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Adimi
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posted July 01, 2016 12:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adimi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi everyone,

I've been with this person (P.) for about an year and a half now. It was never a serious thing, but throughout that time we've been great friends for each other and there was a special connection. We had our ups and downs, a lot of them, but he showed that he trusted and respected me, which were two very significant things for me. Otherwise, this couldn't have lasted this long.

So this person has now expressed that he doesn't not want to be with me like that at the moment, as we have not been going through a good phase... Then he said that it's not that he doesn't want, he just can't because there is too much going on in his life (which I understand)... So he is obviously confused or wants to keep me on the shelf, huh. I'd be okay with him not wanting anything more if it was not for the way that it happened... I'm very hurt by the way he kept going along with my little plays and flirts, he still did it himself by his own iniciative actually. So I thought there was still desire on his part. I'm hurt that he wasn't honest about this with me sooner, given the friendship we supposely have.

Anyways, my question is much more simpler than this... Is it over for good? I really appreciatte any help and feedback will be given, of course.
I can offer an exchange aswell, if you'd like help with something. In spite of everything and the extreme sadness this has led me to feel, I'm feeling better now and I'm confident that I can do a proper reading, as I like to give back to those who help me.

Thanks in advance!

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poochycat
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posted July 01, 2016 01:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for poochycat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi Adimi,

I'll do a reading for you.

clover, book, rider, fish, man

With clover shadowing man (E) I feel there is luck and a progression happening still is this relationship. The book is showing that he may tell you how he feels (the rider) next to fish and then shadowing man is showing good feelings around him. Hope this helps a little.

I would like to know what J's intentions are with me now. Also, if it's O.K. will J and B have a good relationship and progress. Thanks

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andstuff
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posted July 01, 2016 01:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for andstuff     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Adimi,

I'll do a spread for you within an hour, would appreciate an exchange as well, but I'll leave my question after posting yours

UPD I did a wheel, and it came out as follows

the present: 9 pents
past obstacles: the hermit
hidden influences: 3 swords
future influences: the fool
synthesis: King of Cups

In the first place what I see is that you're completely overwhelmed by all things feelings and seem to ignore pretty much everything else. As if you were nothing but your heart. Plus you're obviously in a lot of pain. I used the deviant moon deck, so what I love about this version of 3 swords is that the doll in the image is standing on 3 legs not 2, so you do have some core strength in you to keep you going, however implausible this might seem.

Over to him, I'd say it looks like he does seem to have all he wants/needs in his life, and a certain contentment on top, as if he were actually relishing his every day. The Hermit indicates that the alientation started taking place a while ago, as if he had started to feel on his own way before telling you it's over. He changed, having realised something about himself. [While I still think the way he went about it all is pretty disgusting]

The point here however is that in a while none of this will matter to you anymore, you will be soaring on top of it, free and in full possession of your heart and soul.

Please note that this is not a prediction per se, rather the way my cards show the lines of flux/the dynamic of the situation.

I would recommend praying to Archangel Michael just in case to cut the soul cords (you can google what you have to do) if there are any it should help. And watch something along the lines of the early seasons of Supernatural, I wish I had been aware of that option when I was in a place a bit like yours.

At this let me wish you the best of luck

My best,
L x

If your offer to exchange still stands I was wondering about my life in general. Will I be able to get my mojo back completely? Will I stop sitting around waiting for extraordinary things to start happening and actually go out there and snatch it all?

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Saille
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posted July 01, 2016 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Saille     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi A,

I did a reading for you and got the 5 of pentacles,
the hierophant
3 of pentacles.

I don't think its over. I think right now, he feels he needs to do the right thing in the present whether its making things official or moving onto finding a concrete relationship or dating( seeing how the 5 of pentacles suggest you are have been struggling the with sistuation in the past.) With the 3 of pentacles in the future, I feel you are both moving towards a better place, perhaps with the help of another person? Both the hiero and the 3 of pentacles have to do with the church, so maybe you'll get a little help from the past.

I was hoping to see if you saw any improvement between Jacob and I. He contacted me out of the blue a few days ago just to say hi.

(This was what you posted about our relationship last time)
Hum... I don't feel is such a simple situation here. There are very mixed energies around you both and it seems that you experienced a real "knock-out" this time due to insensivity on handling matters on his part... It's not that he is insensitive to you, he just wants to keep the emotional distance. And I do feel he will come around again, perhaps trying a more friendly/detached approach, but he might eventually try something more intimate with you. I don't feel commitment though... Not that there isn't potential for this connection to grow into a committed one, but it would take a lot of time and sacrifice on your part. This guy deals with matters of the heart more with his mind than with his own heart.
That's the kind of vibe that I'm getting, but I might be wrong, of course.
Please let me know and all the best!

Thanks

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Adimi
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posted July 01, 2016 06:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adimi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi everyone,

Thank you so much for your kind replies. I really apreciatte your help so much.

Meanwhile, me and him have talked again about this and it was a very draining conversation for me... I'm not feeling very energetic at the moment and I'm a bit shaken from that conversation, so I really don't feel that I'm able to do the readings as of this moment. I want to help you guys in the best condition that I can, so I'll come back tommorrow. I'm confident that I will feel better. I'll give you then the feedback for your readings aswell, only because I need a rest from this topic today, it would only drain me more... I just wanted to let you know, so you don't feel like I abandoned the topic. I hope you understand xx tough times for me

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Adimi
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posted July 02, 2016 02:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adimi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi guys, back again and feeling more grounded now. I will do your readings first.

