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Topic: What's wrong with me?
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PiscesCancerTaurus Knowflake Posts: 377 From: Finland Registered: Jun 2013
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posted January 15, 2017 02:53 PM
My placements. I'm doing this on my phone so I will have to post my actual chart later. I have moon and mars in the 2nd. Sun and Venus in the 5th. Saturn in the 12th and Pluto in the 9th. My whole life has been like this where I make aquatints really easily, I get along with people, they always go on about how great I am and how awesome I am. But that's all surfaces. After about a 9 months to a year sometimes a little longer, when I start to let them in and try and have somewhat of a close relationship, they end up hating me. Or at least doing everything in their power to get me out of their life. Or the ones that stay for whatever reason, constantly complain about how I make them feel bad about themselves or doing this or that to them. My own family acts like towards me. I'm in no way saying I'm perfect here. I have my flaws and plenty of them. But why can't I get close to anyone? It's like as soon as I let my walls down with people they head for the hills. 90% of the time when people are saying that I'm doing this or that to them or that I make them feel bad about them self, I feel like I'm just defending myself. I've felt like I have had to defend myself my whole life and like nobody has ever. Even in my corner. Why doesn't anyone get along with me? Pisces rising Cancer Sun Taurus Moon Cancer Mercury Cancer Venus Taurus Mars Virgo Jupiter Aquarius Saturn Capricorn Uranus Capricorn Neptune Scorpio Pluto IP: Logged |
Electro DGX Moderator Posts: 1692 From: Plutanus Registered: Jul 2015
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posted January 15, 2017 02:58 PM
It would be easier to help you out if you could post your chart. Honestly though this question can't be answered with astrology alone. You need to find out why they are so insistent on getting away from you when they get close to you, and that will help us pinpoint the cause of the problem and a solution for it. It's surprising because you have a lot of strong placements (Moon in 2nd, Sun in 5th). ------------------ Scorpio Ascendant Aquarius Sun in 4th Gemini Moon in 8th Check out my blog ya'll: www.electrodgxtalks.wordpress.com IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus Knowflake Posts: 377 From: Finland Registered: Jun 2013
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posted January 15, 2017 03:24 PM
Ok, I found out how to post chart from phone. IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 2907 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted January 15, 2017 06:20 PM
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My whole life has been like this where I make aquatints really easily, I get along with people, they always go on about how great I am and how awesome I am. But that's all surfaces. After about a 9 months to a year sometimes a little longer, when I start to let them in and try and have somewhat of a close relationship, they end up hating me. Or at least doing everything in their power to get me out of their life. Or the ones that stay for whatever reason, constantly complain about how I make them feel bad about themselves or doing this or that to them. My own family acts like towards me. I'm in no way saying I'm perfect here. I have my flaws and plenty of them. But why can't I get close to anyone? It's like as soon as I let my walls down with people they head for the hills. 90% of the time when people are saying that I'm doing this or that to them or that I make them feel bad about them self, I feel like I'm just defending myself. I've felt like I have had to defend myself my whole life and like nobody has ever. Even in my corner. Why doesn't anyone get along with me?
Examine this further. IP: Logged |
soren Knowflake Posts: 2823 From: The Top Of A Candle Flame Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 15, 2017 06:32 PM
well perhaps you are at a more trying part of life, and with negative signs you interanilze a lot of what u see on the outside, maybe too much,.(just a result of negative sign influence of too much,) IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 2907 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted January 15, 2017 06:32 PM
I believe your problem stems from your Mars conj Moon aspect. Mars conjunct Moon is said to make a person very competitive. This person will tend to see disagreements as person attacks and will counterstrike. The truth is, no one is attacking them, just expressing a different view. In an impersonal situation, like a debate, it's okay to spar with opponents. However, in a relationship when another person has let down their guard emotional attacks will hurt very deeply. In short: You may have an anger problem. With Cancer, Pisces, & Taurus prominent in your chart, passive signs, you may also be quite passive aggressive. IP: Logged |
headintheclouds91 Knowflake Posts: 718 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted January 15, 2017 06:38 PM
Are you a complainer? The reason i ask this is because a friend of mine has similar problems and one of the reasons people get sick of her is because she is constantly complaining and can be very negative to almost everything. She also has a tendency of wanting to drag people down and ruin their good mood and often gets in fights with people because of this. IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 2907 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted January 15, 2017 06:42 PM
says, Robert Hand: quote:
You are likely to have quite a temper and fly off the handle easily....The major problem to watch out for is that you may fight for ideas or causes that you haven't thought out at all carefully. You may react to threats that are more imagined than real if an innocent remark or action triggers off any angry reaction in your mind. You tend to get angry without really knowing why. When that happens, try to see if the reasons justify your anger. A tendency to get angry for no reason or to act without thinking is the greatest problem with this aspect.
