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posted June 23, 2016 03:36 PM            

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So today is my son's 19th bday and boy is it making me feel old. So I'm happy yet sad about that today then to top it off, I told the guy I was seeing that I go to counseling. Now I have been going for 3 years and I started going because my ex beat down my self esteem and I have gotten that up over the last 3 years but also go to be a better person in other areas of my life. Not for anger or suicide issues or anything bad but to have that neutral party to talk to and have her feedback. So I tell him this, and he started to ignore me....I did not expect that at all! I'm not ashamed that I go because it is helping me be a better me. But so sad that he clearly has an issue with and chooses to ignore me rather then talk to me about it. So I'm trying to not let it get me anymore down but it's hard....

Just wanted to vent. I am close to a few people but don't want to hear about how I shouldn't have let my guard down and so on and so forth. Thanks for listening!

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posted June 23, 2016 04:21 PM            

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Ah, plenty of good men out there. He was just a trail run.stay positive!

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posted June 25, 2016 07:50 AM            

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(((((((((dustib)))))))))) Hey!! He is just not matured or understanding enough. Or may be just heard or been through some 'negative' experience in connection with seeing a counselor. So that's his issue and nothing to do with you. Please don't let that dampen your enthusiasm in life. Just go about your business and do things you like to do. It helps me to pull me out of the blues. What helps you? I dive within and do chanting of HIS name. That keeps me centered and makes me joyful. What works for you? My love to you.....tc.

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posted June 25, 2016 07:54 AM            

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I am sorry, Dusti I hope you are feeling better.

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posted June 25, 2016 02:48 PM            

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Dusty,

It takes courage to trust someone with your secrets. The fact that they betray that trust reveals their own weaknesses. I am coming to realise that I don't want to relate to weak people anymore. The person who deserves to be my partner is one who can accept me for all that I am. Only that relationship is authentic and worth pursuing.

So, the fact that he responded as he did is an early sign for you to let him go. But don't let your fears stop you from sharing your private life with another - there will be someone coming your way.

Also did you tell him what you thought of his behaviour? I think you should send him a withering email to tell him what you said above - how you are proud of your decision to undergo counselling and perhaps he too could benefit from the same.
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posted June 26, 2016 10:37 AM            

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Thanks everyone. He did contact me and told me the counseling freaked him out a bit so I told him maybe I'm not the one for him then because I need someone who is supportive and understanding. I'm not ashamed I go...it helps me be a better me and I told him it would benefit him if he went. Lol it's all good....I know I need someone who can accept me for me and appreciate it.

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