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missblyss
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posted June 08, 2016 08:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
reading trade! I am in a dilemma... need insight ASAP

my daughter's dad is here and he keeps coming in while I'm nursing and trying to grab my boobs and my butt. trying to hookup. I'm telling him no.. it is very uncomfortable. What is going on?

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Orange
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posted June 08, 2016 09:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Orange     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just watching the real housewives of NY here....
What exactly is your question? Coz its obvious da man wants sex...

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missblyss
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posted June 08, 2016 09:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes I know that I guess I'm just confused. This is my ex husband and I told him there is no chance of me getting with him or anyone unless I'm in a serious relationship.

Like why is he so attracted to me all of a sudden? Does he just think I'm sexy? In a way does he miss me? He's literally like lunging at me as I tell him NO

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posted June 08, 2016 10:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Orange     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lily- Book- Fish-Mountain ( Clover)- Sun

the cards show that he feels good and relaxed around you right now. The first card I pulled is Lily which is traditionally associated with romantic sex, not just pounding, but sexual intimacy. He also had some recent problems in the money department which was just resolved and now in the presence of his family he feels relaxed for once.

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posted June 08, 2016 10:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Orange     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hun, not sure if you can concentrate right now lolol...but can you adjust your antenna for a sec and catch the signals my Aries babe emits in the cosmos...as if, what he feels right now (after the convo we had a few hours ago).

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missblyss
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posted June 09, 2016 01:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel his attraction and energy being pulled to you, but it's like he is feeling somewhat blocked from fully showing it for whatever reason. I feel him also having a motivation to improve himself in some ways

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Julz87
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posted June 09, 2016 01:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Julz87     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
MissBlyss how did it go??? From what you say it looks like he came on strong. >_<

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posted June 09, 2016 06:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Orange     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^^^^^* perv alert
Haha

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Astro keen
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posted June 09, 2016 06:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astro keen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Blyss,
Go have some fun for chrissake. You can have a think later!
Edit: Er... well no, now having read about your history with him. You do what feels right.

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missblyss
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posted June 09, 2016 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh you guys... so I walked out to get some water (was laying in the bedroom with my daughter) and he pulls out his penis, and keeps coming up trying to grab me.. i said no, because last year at this time i gave in and had sex but it was extremely emotionally upsetting for me to have sex with me once husband. he wouldn't even kiss me. there was no love where there once was.. and it just messed with me emotionally, it is not something i want to do at this point.

it was really upsetting. he was telling me that i was so beautiful, but it was all physical which isn't what i care about. keep in mind, this is the man who was my husband, but who totally caused me hell for a year once we split, refused to go to therapy, and has basically been a negligent dad. i want him to acknowledge all that I have done for our daughter and that I have done it on my own! I dgaf that he thinks I'm sexy... who cares.

i ended up telling him that what I want is love, I want a family, I want someone who will love me even when my teeth are falling out.. someone who will help me with my daughter...

and he says "good for you for still having that dream. that isn't what life is about. life is unfair, there is no god, there is no point to any of that. i have given up on my dreams... so good for you for having them but that will never be my life"

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ILovePoems
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posted June 09, 2016 11:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ILovePoems     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Missblyss, what kinda of man would say that???? That makes me really upset to even read something like that.. some men out there just doesn't really care at all. Hopefully one day, he can open up his eyes and realize that having a family and being loved no matter what condition that you're in is a beautiful thing. But for him to say something like that, it makes me think he was disappointed in himself. When I read that, I had this fiery feeling in me... but I guess it's just me.

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posted June 09, 2016 11:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you know what else he said to me
"why couldn't you look like this when we were together"...

