes that he can offer you what it is you want from him, that you'll still want him as you do now. You're going to learn a lot about yourself over the next few years that will change your perspective greatly. I feel both of you are challenged right now to be grounded in your approach to this and to strip away all idealizations of the other, and the relationship or potential relationship and take this slowly, to let it develop into a mature and lasting love.

If you have any questions, let me know. I know this was long and winded but I wanted to tell you everything I got. If you have a specific question(s) about it let me know. I can focus in more on a specific area.

My Q's are how does TC feel about becoming physically intimate again? How will this change things between us?

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posted May 04, 2016 10:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SpiritualSadie:
Okay, so I get this really heavy feeling around him. Like the weight of the world is on his shoulders, but it seems like a lot of it is self imposed. It's his own fears, his self implemented restrictions, his perceived short comings, a feeling that he's hated by the world in general that's working against him right now. It feels like he's in a period of growth though, like he's coming from being very immature and hateful towards the world, to more of a place of acceptance and understanding. This phase is going to take a lot of time, years for him to mature into a man that can offer you a stable family life. I'd say right now, he's confused about life in general and has quite a chip on his shoulder.

I feel he has respect for you, more so than he has in the past. This is part of his maturation process, he'll begin to appreciate the woman that you are and realize that he wasn't the best partner to you, for a long time. Moreover, he'll understand that his reason for this was within himself and not due to outside influences and circumstances as he feels now. He'll try to make amends for this.

I feel that you love him but maybe not in the same way you used to, like you see him more for who he is now and not what you wanted him to be. In the past, it seems like you loved more of an idea of him or his potential rather than who he really was. Maybe you or he or both had this idea of what your relationship would be and become but it didn't match reality at all.

I feel like the two of you will become friends, like true friends, over the upcoming period, and from that a real and lasting love may develop. I don't see this as something that will reconcile successfully in the near future. You may see each other (and be intimate) but it doesn't have what it needs to go the distance yet. It's like you're both gathering the tools right now for what you may have together in the future.

I'm not convinced right now that when that time comes that he can offer you what it is you want from him, that you'll still want him as you do now. You're going to learn a lot about yourself over the next few years that will change your perspective greatly. I feel both of you are challenged right now to be grounded in your approach to this and to strip away all idealizations of the other, and the relationship or potential relationship and take this slowly, to let it develop into a mature and lasting love.

If you have any questions, let me know. I know this was long and winded but I wanted to tell you everything I got. If you have a specific question(s) about it let me know. I can focus in more on a specific area.

My Q's are how does TC feel about becoming physically intimate again? How will this change things between us?


for your question; I see TC feeling nervous about it, in the sense that it's almost like when he is around you, time becomes slower for him and he is very aware of everything he does... and it just feels like it is something that he really wants to do right, but because his sensitivity and consciousness is heightened around you... the thought of it is more intense than it would normally be for him. he wants to make sure he can take care of you. It feels to me that it will have a nice effect, the energy between the two of you feels good, but I am seeing it best to take things slow, like actually move physically slowly lol... I can hardly articulate the feelings I feel around it, it's almost like the two of you get into this trance around each other, it will feel much different from previous experiences with others

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posted May 04, 2016 10:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thank you for that reading, what you said is very true. He does have a huge weight around him, he feels very persecuted by life and by the world. I think it is hard for me not to idealize the experience, because he was my first true love, I felt he was my prince charming. I overlooked many character flaws, though... He actually got both of us arrested and taken into Federal Prison week 2 of dating. I wasn't at fault, but I wanted to *stand by him*.

I'm working so hard to heal, so that I can gain a clearer perspective... But it does seem to take so long. It is a really hard situation for me, because I want my daughter to have the best life she could imagine... and it is hard for me to give her that being a single mother when her father offers me no help.

Sometimes I feel that he loves me underneath it all, sometimes I feel that he never loved me ... it's really confusing

I am wondering if you can feel the energies that our relationship was founded on and tell if they are even true or not? I vacillate between thinking we are true soulmates and thinking I am just deluded and that he never really cared. do you really see him one day realizing what he has done to me and wanting to make it right?

thanks so much for taking the time to do this..

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posted May 04, 2016 11:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You know what, I guess the question I really want to know, is was our attraction based out of pain and brokennes? were we just drawn together to bring out that pain so it could be healed? Or was the part of us that connected and fell in love real? The question I cannot yet answer for myself, is if when we release this pain, and heal, if we will be matches or not. I don't know if it was our love or our pain that brought us together.

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SpiritualSadie
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posted May 04, 2016 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for the info on TC. That really resonates.

I'll take some time today to reflect on your question to see if I can get deeper info on that.

From what I already looked at, I can tell you that I think there was love there, but it was love in the way you both saw it and defined it at that time. It was what love meant to you then. This definition of love was immature and doesn't represent what love is going to be to you in the future. Even now it has changed but it is not clearly defined for either of you at this time. You are both on your way to seeing things much differently. I'd say you're more advanced in this area so you may have to practice patience as he walks his path.

