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Topic: Need help with my daughter
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missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 08:23 PM
I will exchangeMy daughter is very difficult. She has moon in Aries square Pluto among other squares. I have never yelled at her, I nurse her still, I rarely leave her, and she sleeps in my arms every night. She is so so sweet at times but she has the most extreme emotions of anyone I have ever met. I take her to work with me and she screams for hours and is so horribly behaved:.. She is even with a child who is in foster care and their kids wth absent parents so I can't blame it alley on her dad.. She screams, bites, gets mad at every little thing I am at a loss, I try so hard to be the best mom I can, I give up my life for her!! And I feel like I am failing, can anyone see anything I cannot see IP: Logged |
Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 08:54 PM
Hi MissBlyss,I'll try to help you. What degree of Aries is her Moon in and what degree of Capricorn was Pluto in when she was born? IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 08:59 PM
quote: Originally posted by Springtimeflower: Hi MissBlyss,I'll try to help you. What degree of Aries is her Moon in and what degree of Capricorn was Pluto in when she was born?
Moon 9 degrees aries Pluto 8 degrees capricorn and retrograde thanks so much IP: Logged |
Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 09:01 PM
How old is she? What is her Sun sign in?IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:02 PM
she is 2 years old. Her sun is in virgo and is unaspectedIP: Logged |
Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 09:04 PM
Sept 20th is her birthday?IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 81 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:06 PM
Wow this girl is me??? Seriously I was like that too,I was a very difficult child and trust me my mom is the best ever! Try to understand the cause and keep being a good mom but thats all you can do.I still dont understand why I acted like that. Oh just one important thing!! How old is she???Please try to find help with psychologist if she has enough age. I wish I had that kind of help when I was a child.Im an introverted person now. IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:08 PM
yes september 20th 2:35 AM in CaliforniaIP: Logged |
Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 09:14 PM
What degree is her Mercury in? What I look at has a wide range for her B'Day.IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:16 PM
quote: Originally posted by Springtimeflower: What degree is her Mercury in? What I look at has a wide range for her B'Day.
mercury is 17 degrees IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:17 PM
quote: Originally posted by FatedCinderella: Wow this girl is me??? Seriously I was like that too,I was a very difficult child and trust me my mom is the best ever! Try to understand the cause and keep being a good mom but thats all you can do.I still dont understand why I acted like that. Oh just one important thing!! How old is she???Please try to find help with psychologist if she has enough age. I wish I had that kind of help when I was a child.Im an introverted person now.
it's so hard!! I can see she is suffering, but I don't know what to do. I am a single mom and I take her to work with me, so that makes it hard because I am getting judged by her behavior and today she screamed and cried and was angry ALL day... It is such a test for me!
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FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 81 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:33 PM
I imagine how hard is for you!But having a mom who cares about them is the most important thing and you do that so everything will be alright.I had a much worse behavior. My sister has some troubles in her childhood too but nothing so extreme as me.Anyway after my mom find a phsycologist for her she CHANGED completely.Now shes confident and extrovert. Please dont quote
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missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:34 PM
Well I study holistic psychology and buddist/vedantic psychology... and her dad is studying psychology in school! But it is difficult because she is 2 and cannot explain her feelings!IP: Logged |
Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 09:37 PM
Here's what I see and remember each aspect of a person can be brought out in either a more positive way or otherwise:With Mercury being 17 deg of Libra (part of the squares you see) it opposes her Moon, squares Jupiter and Pluto as well as conjuncting her Uranus (the Uranus connection makes for her extremes of emotions). Anyways, the transit of Pluto in Capricorn is around 16 degrees and is still activating all of the above because of Mercury still in a later degree. The Moon square Mercury can make her either talk incessantly, get her more in touch with her feelings or find fault with what others do without knowing all the facts--it's a conditioned response. The Moon square Jupiter is the TV watcher, snack eater and can be very emotional or mushy/sentimental, but also generous to a fault. Her natal Moon square Pluto, not to be confused with the transit can make her want to manipulate others emotionally, but her emotions are also transformed at times (for the better). The Pluto transit to all of this will finish out around January of next year. Pluto (other peoples values and transformation) in Capricorn (parents, teaching, discipline). I've never had kids, but have heard some of the things people who do have children have talked about. You will need to finally wean your daughter, which means her own bed, etc., otherwise she will continue to pitch a fit and manipulate you until she gets what she wants. She also has Venus conjunct Saturn, which can make her thrifty money wise, a rock to a future husband, or only think of herself. Whatever you do will shape certain characteristics that each of the more challenging and even positive aspects she has in her chart. Hope this helps, Spring IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 81 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:45 PM
Ohh shes too young yet:/ I hope someone find an answer in her chart then.I hope everything gets better for you and her. IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 09:55 PM
