posted June 20, 2016 03:14 PM
12 years ago I came to visit my SOs family in the city we currently live in.
They had no attachment to the place and frankly hated it here.
The instant we entered the city I felt like I was home, I knew I would live here.Flash forward a couple years we actually bought a starter home out here.
Ive loved being here, but as our family has out grown this house and our lifestyle has changed from needing the small house on the very outskirts of town to needing something larger and closer to everything.
We are due to put our house on the market very very soon and are currently looking for a "new" home.
My heart is here in this city, especially drawn to the historic square.
The actual thought of leaving this city (even moving to the city just next door) breaks my heart.
I want to be here. Im drawn to this city, Im drawn to its historic district.
Im fighting the SO tooth, nail, and claw to move into the historic district and into one of the older (40/50-100+ years) homes but hes giving me such resistance.
The thought of living in the local tract houses gives me such anxiety. It makes me feel like Im going to suffocate. I need something with charm and character.
In fact we are on such opposite sides of this its caused a few disagreements.
He thinks moving into down town is the equivalent of moving to a huge city (Like NYC or ATL). Its a city of less than 13,000 ppl in a area of almost 10 sq miles, so hes being pretty dramatic, IMO at least.
Its 5 minutes from his family's business's home base, its right down the road from the grocery (no more hour long trips because I forgot something...), its closer to the schools, closer to our children's activities.
I have heard of people who have had readings done where a person is strongly attached to houses or areas because of past lives and it would be best if that person had some sort of closure and moved on (away) with this life...
I havent felt this way about any other city I have lived in during my life, in fact I never really felt "at home" in the other cities, even my home town.
I would just like if someone could help guide me on any of these questions?
Why I have such a draw to this area?
Is it a past life or am I/do I have some reasoning to be here in this life, or am I attached just because?
Should I stay or should I go?
Will the SO and I settle on something we both like or do we need to tread cautiously??