This is important to understand because you both are in for a lot of changes over the next few years. All I was able to see in what I looked at is that you will still be connected and it will be true and much deeper than it has been in the past. I don't know if this is platonic or romantic. I'll see what I can see today when I reflect on your question and let you know what I get.

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posted May 04, 2016 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SpiritualSadie:
Thank you for the info on TC. That really resonates.

I'll take some time today to reflect on your question to see if I can get deeper info on that.

From what I already looked at, I can tell you that I think there was love there, but it was love in the way you both saw it and defined it at that time. It was what love meant to you then. This definition of love was immature and doesn't represent what love is going to be to you in the future. Even now it has changed but it is not clearly defined for either of you at this time. You are both on your way to seeing things much differently. I'd say you're more advanced in this area so you may have to practice patience as he walks his path.

This is important to understand because you both are in for a lot of changes over the next few years. All I was able to see in what I looked at is that you will still be connected and it will be true and much deeper than it has been in the past. I don't know if this is platonic or romantic. I'll see what I can see today when I reflect on your question and let you know what I get.


I am glad it resonated let me know if you have any more questions!

I'm so grateful for your perspective and understanding because it is really resonating with me. I am grateful if ever we are able to be in a good relationship, be it friendship, romantic, whatever... As long as we can be okay and be getting along well for my daughter's sake!I am really trying to work on consciously opening my heart and learning the true meaning of love.. I meditate on it daily. I suppose he may be learning in his own way too, but definitely not how I am. He's more learning through experiences of what not to do

thanks again so much <3

Ps- I just reread your first post and wanted to add how accurate you are about the chip on his shoulders. He is of a different ethnicity and thinks that the world is out to get him, that this country "isn't made for people like him". He is in a huge cloud of blame, and I am sort of the enemy being that I am a "white girl". He blames people like my parents for his problems, when in reality my parents love him and want to help him.

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posted May 04, 2016 02:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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You know what, I guess the question I really want to know, is was our attraction based out of pain and brokennes? were we just drawn together to bring out that pain so it could be healed? Or was the part of us that connected and fell in love real? The question I cannot yet answer for myself, is if when we release this pain, and heal, if we will be matches or not. I don't know if it was our love or our pain that brought us together.

I keep getting that the past is the past. What brought you together then is not what will keep you together. I believe you both felt a love for each other, what love was to you at that time, and I know you're connected and on a long road with this guy. In what capacity I can't say for sure. A lot of that depends on you.

I'm not sure what I believe with regards to soulmates, but I've heard it said that soulmate relationships are often about healing and overcoming challenges.

I believe that one day he will mature and gain perspective and want to offer you the things you've wanted. I can't say you'll want it then. I really see some big changes and shifts coming for you and if he's not close to matching your speed on this, then you'll likely turn focus elsewhere. I can't say that it'll be that way forever, but it could be for a long time. You're going to want happiness. You're going to want optimism. You're going to want forward progress, future planning, family first. I feel that you're going to be in that place long before he can offer any of that to you.

FWIW, I see him as an old man, kind of laughing at himself saying "if I knew then what I know now, my life would have been a lot different. Boy, I thought I had all the answers, but I really didn't know $h*t". So he will gain that perspective, it's just going to take a while and you won't put your life on hold forever.

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posted May 04, 2016 03:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thank you so much love <3

this is very helpful. it's interesting you mention I may not even want it, because in my meditations I am unsure if being with him is what I want. It's almost a habit to just think of it daily, and in my waking mind I dream of us being together and him realizing his errors, but deep down I think there is a part of me that is unsure if it is him I want or if I should pair with someone on a more similar path. It's not that I realize I don't want him, but I just realize I'm not sure of what I want...

thank you so much <3

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posted May 04, 2016 04:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My pleasure!

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posted May 04, 2016 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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My pleasure!

Would you be interested in any more exchanges? I really resonated with your readings and would love to hear any advice you have for myself and these coming changes/ my spiritual progress... Anything you feel about me or my energies or purpose. Sometimes it is so hard for me to view myself clearly so any constructive criticism or insight is so appreciated... Anyways, no pressure if you wouldn't like to because I know it can be energetically draining <3 but if you would like to feel free to leave any questions. You've helped me a lot, thank you!

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posted May 05, 2016 12:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel like your daughter is quite young and you're going to learn so much from her! She has a really strong spirit and she's going to inspire you in ways you can't see now. I think there was a book called "Everything I needed to know I learned in Kindergarten" or something like that. I see that coming up for you, like a reset button is pushed and you start seeing things through the lens of innocence and wonder again. It'll really be refreshing and will simplify some things that are over complicated right now. I also think she's going to be a catalyst for big changes in her dad's life as well. She's like a little healer. She's awesome!

Your perspective on things will change. You're going to come to a place where you realize it's not all that hard after all. I mean certain things will always be hard, but you're going to let go of the things that don't serve you anymore. This is habits, ideas, and people. I feel you're pretty direct and no nonsense and you're going to begin to align yourself more closely with people and ideas that reflect and honor that part of you. Within a couple of years, this is going to become a priority for you.