quote: Originally posted by Springtimeflower: Here's what I see and remember each aspect of a person can be brought out in either a more positive way or otherwise:With Mercury being 17 deg of Libra (part of the squares you see) it opposes her Moon, squares Jupiter and Pluto as well as conjuncting her Uranus (the Uranus connection makes for her extremes of emotions). Anyways, the transit of Pluto in Capricorn is around 16 degrees and is still activating all of the above because of Mercury still in a later degree. The Moon square Mercury can make her either talk incessantly, get her more in touch with her feelings or find fault with what others do without knowing all the facts--it's a conditioned response. The Moon square Jupiter is the TV watcher, snack eater and can be very emotional or mushy/sentimental, but also generous to a fault. Her natal Moon square Pluto, not to be confused with the transit can make her want to manipulate others emotionally, but her emotions are also transformed at times (for the better). The Pluto transit to all of this will finish out around January of next year. Pluto (other peoples values and transformation) in Capricorn (parents, teaching, discipline). I've never had kids, but have heard some of the things people who do have children have talked about. You will need to finally wean your daughter, which means her own bed, etc., otherwise she will continue to pitch a fit and manipulate you until she gets what she wants. She also has Venus conjunct Saturn, which can make her thrifty money wise, a rock to a future husband, or only think of herself. Whatever you do will shape certain characteristics that each of the more challenging and even positive aspects she has in her chart. Hope this helps, Spring
thank you, but she isn't manipulating me. she is 2 and she is overcome with intense emotions.. she does it with other people also, she is struggling with pain inside of her. it is definitely not manipulation. i will move her to her own bed at some point, but i think you will see when you have a child.. but a 2 year old is still very small and very helpless in many ways and it is common in many cultures to bedshare until the child is more self-sufficient, just for safety reasons. I am not sure where you are from, but if you let a child naturally wean, the age is between 3 and 4.. and breastmilk is the most beneficial substance for them and has the capacity to prevent 1 million deaths per year because of the strength it gives to infants... so I am not really going to force wean her and stick her in her own bed because she is having mental challenges right now! she is only 2! she can hardly even talk yet.. IP: Logged |
Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 10:05 PM
I realize that each culture is different and my intent was not to offend anyone.My nephew's daughter will be two in October and is already on the baby food that comes in jars as well as other soft foods that she can have in small amounts. His wife breast fed her for about a year. She's on her feet and gets into everything--much like I remember her father as he was the same way. She also is early on the terrible two's as they call it here in the U.S. Anyways, your daughter should start to get better by January of next year as the transit moves slowly. Take care, Spring IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 10:09 PM
quote: Originally posted by Springtimeflower: I realize that each culture is different and my intent was not to offend anyone.My nephew's daughter will be two in October and is already on the baby food that comes in jars as well as other soft foods that she can have in small amounts. His wife breast fed her for about a year. She's on her feet and gets into everything--much like I remember her father as he was the same way. She also is early on the terrible two's as they call it here in the U.S. Anyways, your daughter should start to get better by January of next year as the transit moves slowly. Take care, Spring
Oh, that jarred baby food is not so good! My virgo moon only wants freshly prepared foods for kids lol. I make my daughter homemade meals everyday, but she nurses a well. Here is some information on extended breastfeeding; http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infant-and-toddler-health/in-depth/extended-breastfeeding/art-20046962
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Springtimeflower Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: USA Registered: Jan 2014
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posted June 03, 2016 10:13 PM
Thank you.Here's a link about children and their emotions: http://www.enannysource.com/blog/index.php/2011/11/08/7-signs-your-toddler-is-manipulating-you I just did a search and their is quite a few. I had spent a bit of time with my nephew and nieces when they were young, so I remember some of what's on that link. Spring IP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 03, 2016 10:29 PM
yeah that link just confirms that it isn't whammy daughter is doing! She does do it sometimes, but I can usually catch it when she's trying to fake something to get her way... this is a whole different level. she is in utter despair, I can see it in her eyes. Her emotions take over her.. it is really painful to watchIP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 5072 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted June 03, 2016 10:31 PM
Does she ever calm down when she sees her dadIP: Logged |
missblyss Knowflake Posts: 130 From: Registered: May 2016
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posted June 04, 2016 12:29 AM
she calms down a lot, she is happy a good portion of the time, but she has just been having fits the past few weeks for portions of the day. she actually seems to be more upset after she talks to him.. she says she doesnt want to talk to him, but when she does talk to him she seems happy to talk to him. I ask her if she wants to talk to her daddy and she says noIP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 5072 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted June 04, 2016 12:31 AM
Yeah I think the best thing I can pick up as what I had mentioned before. She's upset he's not physically here and she takes it out on you. And her little brain she doesn't understand why you can't bring him to her. But I think she really does want to see him. It's almost like a rollercoaster of emotions for her. quote: Originally posted by missblyss: she calms down a lot, she is happy a good portion of the time, but she has just been having fits the past few weeks for portions of the day. she actually seems to be more upset after she talks to him.. she says she doesnt want to talk to him, but when she does talk to him she seems happy to talk to him. I ask her if she wants to talk to her daddy and she says no
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LeeLoo2014 Knowflake Posts: 18014 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 04, 2016 02:37 AM
Hi, Missy I suggest you gently make her feel useful, by asking her to help you with little things. She needs to feel useful and skilled. You can, for example, teach her the "magical" skills she has, that she can feed the birds, or water the plants, or how she can see and interact with the little creatures in the air by looking at the air in the light, and every little thing involving interacting with nature in any way, or how she can "help" you with things, and how there is something to do, something for her to "use" her magical skills in every moment, especially with the hands. Try this and let me know if you see any improvement ------------------ I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... LeeLoo's Esotericorner IP: Logged |
Koniucha Knowflake Posts: 605 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted June 04, 2016 08:59 AM
quote: Originally posted by missblyss: she is 2 years old. Her sun is in virgo and is unaspected
I have moon square Pluto and an unaspected Scorpio sun. I'll have to ask my mom how I was. I turned out fine. But I have always been emotional IP: Logged |