In a fire sign this aspect may play out as a rage monster. In the more passive signs: Taurus, Cancer, Pisces, again this may be someone who is extremely passive aggressive. The sort of person who will tell you something nasty, but expect you to not be upset because they did it with a smile. IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus Knowflake Posts: 377 From: Finland Registered: Jun 2013
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posted January 15, 2017 07:05 PM
I can understand what you all are saying. Everyone in my immediate family is constantly angry, so I think I pick up on that. I use to be a complainer, but over the last couple of years I have really tried to not do that. The problem I'm having is people want sympathy from in all the wrong places. Example: my mom talks about how everyday she is late to work, but she lays in bed for another hour most mornings after her alarm before starting to get ready. When I told her this, she said that I am always picking on her. A few years ago, a friend of mine cried to be about wanting to lose weight and she didn't like how she looked. This one I could totally empathize with because I understand weight issues. They are not to be taken lightly. I tried to help her by offering to diet with her and invited her to my works outs. A couple days later, after she blew me off for a workout, I see her on FB posting pictures of her drinking margaritas, smoking and no joke she was in a food eating contest. I invited her again to workout a few days later and she said it wasn't for her. She cried to me about the same problem a week later and I was completely honest with her about why she wasn't able to achieve her goal. She called me a b**** and we are not friends anymore. I had another friend who was stringing a guy along. She went finally went on a date with him after a couple months of them being friends. The same night, she goes to another guys house and sleeps with him and posts it in her FB. The first guy saw this and dumped her and she cried to me about how much she loved the first guy and she was sad. I was very honest with her about the whole situation and she said I make her feel bad herself and that I was a ***** . So I guess yeah, you all are right. I'm very blunt with people. Surprisingly, I'm calm. Lately I haven't been because everyone around me has been taking out their crap on me. So I've been flying off the handle very easily. But I do appreciate all the feedback. IP: Logged |
soren Knowflake Posts: 2823 From: The Top Of A Candle Flame Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 15, 2017 07:08 PM
i think i see where you are coming from. i was like you too, seeing the holes in everyones logic. if you look up the tarot card "the moon" it will make everything make sense. I'll see if i can find it. these cards are like divine pulls from god when you choose them. IP: Logged |
soren Knowflake Posts: 2823 From: The Top Of A Candle Flame Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 15, 2017 08:59 PM
basically everything is happening from a higher source, of love. less ppeople behave as orderly selvesthere is vibrations every where and we litterally feel existence. this is why things might seem not how they truly are. maybe it sounds like you have to leave behind the people. normally someone is weak to others suggestions, 'oh you didnt do that? oh haha. so what did you do? oh haha" IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus Knowflake Posts: 377 From: Finland Registered: Jun 2013
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posted January 15, 2017 09:02 PM
@Soren Thank you soooooo much for finding that. I love reading about dreams and the moon. I have very vivid dreams of many things, mostly of one person. But yes, I will take what you said and what all have said and put it to good use. IP: Logged |
dreamscomeslow Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jan 2017
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posted January 15, 2017 09:55 PM
Hey Pct =)Here is another spin on it... Your job is not to change who you are, it is your job to find people who can connect with you in the way you need. I think we would get a long really well, to be honest. Your placements remind me of a younger girl I met about 6 months ago and we locked eyes immediately probably fell in love a little bit. Haha anyways, I'm not trying to be a freak on the internet. More to the point, I sense that you may be a little off-beat (Ps. I don't know how to read your chart so that is a total guess) and therefore, it will require a lot of emotional, mental, spiritual growing on your part in order to manifest the type of connection that you need. When we are pushed away or ignored it can be sooo hard not to internalize that as a part of our worth. People project a lot of their own bs onto others so if your friend is complaining about being fat and in food eating contests lool then perhaps what you need to do is practice more subtlety and just let people work out their own journeys. Turn your intuitions and judgement inward instead of outward((<<<something I seriously need to make a more conscious effort of as well)). Despite how you may feel you are not too needy, too clingy, too emotional, too bitchy.. you are enough. You are more than enough. I'm sorry people suck. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 74381 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 15, 2017 11:39 PM
Moving to Personal Readings. IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus Knowflake Posts: 377 From: Finland Registered: Jun 2013
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posted January 16, 2017 09:30 AM
@dreamscomeslowThank you very much for your words. That actually made me feel a little bit better. And you are correct, I am a bit off beat and I think that bothers people. But I have learned to like myself. I just don't like when the people I love get turned off by me. That could be my Cancer sun talking, it really hurts when my loved ones reject me. IP: Logged |
dreamscomeslow Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jan 2017
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posted January 16, 2017 10:46 PM
I'm told I'm offbeat as well. You'll find people who are turned off by it... but I think if you honestly ask yourself if you care, you'll find you don't want to join those people anyways haha. Nothing is wrong with them. It's only natural to want mostly like-minded people as companions is all I mean. And then there are the ones who find your eccentricity or the beat of your drum endearing... don't fret love. Definitely take into consideration everything that has been posted here but remember you don't need to change, you just need to not want to please everyone. Nurture the people who choose to stay.IP: Logged |