I have been working out more because now my daughter is older and i had no help with her when she was younger... :/

ILP- he is in such a dark spiritual cloud right now it is so depressing for me to see! he tells me that there is no god (not in any sort of interpratioin of the word)... he sees no good in this world. little does he realize, he has EVERYTHING at his fingertips. he pays $900 to live by himself in the ghetto... he is creating and manifesting his own demise and it is painful to see

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posted June 09, 2016 11:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilypad18     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think this "man" is telling you that only to persuade you into having sex... that's all, of course he would like someone to love him but at that moment he just wanted some sex
don't let him fool you

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missblyss
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posted June 09, 2016 11:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
he cries because he can't pay for his daughter's preschool.... but why cry? he is a college student. why doesn't he cry because he spends NO time with her? that is something in his control!!

he has 4 different wealthy and successful siblings who would all offer him a free place to live.... he could earn money and put it straight towards his daughter. but he CHOOSES to live in the ghetto because he likes the "culture" yes $900 to live in a ghetto is just insane. he is surrounded by the darkest energy there but he thinks it is culture. he could live for free, near his daughter, with a great job, in one of the most beautiful cities in the world! But in his mind he can't even see this as an option

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posted June 09, 2016 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ILovePoems     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We all wish that we could change someone.. may be wait around for someone to realize their problems and mistakes.. but we can't. I guess to him, that's what he sees. I'm sorry that he acts this way, it's different when you two have a child together.. that's when things be harder. But at least the child have you in their life, at least you haven't given up on her. You try your best, and I know you will find that perfect person.

Not saying you want to change him.. but just saying that you will find that person you really suppose to be with...may be him if he changes his ways.

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missblyss
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posted June 09, 2016 11:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thank you girl... it is just so painful for me to see, he wasn't always like this....

things have happened to him and he has lost his faith in the world, i think one of the things is that he and i broke up... but he doesn't even see my heart has been with him all along. We are not together, but I haven't given up on him.... but he cannot see it...

It's hard to see someone in such a dark place, I pray he finds some sort of peace and truth in this mess. I think he will have to because I don't think he can go lower than this

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posted June 09, 2016 01:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astro keen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorry to hear this - he is no fit state to be a partner yet. What you did was absolutely right, particularly as you've been in this place before.

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Julz87
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posted June 09, 2016 01:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Julz87     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's terrible MissBlyss 😕

Idk, it seems like it will be a while before he gets through that dark cloud - he also seems like an individual who is set in his ways.

"Why couldn't you look like this when we were together" as a mom as well wow! What an a$$hole thing to say. One of the reasons I and my child's father ended was because I gained 40 pounds and took my time shedding it another one was he was not done partying - different points of interest. Took 3 years to get over him so if that's your aim then don't be sad the feelings eventually fade - if not I hope he comes around for you and opens his eyes to how his actions affect the most important people around him.

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missblyss
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posted June 09, 2016 02:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thank you guys for the loving words, advice, and support...

the thing is, I AM over him... in terms of I know I could find love with someone else, and what he thinks of me doesn't really affect me anymore...

at the same time, I feel this deep sense of loyalty to him... I want him to be okay, and he is not okay.. in any way, shape, or form..

when we first got together he was vibrant, motivated, a great and loving partner... That person is seemingly dead... I feel like I am the only person on this planet that knows that side of him and I feel that if I forget that person... then that person REALLY will be gone forever.

I don't want to be with who he is now and I know I could find someone wonderful to be with... but there would be this sense of skipping out on my duty... I made a commitment to this man and it doesn't feel right for me to just leave him in the dust even if that is what he thinks he wants in all this ignorance. I won't get sexual with him and I do have boundaries... and I am OPEN for a new man to come into my life and be there... But I feel like this man is my family... I don't know...

Like, no matter what he says or does, I KNOW that he was madly in love with me... I know it. I know he wanted to spend his life with me and I know he didn't want to be with anyone but me... I know he had dreams when we were together...

and it is also my daughter's dad.. it's just SO hard to give up on him... I mean life and time is so weird, I feel like if I don't give up on him.. just like in an energetic way.. I really believe one day he is going to realize what he did

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