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starzy54
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posted July 16, 2016 05:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starzy54     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello everyone .

I have been in a long term relationship with a Pisces for nearly 9 years. We love eachother a ton and always will. Things have just progressed in a way where we are in a boring rut for the past 3 years ( I understand this is normal in some relationships ) friendship replaces passionate love over time. He has not cheated, nor have I. I've tried everything to relight the fire, but he's just stuck and I'm left craving for his love and affection . It feels I'm trying to keep things going all on my own , so I got complacent and have given up. Just going with the motions everyday with him. He's quiet, doesn't talk to me. We pass like ships in the night, go to work, and live on different schedules.

Recently I met a man .. A Cancer, who is about 8 years older than me. In just a few weeks our chatty coffee and lunches and friendship have evolved. He's told me he's in love with me, I can't help but feel the same He just seems like the guy I've always dreamed my Pisces could be and provide the affection I have always craved from him ( very attached, possessive of me, needs me).

Is there anything going on within my transits or chart indicating such an upheaval in the love department? I love my Pisces, he's been there through thick and thin.. But my Cancer is so intuitive and gets me like Pisces never did.


I was born Jan 6th 1987 Queens New York 7:45 pm

The Pisces was born March 9th 1984 beckley WV 11:15 am

Cancer born July 12th 1978 Frankfort KY time unknown

I'm curious to know if any transits within my chart are showing any movement for love?

Thank you kindly for any help at all , I can provide a tarot exchange for anyone who wants one for some help with this. Not very knowledgable with astrology / synastry

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cherful24
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posted July 16, 2016 09:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cherful24     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Go for the new guy.

Don't worry, don't feel guilty.

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Love&Light
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posted July 17, 2016 03:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Love&Light     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Can't do charts starzy but you have done a reading or two for me earlier so I thought I would give a friendly suggestion. Do give a hint or talk it out with your friend (tactfully). What I mean is don't close the door on him without giving the relationship its due justice. Karma is a b***h. My chart and a couple of psychics have told me about my past life. Somewhat its on this line only and am 'paying back' in this life. Not trying to scare you but its like a System....this karma business...we need to play by its rules. So please just discuss it, see what is his opinion and only then take this step. Sorry for being a wet blanket. I wish you luck!!!

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starzy54
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posted July 24, 2016 05:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for starzy54     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you ladies.. The Cancer man and I .. Just omg I can't believe the whirlwind of emotions. Idk what to do I am positive I love this man. It's scary to think of ending things with my Pisces. He's been my rock but the Cancer just knows me so well.. He just feels right. I never thought something like this could happen.

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Lucia23
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posted July 24, 2016 11:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you post the charts, people can have a look, but just from a quick glance at your birth year and this situation, it's your Saturn Return!!! What house does your Saturn fall into?

A lot of people leave long-term relationships that they feel they have outgrown during the Saturn return. During mine, I left a long term relationship and made huge career changes. It was very freeing.

I would urge you to be mature enough to understand that this is about YOU--you needing new, deep experiences to free yourself and live your most authentic life, from your heart. It is not about this new guy and your feelings of limerance (not love!) for him.

This older guy is needy enough to be talking about love after a few weeks of sexual and romantic tension, and sleazy and immoral enough to be talking about it with someone's loyal, faithful girlfriend of nine years--but even if he were the best guy in the world and would go on to be the big love of your life, PLEASE honor your Pisces partner's humanity by not lying to him or cheating on him. You are already having an emotional affair, which causes intense and unforgettable pain to

Don't make your need for love and emotional growth be about your limerance and infatuation with this Cancer guy. You don't know him very well,


Talk with your Pisces in a kind and mature way. End the relationship in a kind way, while still being faithful emotionally, physically, sexually. Give yourself three or four months single, processing all the complicated and deep issues that brought you to this point--and after you've been on your own for that long, honoring your relationship's end and sparing your faithful Pisces the pain of being jilted for some other guy, you can start dating the Cancer and seeing how your relationship evolves as a real relationship, without the exciting tension of limerance.

Exit affairs--which you are having--are when someone doesn't have the courage to end their relationship in a kind and respectful way, the courage to be on their own for even a few months after a multi-YEAR relationship and look at themselves.....you haven't crossed lines yet that would cause your Pisces real pain, so keep it that way.

People who move in on other people's partners are not good relationship prospects for more than a quick fling in the early months when the sexual tension, fantasies and projections are high.

Ending a long-term relationship is a good opportunity to take some downtime to understand yourself and work on growing into the most compassionate, happy and loving person you can be.

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