I feel like you have specific dreams and goals right now and sometimes you feel like you're so far from them that none will be obtainable. Some of the things though that you're wanting for your life and for your daughter will lose their value and be replaced with moments and memories that are just as valuable, if not more so than your original visions. Living in the moment will be a greater pursuit and more satisfying than dreaming of far off times and places.

So a question I have is what do you see for me in terms of love and relationship? I know that while this connection I have with TC is great, idk if he'll ever offer me a stable relationship. Can you pick up what's coming up for me in love, whether with him or with someone new?

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posted May 05, 2016 10:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I feel like your daughter is quite young and you're going to learn so much from her! She has a really strong spirit and she's going to inspire you in ways you can't see now. I think there was a book called "Everything I needed to know I learned in Kindergarten" or something like that. I see that coming up for you, like a reset button is pushed and you start seeing things through the lens of innocence and wonder again. It'll really be refreshing and will simplify some things that are over complicated right now. I also think she's going to be a catalyst for big changes in her dad's life as well. She's like a little healer. She's awesome!

Your perspective on things will change. You're going to come to a place where you realize it's not all that hard after all. I mean certain things will always be hard, but you're going to let go of the things that don't serve you anymore. This is habits, ideas, and people. I feel you're pretty direct and no nonsense and you're going to begin to align yourself more closely with people and ideas that reflect and honor that part of you. Within a couple of years, this is going to become a priority for you.

I feel like you have specific dreams and goals right now and sometimes you feel like you're so far from them that none will be obtainable. Some of the things though that you're wanting for your life and for your daughter will lose their value and be replaced with moments and memories that are just as valuable, if not more so than your original visions. Living in the moment will be a greater pursuit and more satisfying than dreaming of far off times and places.

So a question I have is what do you see for me in terms of love and relationship? I know that while this connection I have with TC is great, idk if he'll ever offer me a stable relationship. Can you pick up what's coming up for me in love, whether with him or with someone new?


hey love, I meditated on this last night and I actually did see a really strong desire from TC to "merge" with you... when I looked at the energies, it is like he just wants to meld and melt into you, so, from what I am seeing, this seems really really promising

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posted May 05, 2016 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for looking at that! I'd really like it if this moved forward.

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posted May 05, 2016 11:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think he may not even be fully showing you how strongly he feels, when I tune into him I feel him being so strongly pulled towards you. It's something I haven't even felt in a reading before... Do let me know what happens

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posted May 05, 2016 11:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I will add, I had a really deep meditation last night and a lot of what you said really made sense...

I actually saw last night that my desires to reunite with my ex were based on fears that I was holding onto. He has threatened me that if I got with someone else that he would try to take my daughter, he's said things like that if I ever met anyone, he would demand that I wait 2 years before introducing them to my daughter. (obviously impossible as I am a single mother with no childcare ever!)

These fears were too scary for me to look at at the time, so I held onto them, and my perceptions began to warp because of them. I began to try to create this false notion that being with my ex would be easier and it would be worth the sacrifice to protect my daughter... Since processing through those fears I am not having the draw to him anymore

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posted May 05, 2016 12:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's good to let go of those fears. When he sees he can't control you through fear anymore, he'll be forced to re-examine his own actions and choices if he wants to keep you in his life, in any capacity.

I'll let you know how it goes with TC. Nothing ever moves fast with him so it might be a while before I have anything to report.

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posted May 05, 2016 04:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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It's good to let go of those fears. When he sees he can't control you through fear anymore, he'll be forced to re-examine his own actions and choices if he wants to keep you in his life, in any capacity.

I'll let you know how it goes with TC. Nothing ever moves fast with him so it might be a while before I have anything to report.


you know, I was confused for so long as to what happened... I left him. And for the first 1+ years I was okay with it. Then I went to visit him and we ended up sleeping together and I just became an utter mess! I hadn't realized that the fears creeped back in and my personal power that I had spent so long cultivating really just went right out the window. The fears are being released as we speak, he will need to find a different way to do things!

Do let me know how things progress with him and if you have any more questions. I am eager to hear how things are going in the future

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posted May 06, 2016 08:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hey lovely you helped me so very much, I wanted to see if you wanted me to do any readings for you? No need to exchange, i just appreciate your readings very much

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posted May 07, 2016 01:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aww, that is so sweet for you to say. i really appreciate the offer. I'd like to save that for about a week if that's okay. I have a feeling I'll want to look at T again after I see him next weekend. Thank you so much for the offer. If you have any questions of me, ask anytime!

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posted May 23, 2016 11:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Miss,

So the day with TC didn't go as expected. Things went sideways and we haven't spoken since that weekend. Can you look at this for me and see what's going on and if he'll be back in touch?

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posted May 24, 2016 08:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SpiritualSadie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted May 24, 2016 08:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for VacantGazer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi SpiritualSadie, i think missblyss has unregistered

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