Poochycat,

At the moment, what I immediately get is "space". He wishes to focus on himself and other things. With that said, it doesn't mean that he doesn't value you and I do still feel there is progression to come between you both. I got the 6 of cups too, which talks of past loves. But please don't wait for him, live your life as you would normally... He can be a bit stubborn in his ideas and takes a while to change his behaviours. Once he sees you focused in other areas of your life, I feel that's when he might come with a closer approach to you. I'm not really getting a serious relationship between you both though, as in I don't see commitment yet.

As per J. and B., hum... I'm sorry if this is not what you'd like to hear but I'm actually getting a very good connection between them both, at least at the moment. One of the strong aspects of their relationship is communication and they feel quite connected to one another on a soul level. He feels almost as her protector and he likes it that way. I don't see any major obstacles coming in the near future. Additionally I got the Ace of cups.

I sincerelly hope everything turns out the best for you

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Adimi
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posted July 02, 2016 02:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adimi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Andstuff, that transformation will happen but will be a slow process (six of swords). I feel the main thing here is that you need to change your thinking process. Of course that doesn't happen over night, but slowly try to not worry so much on things to come and have control over that and focus on the present... Focus on your daily actions and on what your soul really wishes and needs to feel happy. If something goes wrong, it's not the end of the world. You're still here to try again or try a new path. So just chill a bit more and let things flow more naturally... When you feel yourself overthinking, just focus on your breathing and distract yourself with something that makes you happy, whether that be something as small as cooking or talking to a buddy. You do need to push yourself a bit more to be more risky and I actually feel the presence of a younger male helping you somehow in this. I don't think he will even realize his role here, it's just someone whose attitude and approach to life is inspiring to you. I can't say for sure whether you know him already or not, but it feels like a distant energy at the moment... If you already know him, it's not someone that close to you.

I hope this helps, let me know!

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Adimi
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posted July 02, 2016 03:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adimi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Saille,

It feels to me that this relationship will never be the same after previous events. It doesn't mean it will be better or worse, just different. There is a looot of hidden hurts and feelings between you guys... A lot of unspoken words and issues that haven't been properly solved. I am getting you feeling more relieved about this situation in the near future though, so there's a small breakthrough coming... There will be a moment of openness between you guys, which will allow you to feel more resolved about him. He will not disappear from your life soon, in fact there is slow progression when it comes to your closeness. But it's something that might take months honestly. In spite of everything, there is still desire on both parts to be in each others life, so that will be your fuel.

Best of luck, let me know how it goes

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Adimi
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posted July 02, 2016 03:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adimi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Now to the feedbacks...

Poochycat, I can't really say much as it's a future-oriented reading, we'll see. He has been telling me things, but I don't always feel he is honest and clear about the way he is feeling, his reasonings etc... I don't feel he is lying, but might be distorting things a little so his attitudes towards me don't look so bad. It's still very early in the game though, this only happened yesterday, so there's more to come, most likely.

Andstuff, you're 100% accuratte. That was even something that I was actually reflecting upon yesterday... How can I be "all heart" after everything that has happened, how can other people stay detached from their feelings and heart's desires... I understand that it's still very early for me to feel detached from the situation, it will be a process, but those were just some thoughts on my mind. You're also right about my strength, I can feel it and I felt a real shift happening in that throughout the past month. Maybe it was preparing me for this. It's not that I was not strong before, which I already was, but this feels to me as a more assertive strength, if that makes sense.
I'm sure you're right about him too, he feels to me to be pretty comfortable in where he is, although not completely happy with some aspects of his life. He is not in a bad state, and certainly not as broken as me.
I do hope you're right about the future, from the bottom of my heart. I'm an extremelly sensitive and profound person, who feels things very deeply... Some of my past experiences took me a while to get over. This was probably the most intense experience I've ever had with someone and I'm afraid of how long it might take me to overcome it, given that fact. But I will push through, no matter what, and I will always fight for my happiness. Thanks for your advice, I will take a look at that. x

Saille, yes, he might be looking for something more serious and thinks he can't have that with me, who knows... He told me he doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment, but sometimes what he says doesn't exactly correspond the truth. Yes, the struggles with that have always been present. What do you mean by a little help from the past? A person from the past?

Thank you so much al of you for helping me with this

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poochycat
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posted July 02, 2016 05:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for poochycat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Adimi,

Sorry I couldn't be more accurate for you and thank you so much for my reading! No need to feel sorry for myself and J. I am slowly losing my romantic feelings for him and it is becoming more a friendship. He did say that he would like to be friends. I am seeing him tomorrow for a coffee date even though he is getting very serious with B. I would like those two to connect.

All three of us have been involved in health issues (don't want to elaborate) and he was VERY supportive. If what you mean a progression as friendship, I would be happy. Thanks again. XX

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andstuff
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posted July 02, 2016 05:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for andstuff     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Adimi

Thanks for providing feedback, much appreciated

Thanks for the reading as well, I can't really think of any younger male to truly inspire me, one of the yoga teachers whose classes I go to perhaps (you didn't mean younger than me right? I have no clue how old he is, chances are maybe he just looks good, this happens a lot to people in that line of work), but it's really just the vibe I get from him I'm learning from, even though he seems to be all about peace and harmony, not action, yet he's been giving me random advice re: a number of things and I'm learning to be more mindful and focused

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Saille
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posted July 03, 2016 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Saille     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi A,

Thank for the reading. I don't even remember writing someone from the past, so maybe the tarot was doing it for me. But with the 3 of pentacles, is about working with another person for the better, so I am thinking someone will come into your relationship not like a 3 of swords but perhaps a mutual friend that might make things clear for both of you.

Thank you for the reading about Jacob. There is so much I want to confront him about, but he is an air sign and everything is so ******* slow and im an aries. I dont know why my heart is so focused on this guy, but it doesnt want to move on even when my mind tries.ill keep you posted.

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